I am 16, proven myself responsible, and yet I have to sit at home every single day and do nothing but myspace or go crazy and gorge myself with food because I am so bored (I'm on homeschool and moved two months ago, so I don't have any friends here). My parents claim they trust me, yet they don't let me go out anywhere. They are over-protective. I'm not allowed to spend the night anywhere.They even have a curfew for my 23 year old sister (11pm, that's how strict they are). They are the reason I pill myself out 'cus I am bored. I don't have the normal parent-child communication with them, so it's hard to approach them and explain things. When I try, they give me their "don't wanna hear it, deal with it" attitude. Why can't they be mature about things? They say what a lazy child I am because I don't help around the house, but they don't realize that's what they've turned me into. When I do willingly clean, they don't even notice.
2007-04-29 14:11:37 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I feel depressed and anti-social and dead, but I know if I they would just have a little faith in me and let me be, I would be such a happy person.
2007-04-29 14:12:36 · update #1
They've driven me to the point where I don't have emotions anymore. Nothing makes me excited, happy, etc. I feel like I haven't experienced anything. I'm 16, this is the time where I have to learn when I make mistakes and have the time of my life and make memories. But no, all I do is sit at home 24/7. Story of my f*ing life.
2007-04-29 14:16:24 · update #2
My parents are not very open-minded about things so what am I supposed to do?
2007-04-29 14:17:42 · update #3
** Break the vicious cycle now **
Promise that you WILL NEVER homeschool your kids.
What parents don't realize is that being "overprotective" causes children to rebel. Heck, the wildest girl I ever met was the deacon's daughter!
ahhhh... good times
2007-04-30 17:47:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound like an extremely mature young lady. So sorry to hear that you are in this situation. I would really start with keeping a journal. Write down how you feel. It may sound pretty lame now but you wont believe how much it helps. Have you thought about getting a part time job. That would show your parents that your more responsible and also get you out of the house. Oh and some extra spending money! Do you have your own car? A part time job would help save up for one. I know how hard it is to talk to parents. Been there done that. Maybe you could write them a letter. Tell them on paper how much your hurting. I wouldnt keep your feelings to yourself. You sound like a ticking time bomb ready to explode. You really need to talk to someone. I would go to your school counselor. Your school counselor could give you ideas on talking to your parents or even help you talk with them. Thats what they are there for. If you dont feel comfortable with that, then go to another trusted adult. Give this new place your living some time. You will make friends soon enough. Do you have any pets? Get a puppy =) Just hang in there. Only 2 more years until your on your own. Then theres a whole new world or troubles to deal with =) I wish you the best. Talk to someone please. You can email me at Eyeb1sillyqte@yahoo.com
2007-04-29 21:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by Luvin_MyLil_Man 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your parents can u go skating maybe with your older sister.
Your older sister is your key right now to get out of the house.
Your parents do seem over protected, but one day u will
be on your own like 2 more yrs if ya want.
Just find activities that do make ya happy.
Here are some good sites.
http://www.zaadz.com
http://www.allposters.com
http://www.drudgereport.com
http://www.webbyawards.com
http://www.careers.com
2007-04-29 21:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by sunflare63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ahh! that totally sucks! i'm so sorry! maybe you could get one of your other relatives or one of your family friends to explain that your parents are actually hurting yout social skills! if i were you i'd delete your myspace because myspace is dangerous and VERY addicting...maybe if you don't have so many connections to the computer you won't feel like lounging so much. maybe you could go jogging? do you have a church or something that you could meet people at?
good luck
2007-04-29 21:20:11 · answer #4 · answered by mle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really need to get some professional help. Try talking to your doctor about a good therapist in town. You are obviously depressed and overwhelmed. If you can, try asking your parents how you earn their trust. BUT most importantly try to get them to take you to see a professional who cah helo with the family.
2007-05-03 20:46:11 · answer #5 · answered by TAT 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you want to see a counselor/therapist, and that you are dead serious. You can talk about these issues with them, and they will in turn voice their concerns with your parents, maybe even have a joint session where your parents are forced to listen. Parents tend to take you more seriously when another adult is involved.
2007-04-29 21:16:10 · answer #6 · answered by Happy Mother of 2! 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
3 words.
Plot.
Your.
Escape.
Study where you'll go to college, learn a language so you can flee to France. Get to know locals in various places, so you'll have friends where ever you flee to.
You're bummed because you're focussed on now. Focus on your 18th birthday, much more fun.
Good luck!
2007-04-30 13:40:15 · answer #7 · answered by Brian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need to do is tell your parents what you think and she if you can come to a resonable aggrement about the situation.
Be calm and just TALK to them, they were teenagers themselves once.
2007-04-30 07:32:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I sit around most of the day, I gots no friends.
If u ever get bored and have nothing better to do, add my msn, and I'll chat with you. ~^^â¥
2007-04-30 13:22:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋