I'm broken- hearted...help....?

Question

I just got out of a 6 year relationship. We have 2 kids together and he left me for another girl. The thing is this girl is really ugly. I know looks don't matter, but really she is. She changed her look last week to look just like me( dyed her hair, straightened it, tanned). Anyways...how do I get over a broken heart if I have my kids that remind me of him?? I'm trying my best not to be too upset around the kids, but it is really hard to do. I've been trying to keep busy and go to peoples houses, but all I do is think about him. He left Friday, and I don't know what to do....I miss him, and I know he screwed me over. Maybe, I just miss the fact of him being here, I don't know. I don't even have any friends to talk to, only his mom, which he feels he did me wrong also. Does anyone have any advice for me??

no we weren't playing house. we were engaged to be married. we got together @ a really young age, and he says we just changed as people.

Answer 1

I no exactly what your going through,all though it's been 10 years ago when my husband left me it still hurts my heart.
I still can feel my heart brake in a million pieces when he walked out the front door for the last time.I dropped to the floor and cried.My son was 14 when his dad left so I didn't have to worry about him because he was more interested in his friends then what was going on in his house.My husbands
girlfriend was not only ugly but 10 years older then him,why is that I wonder,why do they aways pick someone that is less
prettier then the wife.It's like men can walk out on their wife and kids and not care.If you want your husband back their is a way and it works every time.I would no because it worked for me.Yes, you do play head games but all is fair in love and war.That whore your husband is with played her little games
toget him away from you,you better believe she knew right from the start he was married. The newness of it doesn't last long and that is when he will start walking in to see what your doing.Remember
you have his kids and his heart and you always will.He just got caught in her web. 6 years together and all the memories will be on his mind. His love he still has for you is just buried
and it will surface. If you want to talk more just e-mail me.

Answer 2

I'm so sorry to hear about your troubles. I pray that I never have to go through something like this. I understand that it must be really hard for you at the moment and I'm sorry. Firstly, focus your attention on your kids. I know that they remind you of him, but you need to get past that and give them the love and care that they need. They will be feeling the stress too and they need their Mum, as their Mum needs them. You are not alone, you have 3 beautiful children. That's good that you are keeping busy. Each minute of each day will be painful. But, it's true that time does heal a broken heart. Right now you have to be strong. As time goes by you will start to adjust and feel better. There will be bad days and good days. Just remember 'it never gets darker than midnight'. Also, try and distinguish between the things in your life that you can control and the things that you can't. Stop worrying/stressing over the things that you can;t control. For example, your ex leaving you. You can't change this fact. You can control your future. Be strong and positive and make positive changes. Talk to a councellor if that would help you. Talking/sharing your problems with others can really help. Best of luck to you sweetheart. Be strong and be a good Mum.

Answer 3

Since this happen recently, you will feel this way, do the kids know what's going on, this is the time when the kids need you the most, do things with them show them that you love them more than ever before. Your pain is nowhere near how your kids pains will be, so stand up straight and give you kids all the love you can give them cuz they need it the most, good luck and best wishes, hope things turn out well for you and the kids, and as for your husband, his lost your gain. Remember the saying, you can always replace your spouse, but you can never replace your kids, always remember that. Take care and may the Lords hand guide you through your tough times......

Answer 4

You call it relationship, not marriage. I advise not having children until you get married, but it's a bit late for that. All you can do is file for and get child support. I'm sorry, but he really hasn't done you wrong, since you didn't have a committed, exclusive relationship. You settled for "playing house" and he got tired of playing. Sorry. EDIT EDIT You can SAY you weren't playing house. Fine. Call it a 6 year, two child engagement if playing house doesn't show enough respect for that relationship you had. Just curious- How long an engagement did you folks plan to have? Perhaps you were waiting until the Grandkids could be there too? Lady you WERE playing house. He got tired of playing.

Answer 5

I snapped the two bones in the two forearms in a airborne dirt and dirt bike crash approximately 10 years in the past. My bike bogged out on the leap, so it did no longer propel me all a thank you to the landing ramp. nostril-wheel hit the returned of the landing ramp, so I went from 30mph to 0mph in 0 ft. I braced for effect by using clutching the grips tight, which finally became what made my hands snap. Left hand touched my left elbow at one element (which i'm oddly happy with). precise forearm became at a ninety degree attitude. looked like i had 2 elbows. nonetheless supplies me the heebie geebies thinking approximately it lol

Answer 6

Well, about the only advice one can give is to say that time heals all wounds. Go out and do what you can to enjoy yourself. Learn to be independent, and maybe someone who will really care will come along. Then you will be glad that he left. Sorry girl.
Been there and done that.

Answer 7

the best thing you could do now is to get on with your life,this hussy sounds as if shes a jealous so an so,meaning that youve got the beauty and she doesnt and she likes your hubby,so she thinks that she will make your life miserable bytaking your spouse away.well she in due time will get her just deserts so dont feel bad,youve got a better life than she does right now,the walls will start to cave in around her soon. mumbles

Answer 8

Join a gym, club, etc.--Develop a hobby. Spend time on you--splurge and pamper yourself. You deserve it and will meet someone who will apreciate all you have to offer. Try reading "The Secret"--hopefully you will find peace and true happiness. It's in any bookstore.

Answer 9

god ,I wish I could be there to help you! I know how you feel same type happened to me, she left me. I will tell you this though, it was never about you. don't be hard on your self.

The link down below may help, with some of you questions, it worked yesterday but was not working today.

I found my stength in Jesus

Answer 10

Hi what’s up, how are u doing? Good, well talking about me, who was so involved in the things of the world? You name it I was there. I messed up my life, I did my way around, enjoyed my life had no clue were my life was leading me. I had no peace in my heart. I tried many places to chase around life to attain peace.
Till someday, someone reached out to me, and showed me, Christ’s. Sin was always on my mind, it was really hard to get my hands off. If u been there u see what I am trying to tell u. God loves you so dearly that he sent his son for you and me, so that we can be saved. If you are going through a problem or battling out an addiction in your life for a long time. I don’t know about u, but God wants to get you out this mess, right now and right away.
If u would like to have peace in your heart. Pray this prayer and ask Christ to come into your life. Pray it out loud, “Dear Lord Jesus I believe you are the son of God. I believe you died for me. I repent to you of all my sins, wash me with your precious blood right now. I ask you to come into my heart. Be the Saviour of my heart & soul. In the name of Jesus I pray Amen”.
Hallelujah Believe you are saved and you are going to heaven. You need not worry about life any more, because Christ is in control of your life. Do share to somebody about your experience and get excited about life, be blessed. I appreciate your time. God bless you, if you want to contact me, be free to mail me at [e-mail]. Remember God cares about your life. You are precious to him.
With Love: Bob