Recently I've really come to like a man I've known for about 6 weeks, but he doesn't feel the same way and has made it very clear that we don't have a shot at being together. I know in my head that I should be lucky to just have him as a friend and move on, but it's so rare that I find someone like him where I just feel instantly comfortable and happy. What can I do to get myself to stop dwelling on this and feeling like he doesn't like me because I'm just not good enough for him? I know that's not true in reality but I can't help thinking that way. What are some ways I can stop thinking about him and get on with my life? I want to continue to be friends, but how can I get past these feelings I have for him?
2007-04-29 12:07:54 · 8 answers · asked by embryonicreject 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
What more do you have to hear to get it through to yourself that he doesn't want to date you? He's not kidding, he's not going to change his mind. Learn how to take no for an answer or he won't even be your friend. You'll get over it, he's not the last man on earth.
2007-04-29 12:12:58 · answer #1 · answered by Hot Coco Puff 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is a difficult situation. But in a way, it's good that you let your feelings out towards him (or at least it sounds that way). It's out in the open and done with. And like you said, him not wanting a relationship has nothing to do with what kind of person you are. Maybe he just doesn't want to be in one, maybe he is afraid it would ruin the friendship, etc.
The only thing I can suggest, as simple as it sounds, is to just to live life as normal as possible. Go about your goals (school, art, music, jobs, or whatever you are pursuing) and concentrate on other things that make you happy. Someone will come along- in the mist of this.
2007-04-29 12:16:58 · answer #2 · answered by January 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have had friends before and they think I am the greatest thing since sliced bread, because I'm a giver. I give females all the emotional needs of life whether it be a wild night club hopping or a calm night at home. After a couple of week I figured out I couldn't be with them.
I know what kind of person I need and I know he does too if he told you that. I wouldn't tell them either because I know they would try to change, and end up hurting themselves. So I left it like that. He knows what you need to be comfortable and happy..but he probably has things about him he know you couldn't take and doesn't want to put you through that pain....Like a porcupine.
2007-04-29 12:20:29 · answer #3 · answered by brandon m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remember that there are plenty of guys out there waiting for you. I know what you mean when you say you are instantly comfortable with him. I know a guy like that and to get over from having any feelings for him I just looked around more and got out of the house. Keep busy! Don't hang around him as often. And when you are around him don't show any signs of wanting him more than a friend. Hey, he may even miss spending time with you and then it will be his turn to want YOU.
2007-04-29 12:16:54 · answer #4 · answered by Cearabeara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know it sounds cliche' but you want to know how to stop thinking about him?
Just Do It!
If you are having this much difficulty in accepting he has no interest in dating you, it is time to move on, you can't handle the friendship. It sounds as if you would always be hoping the friendship grow into a relationship. Let him go. If it is meant to be, he will be back and it will probable be too late.
2007-04-29 12:20:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mystique 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-14 03:00:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had the same problem with a girl once. I knew she was special, but I realized that she wasn't really worth it. If a guy doesnt like you back, you have to realize that he isn't worth your time then.
It also helped me a lot to just do some fun things and do anything possible that would make me forget about her. It worked.
Hope this helps.
2007-04-29 12:16:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that he told you he doesn't want to be with you or have a relationship with you should be your motivation to move on. Why would you want to be with someone who wouldn't want to make that commitment. You deserve someone who is going to appreciate everything about you and who will actually WANT to pursue a relationship.
2007-04-29 12:14:37 · answer #8 · answered by her 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋