We met and fell in love and tied the knot in 2003, we have a lovely daughter who is 30months old. I love my husband and he loves me too but sometimes I feel so angry at him that I dont want him even touching me. He is a good husband but his only problem is he likes to bother me (tickle me,kick me playfully and stuff like that). I have asked him to stop since we met but to no avail...Do you think this feelings has anything to do with his "playfullness"
I really want my husband to pay attention and be sensitive towards my feelings
2007-04-29 14:48:57 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
While he is trying to show you attention it is not in the way you wish it to be. My husband of 30 years used to pick at me in this way. I would say " Grow up ". He would say never...Well he actually did grow up and now I miss his playfulness. Men --most men---do not understand all the love mushiness that we females have in our head. Did you ever see a man reading a romance novel? Probably not. But your husband loves you and is trying to show you this in the only way he knows how. Don't sweat the small stuff hon, you will miss it when its gone.
2007-04-29 14:57:07 · answer #1 · answered by Dixie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you feel he used you in some way? How does he treat you, is he good to you ? How he about money, does he have a job? I ask you these questions because you honestly need to think about the relationship you have now and then think about how you feel about his cheating then. You probably resentment him for the cheating, not so much about the house although I feel that is an issue with you. Just the cheating is enough itself, but throw in the feelings over the house and you not able to get past this at this point in my opinion and I know how you feel with the cheating before or after marriage it doesn't matter, you can forgive him and get past the cheating but I can tell you from my own experience, it will never leave you mind, and it will eat away at you if you let it. My husband cheated on me years ago and we are still married and I will never forget what he did and I resentment him for it to this day and always will.
2016-05-17 05:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've been married a long time and I don't like that kind of stuff either. At least I know now that others feel the same way. He gets angry at me because I tell him to stop, but i get frustrated when he does it. Especially when its groping and stuff, while I am watching tv or just sitting around, I don;t want the kids to see this and then tell their teachers and stuff. I guess eventually, you'll just learn to live with it, it will still bother you but everything can't be perfect.
2007-04-29 14:55:33 · answer #3 · answered by livingadream 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all what has he done besides play with you me and hubby love to play like that its called "Foreplay" or don't you believe in that? we are in our 40 and don't let the small stuff bother us nothing wrong with being playful lighten up don't get your panites all up in a twist sis. Now if he is doing this while your trying to be serious then he must have a problem with being serious and letting out the truth he could just be avoiding it so not to start an arguement and then matters of opinion will start and you all might not like that but if it does just agree to disagree and still love and be happy too its called self respect for each other.
2007-04-29 15:05:36 · answer #4 · answered by bustnloose_2000 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG Sounds like my ex husband. I am sorry I wish I could give you some good advice but if he is the way I think he is then I feel for you. I always wanted him to listen and be caring but it never happened. I mean he was a good person but not what I needed. Now thank God I found the man of my dreams.(As corny as it sounds) Good luck
2007-04-29 14:55:59 · answer #5 · answered by prettyrockangel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it has everything to do with his playfullness, my fiance is exactly the same tickling, poking etc. So i played him at his own game found something that really irriatated him and he didn't like it and realised what can seem fun for one person isnt fun for the other. He hasnt completely stopped but its a start because like you i have nicely asked him to stop before. Good luck
2007-04-29 14:55:38 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people do things to get attention, even if it is negative attention. Because this provokes some response from you, he will continue to do it. He needs to respect you and your need for personal space. I would feel resentful too - don't let him brush your feeling aside or ignore them. You should find something that really annoys him and give him a taste of his own medicine! Best of luck to you.
2007-04-29 15:09:01 · answer #7 · answered by jmc118 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey look I'm guilty of this myself....I'm a teaser...and I know I shouldn't......I personnally love being tickled....I and he should be definately more sensitive to your feelings since tickling is only fun to the tickler if it causes discomfort...You really need to spell it out to the court jester that it REALLY bothers you, i.e. it hurts after a while and it's not fun.....Talk to him
2007-04-29 15:11:57 · answer #8 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that causes resentment, you are gonna have a tough life ahead. You don't even understand the meaning of the word
2007-04-29 14:54:26 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What do you want from him?
I would ask myself and then sit down and talk like an adult about it!
2007-04-29 14:53:34 · answer #10 · answered by Free-Lance 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋