I think it's part of the game that's played -- he is angry that he got caught but blames you for "snooping in his privacy." When I caught my husband cheating, he denied, denied denied and when he finally admitted it, he blamed me for snooping and not giving him privacy. I think its a way for a man to focus the blame on his wronged partner so he does not accept that his actions were wrong.
2007-04-29 18:12:00
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answered by Eve 2
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So he can justify his actions. Trying to make you feel guilty as if it was all your fault that he had to do what he did. Don't accept that behavior from him.I don't care what was going on between the two of you he could have choose to work the problems out, instead he choose to cheat.........and cheating is always a choice...he did it because he wanted to. He felt that he was intittled to it,and he wasn't. He got caught with his hand in the cookie jar. The worse insult about it is he feels no remorse for how much he hurt you and the relationship. He messed it up and wants to convince himself that you are responsible for it, but you are not. He can't be counted on through the good and the bad and his true character has come out. He is trying to over power you and is displaying controlling behavior. When he choose to cheat he put everything at risk including your life because of all the std"s out there. He disrespected you and everything the relationship stood for. He gave no consideration to the commitment you thought that he had with you. He took your love and intimacey that you shared together and made a mockery out of it. He is trying to reverse the entire responsibility on you so that he can feel better about himself so you will carry his shame. He dosen't truly love you and he is hating himself for thinking that he did, and he is punishing you for it. He is imature to be in a real relationship and he is acting out like the childish little boy that he is....and is mad because he was found out that he is not very smart but really stupid......and now he is trying to hold face so you don't see that he is the weak pathatic thing that he is. He is dishonest and has no morals and doesn't like that you now see him for the philander that he is........and the nerve of it all is that he probably feels he has the right to walk back into the relationship with you as if he has done nothing wrong.......and if he slithers his way back like the snake that he is he will strike again to hurt your heart. Run don't walk away from him.... find someone that deserves you and and values you for the good person that you are!!! He is so out of line with his attitude and you are better than this. You will never change him and you never trust him he isn't worth it anymore. Move on in your life and realize he is not good for you because he is bringing you down not up in your world. I am so sorry he choose to hurt you like that. I wish you all the better things in life sweetie.
2007-04-29 21:36:01
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answered by Lindsey 4
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For the same reason a women gets mad at her husband when he catches her cheating.
2007-04-29 13:56:38
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answered by oldman 4
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precise, a woman who's been married and elevating a relatives for 2 many years in basic terms unearths out her husband is a cheater (by using fact cheaters are extremely prolific liars, to the two the different lady and the spouse) and in one day she turns right into a entire drama junkie, a glutton for punishment and loves the discomfort! you think of? supply us a ruin. Naive, perhaps. in basic terms as naive by using fact the component pink meat who believes that she is the affection of this guy's existence and could cling on for expensive existence to the scraps he throws her. Naive by using fact she, the spouse, believes her husband of many years whilst he tells her he loves her and is remorseful? Naive by using fact she took vows and believed that her husband who became status there beside her, took an identical? Naive, perhaps. Betrayed, truthfully. no longer each guy or lady will cheat lower back. each so often whilst they hit the wall (and commonly confident, that could take getting caught) they lose the honour of relatives, toddlers, coworkers and acquaintances. each so often they even lose their jobs. we've considered this ensue repeatedly interior the information presently. each so often they do no longer certainly "get" it till they are caught and are confronted with the idiocy of their movements and the discomfort they have brought about. particular, many wait slightly and sneak lower back available finding for some inexpensive thrills lower back. They restoration blunders and get greater sinister, conceal their tracks greater suitable and warn their pink meat to maintain the down-low. each so often. that is not shrink and dried. you're making judgments on women's judgements on the grounds which you're sitting there residing vicariously by a "pal" that of course has approximately as lots ethical fiber as a peanut. till you have walked the stroll and lived by the devastation and the aftermath from a betrayed important different's journey you're unlikely to understand his or her reactions to the placement from now on than i will understand why a woman could enable herself be some guy's grimy little secret. *****
2016-12-28 04:17:37
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answered by ? 3
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He's mad cause hes not as slick as he thought he was and got caught. He may try and blame you but he was the one who cheated and could cause you serious problems heath wise if he didn't use protection. So let him get mad then go get checked for stds and hiv and send him the DR bill!!!
2007-04-29 13:57:31
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answered by lyttledarlin 4
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LOL so true. My fiance cheated and each time we talk about it he gets mad. It is defensiveness and being put on the spot to explain and own up to being wrong.
2007-04-29 17:23:23
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answered by theartisttwin 5
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He is trying to get control back........putting the blame on you so that he gets off the hook....so to speak.
I have another question that has always fascinated me....
Why is it when men cheat, they want another chance and will never do it again but, if their woman were to cheat on them, they would have nothing to do with her again? Interesting huh?
2007-04-29 14:44:00
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answered by heartwhisperer2000 5
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People like to turn the tables on others rather than face the music.
2007-04-29 13:55:14
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answered by pinniethewooh 6
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Why should that surprise you? It often works. Heck, after that they try the "blame the one you cheated on". That works often too.
2007-04-29 13:58:44
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answered by Anonymous
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It's all out of guilt.He has to blame anyone but himself.It's never their fault! It's the easy way out for them.They can't face the truth !!
2007-04-29 14:08:48
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answered by deblee882 1
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