missing him alot, this is his step-dad. he only known him, as his daddy since he was a born. his real dad has no contact with him whatsoever, he seen him maybe once or twice out and about in the neighborhood by accident , I told him who he was and thats it. he gives my son child support monthly, I had to file to get it. and he made no attempt to see him, or visit him my address is on the forms . but to make a long story short, my ex left us recently but do make short visits to see my son. my son kept asking me to contact his father he want to visit him, it is very arward to contact this man out of the blue, I tried it once and it fail! I can see the sadness in my son eyes, I try to make him happy with other things but he still ask for this man. Why? he is marriage, has a daughter, and made no attempt to contact us! I know I got myself in this position and saw it comming down the road, I was seperated from my husband when I got pregnant with my son,
2007-04-29 12:26:40 · 6 answers · asked by birdsdafly 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since your son is 8, I would contact his Father and let him know how your son is feeling, if won't have any contact with him, than not much you can do. What about the soon to be ex? Would he be willing to stay in his life with short visits? If not they have programs at school which help kids like your son. You can't make someone see him if they don't want to, also it is hard for you to see the pain in his eyes, I would talk to someone about this situation to see how it would best to handle it. I'm so sorry he is going through this at such a early age.
2007-04-29 16:00:36 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You're just going to have to deal with the saddness in your son's eyes. His BIOLOGICAL father (a REAL parent is the one who raises the child not the one who supplies the DNA) doesn't HAVE to have contact with the boy if he does not want to, visitations are STRICTLY his choice. He chooses not to visit, at least he pays his child support. So don't be blaming the biological father for the position YOU put yourself in.
Your son still asks for this man because he is the only father figure the child has known in his life. So YOU need to tell your son that this man no longer wants to have contact with either of you. And YOU are going to have to deal with the consequences of YOUR actions all by yourself
2007-04-29 21:54:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You dont need to actually talk at great length with the guy. Simply call him and let him know that his son would like to know him. If he refused such a plea, I would say he isnt worth your son's time & interest. Do you have Partners, or Big Brothers in your area? Either group may give your son the experience of an adult male in his life. Best Wishes
2007-04-29 19:56:56 · answer #3 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you should ask your ex how he wants to deal with his son, tell him he wants to be part of his life and if he does not want this he should be man enough to speak to his son and tell him where he stands because he has a right to knoweven though he is his stepfather , he should think about the childs feeling first especially if he still visits. krissy11
2007-04-29 19:36:12 · answer #4 · answered by tinar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your job because you created the whole situation.
2007-04-29 19:39:33 · answer #5 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
pray, prayer opens the door for God to work in our lives, if you seek God you shall find Him and He will answer you.....Jesus loves you
2007-04-29 20:15:58 · answer #6 · answered by Bert 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋