How can I avoid arguments with my daddy?

Question

It seems to be one thing after another these days. He is getting too strict because he says I am a little too spoiled. My friend's crackpot mom told him to be much stricter with me. I am not going to say how but my older brother thinks that it's funny.

What can I do about a grumpy daddy who has been brainwashed by my friend's zealot mom?

I am 16, he is the only parent I have, and it's getting ridiculous.

Thank you and good day,

Actress - I hope you meant DON'T make wisecracks? He is NOT amused by my wisecracks.

Gussie - I always go to school. I think you are confusing me with Emawee. All of us spoiled kids look alike I guess...lol.

crc - thank you. What happened to your answer to my other question. It was my favorite so far?

All - I think we all can agree we really missed Emawee this weekend. We hope all is well, Emawee.

crc - his concern is that I am EXTREMELY spoiled.

Emawee is being stalked, that is EXTREMELY unreasonable and immature.

crc - your answers are good. Please don't feel you have to delete them.

actress - I will take your advice as long as you will take my probably punishment. Thank you and good day.

crc - my daddy could go on for hours about how EXTREMELY spoiled I am. Yes I like to get my way, I like to pout, scream and cry, I like to tease, and I like designer clothing. But I do it all in a very polite way. Thank you and good day.

All, the pinksocks1993 version of Emawee is the real one. The others are fakes and have been reported. They will be terminated soon by Y!A. Y!A also told me they did a trace and have the identity of the people responsible, and the authorities have been contacted. Sleep soundly, genuine Emawee, tomorrow you will be original again.

Victoria - I did not follow your original advice as it would have probably gotten me into EXTREMELY large trouble. Thank you and good day,

Answer 1

Fathers become overprotective with their daughters because they love them dearly and when you become a teenager, they worry even more.
Just talk to him and be open to him and do things with your Dad and invite your friends over so he can see who you hang out with so he sees what type of friends you hav etc..
If its boys, do the same. Invite them over when your Dad is home.
Communication is the key here.
Be glad you have a DAd who cares. I didn't have a Dad during my teen yrs. and I wished I had.

Answer 2

I was raised by my dad and we argued a lot when I was a teen. We are extremely close now and I was mean to him when I was younger. It must have been hormones or something. lol I'm not really sure what he's trying to do but maybe you should just go along with it for a little while and see what happens. If not, try to talk to him about how you are feeling. He might have some legitimate concerns. Turns out my dad was just worried that I would wind up pregnant at a young age and he didn't really know what to do and he ended up going about it the wrong way and pushing me away when I was younger. I did end up pregnant at 16 (not saying that you will, but it could be a valid concern of your dad's). I grew up and realized what a jerk I was to him and he realized that he wasn't really sure what to do and I also realized that he did his best. He handled it the best way he knew how. I'm not sure I have any great advice, but my bet is that he thinks he's doing the best thing for you. And, you might not agree right now, but you probably will see more clearly when you are a little older. Maybe you guys could work out a compromise. Like I said, I don't know much of what's going on...you didn't really state what he was trying to do and how he's being stricter, but maybe he thinks he has reason to distrust you; then you will have to earn it back. Good luck and I hope things work out well.

Answer 3

Yeah, It sounds like he's getting some bad advice from your friend's mom. Why is he listening to her? You're his daughter. He should be working, and taking care of you - that's it. Not talking to her.
What kinds of things is he getting so upset about anyway? You seem fine to me.
In the future, if you suspect someone is going to be a problem like that, you should subtly turn him against them early on.

Edit: Oh, I'm sorry. I deleted it. I told you I am so indecisive. I was worried it was bad advice and I didn't want my boyfriend to find out I was spending so much time on here telling a 16 year old stuff like that. Talk about not being amused:) But, what do you mean by "extremely spoiled"? You want your way all the time? As long as you're not unreasonable or judgmental, and flexible, there's nothing wrong with being spoiled. Do you mean he gets you everything you want? Well, that's his problem.. just be grateful you know.. and don't really expect things. I don't know.. :)
P.S. I would love your wisecracks.

Answer 4

The best way to get a parent off your back is to be an exemplary daughter - cooperative, obedient, responsible, truthful. When they trust you, they are glad they don't need to police you. It wouldn't hurt if he could see this woman doing something or saying something so utterly ridiculous that he would stop listening to her (but he won't believe it coming from you - he'd need to hear it with his own ears).

Remember - parents are strict because it's a crazy world and they want you to be safe and therefore, happy and healthy. He loves you and he doesn't know how to be a mom. Maybe you can find a better female advisor for him - because otherwise he will gratefully take the advise of the most interested female he knows (because she will tell him the most and seem to be helping).

Peace!

Answer 5

Lori, remember this, when children are born nobody gives them a book on how to properly raise them. I am a father with to daughters, 31 & 20 and I worry about them 24 hours a day. As a parent, you want your kids to have the best in life without the bad experiences you had growing up.Always love your father because he loves you more than you know. No matter what I do or they do, they will alway be in my heart and arms. You just loveon him and show him respect, i guartee he will return the love and respect back to you. It is a crazy world out there and it not getting any better. My youngest daughter has moved back in with us and tells me all the time she glad I was rough on her sometimes because it show how much I care. The love you hold in your heart will overcome any ostacles you may find especially if your heart and your father's heart is united together. Trust me on this one. If my daughters asked me for anything, as long as them showed me true love , I am there for them to the end. Good Luck and listen to your heart !!

Answer 6

Lori you just have to show your dad respect and let him know you are changing.He is aware change does not happen overnight.He wants the best for you.Sometimes the hardest words to say are I love you.Give your dad a hug and let him know you love him.Try to attend school regularly and that will definitely show him you are taking your education more seriously.Tell your dad you appreciate all that he does for you.Remeber if your dad didn't love you he wouldn't care what you said or did.You are a lucky girl .Take care.

Answer 7

Be glad you have a dad that is in the picture I was basically raised by my stepdad and he was very strict and abusive with all of us I saw my real dad every other weekend for two days and my mom worked two jobs to keep us afloat.

Answer 8

therealdad - wrote very well.
There are no laws and guidebooks for good parenting. He is trying to save you from getting in trouble in young age. He do not want to see your life being spoiled.
[ You will get to know when you will be in his shoes-when you will become a parent yourself]

Instead of getting rude and angry with him....and ungrateful [ I am sorry for this word ] - do not try to make him understand...it is hard to convince generation...be it older or new.

He is only parent- better try to understand him with heart not by your wishes and pleasure.It requires patience and understanding....I am sure HE IS A GOOD DAD.

Answer 9

oh crap---he is just being over protective and dont want u going out and getting pregnant like alot of teens did in his generation.
Just respect him , and agree with everything he says whether it sounds good or strict.
U just have 2 more yrs and u can do as u please.
Hang in there gal.

Answer 10

I understand where you're coming from.

I'd ask your dad why it is that, once someone tells him to be stricter, that makes a difference. What if they told him that he should jump off a bridge or something??

And also, DON'T make wisecracks around him. It'll only make things worse.

Good luck, Lori!!

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