During family 'get togethers' would you agree that the women should do the cooking and washing of the dishes?

Question

I think it is just the natural way of things. It also gives women family members time to bond.

Answer 1

No, I think the women should cook and the men should do the dishes. Or else the men should cook and the women should do the dishes. No one should get a free meal.

Answer 2

WOW, at my family get togethers the MEN do the cooking. Let the women be abd WE MEN can have a good time around the grill having a beer and cooking. The WOMEN on the other hand are watching the kids and doing the woman chit chat thing. And YOU WANT the WOMEN to cook huh? Let me ask you this, If the women are cooking then I guess that means YOU REAL MAN YOU are gonna change the diapers huh. LOL. OK, you do that I'll cook.

Answer 3

In our family the women do the side dishes and the men grill...The kids (we really aren't kids anymore) do the dishes. So it is all split pretty even. And really everyone just sort of does it, not really a conscious thing. We just say this is the theme for the food and everyone brings something and due to the fact that us grand kids couldn't open Christmas presents until the kitchen was clean when we were little....well, it just all kinda works itself out and spread to all other get-togethers.

Answer 4

Sorry ladies I agree. I like to cook and cooking with other women is a great experience. Things get done faster and it is a nice social event. Some of my best dishes came from learning in my ex husbands grandmothers kitchen. She didn't speak a word of English but we learned to communicate in the kitchen. Also, all the ladies got together before Easter and made hundreds of Tamales sitting around the kitchen table. Those are good memories.

Now, we have some good friends that we visit and the guys cook ALL the food. Her husband is a Chef and makes wonderful meals. The women visit on the deck until dinner is ready.

I think it is a shame to have negative attitudes when it comes to family gatherings. Who ever cooks is not very important. It is that your family is together. You never know how much something means to you until it is gone.

Answer 5

It is part of my culture that this is how it is done. However, there are times when the men enjoy helping with the food preparation and we tolerate them as they sew chaos around our organization.

When we have a family gathering here, we often have a minimum of 25. Fortunately, we have a dining room that can easily seat up to 35 without too much crowding. So that is a large group.

Mostly, we women do the food preparation and enjoy the bonding as you put it. It is a good time to do things and chat and just laugh a lot without sitting around feeling lazy. Since all our children are older we do not have the usual distraction of wee ones, unless you include the dogs and their litters.

We all take turns serving when we have large family get togethers and take special care spoiling the elders among us.The last time both young men and women toured around the tables helping us serve ourselves. There is always someone willing to get up and make sure the wine glasses etc are filled. (Perrier for me)

As we go along we keep up with the mess so that it is not horrendous after we are done. Some of us ladies do the clearing and scraping etc and keep that dishwasher going. I enjoy the whole process myself. The cleaning up is fun because by then I am eager to be off my bottom and standing and moving about. And I love feeding the dogs ... we have 3 exquisite standard poodles... little titbits and getting them to do tricks etc.

We all kind of take turns cleaning up and make sure our hostess, my sister in law, does absolutely nothing more than come into the kitchen when it is as spotless as it was when we arrived. BUT, sometimes we get the occasional man who wants to help clean up too and his help is always happily accepted.

Answer 6

When we use to have all the kids and grandkids for Holiday dinners, my husband and I prepared the meal, except for the turkey, at least 2 weeks in advance and froze it. The day they came we cooked the bird and put everything
together. After the meal, the boys said, "alright, you cooked the meal now it's our
turn." Then they kicked me out of the kitchen and they put all of the food away
and did all of the dishes. Every once in a while I would go into the kitchen and
grab a piece of the meat and the guys would all holler. We had so much fun; just
kibitzing and fooling around. I miss those days. We now go to their house.

Answer 7

they arent getting lazier. women in recent times dont cook dinner so as that they are able to have a existence and do interesting issues, like exercising, perhaps, or have a suitable profession and once you artwork finished time you cant cook dinner and sparkling each and all the time. women interior the 'previous days' didnt have lots independence and the international became run by potential of adult men.

Answer 8

How sexist. Would you like us to feed you while we are at it? Are we not intelligent enough to sit and gawk at the TV with the men? I think people should be responsible for their own actions, If you helped dirty the dishes you should help clean them. Furthermore, You are simply condoning a society that separates women, basically saying "you don't belong with us, you are not on the same level." The thinking that Men should bond with men and Women should bond with women is ridiculous. By the way, good luck with marriage, That's gonna be fun for you.

Answer 9

ur in 2007 not the 50's! Women can bond talking after dinner or an activity...and both can clean up after...or clean up together and then socialize with the family. Of course I don't mind doing the dishes if my other half does the cooking...I'd rather clean up. I used to do it all then who feels like being social afterward? Not me I'd rather relax in a bubble bath or go to bed...

Answer 10

It should be both. They don't call it 'womens' get together', they call it 'family get together'. The word "Family" just happens to include males, too, genius. If they both helped, they would bond even better.

Besides, most of these events involve grilling and barbeque. And we all know how much men like to work the grill.