A question for men, why get married these days?

Question

I realize I may have been critical on the subject and so forth but as a man why should you get married? A woman this day and age will cut and run so fast that she makes the American military look invincible. I understand the stats if you want to have kids and so forth, that it is better. But most American women do not want to have children, they view them as little parasites sucking way at all the future items they want. All they view you as the male as a future steady alimony payment. For all of those women who say "I will never leave my man", I say then don't talk to your friends and don't watch Oprah. Because one day, you are going to become to believe that you are a victem, and it is all your husband's fault, and whatever faults he may have youc an use to manipulate the courts and so forth and the aforementioned enablers will brainwash you into hating him. Soplease,gentlemen, enlighten me on why a man, in this day and age wherewomenareequal to men, is justified in getting married?

Answer 1

This is a question you need to be able to answere for yourself.

There are many beautiful female souls in the world. If your lucky enough to develop a relationship with one then you'll open your heart to the romantic notion of marriage.

Answer 2

Well it sopunds to me like you are not ready for anybody to get close to you. Or you are bitter because your ex ran off and screwed you over. Either way many man marry like myslef to have someone in there lives for support love and someone to talk too. I think some people do fine in life being single and having a fling once in awhile, but really it is better to be married to someone that doesn't want rugrats. Then you can just be a couple of DINKS double income no kids which my wife and I have chosen to do and well got myself snipped to make it impossible for no accidents!. Marraiage is justified if you love the person you are seeing and they share the same attraction for you marriage is always something you must do wisely so you don't have divorce months down the road. You must also consider that money may come and go, so money should never be a selling point in marriage only love.

Answer 3

Gee...sorry to hear you've got such a negative attitude, dude.

My posting probably won't convince you to get married, but I can guarantee you one thing - it's all true; no bull$hit, no filler.

First of all, you have a very materialistic view of the world, of women, and of marriage.

If all you're worried about is losing "half your stuff" you're still wading in the shallow end of the pool. Word.

Second, I've seen more than my share of guys who run like cockroaches from the word,"committment."

Most of these guys want "loose shoes," easy sex, and want to keep one foot firmly planted in the back door, just in case things get a little difficult or sticky, so they can bail quickly.

What you need to understand is that it's not really about the word,"marriage."

It's really about whether or not you have what it takes to maintain a happy, stable relationship with ANYONE...whether you're married or just living together.

Do you have a sufficient sense of compromise? When issues come up - as they will - can you communicate and negotiate, instead of turning every little thing into a traumatic situation?

Do you have a sufficient sense of sympathy and forgiveness, or do you hold a person's mistakes over their head forever?

Please believe me, marriage is but a minor detail when you've got a stable relationship going for you.

And one other thing...there are no guarantees in life. You lay your heart - and your money - on the table and you throw the dice. That's LIFE. That's how it works.

If all you want is a sure thing, good luck to you.

Me, I'll take my chances with marriage.

It's been 36 happy years so far...

Answer 4

OMG - I so hope you're not serious. You have just bashed women as the single cause for divorce and break-ups. You have managed to blame woman for everything that makes the world tick!

Okay, chauvinistic pig, here's the deal. Women are not the cause of the world's problems. It's men like you that contribute greatly. You cannot blame marriage break-ups on women or on men. And just for the record, men have just as many rights as women do when divorce happens, so saying women are looking for future alimony payments and see children as parasites is a disgusting attitude and you really need to be slapped upside the head!

I hope you get it bad. I hope you meet someone that really shows you what love is about. I'll look forward to seeing you back on here in 5 years with an apology to all women everywhere and most of all to your wife who has made your life complete!

GROW UP!

Answer 5

I understand that people are stressing the empowerment of women and having them assume that they don't need a man for anything but not all women want to see life in that light. I use to be a career driven women and then realized that I wasn't happy with that life. I didn't become happy until I met my boyfriend although we are not married yet I am very content with him being in charge and wearing the pants in the relationship. All I want to be is a good wife and mother to my future kids and husband and once married I wouldn't ever leave my man under no circumstances, and as far as friends I don't associate with anyone who would be toxic to me or my relationship because that's whats important to me my relationship with my man and either you're around because you support it or I don't associate my self with you, and there are other women out there who feel just as I do you just have to dig a little deep to find them just like a women has to dig a little deep to find a good man.

Answer 6

You sound extremely angry and disillusioned, and your post is full of unfounded generalizations. In addition, you appear to have completely dismissed the fact that there are men, as well as women, who "cut and run" and "do not want to have children."

In addition to responses by other posters, research shows that generally speaking, married men have better physical and mental health than single men. They go to the doctor more (usually because of "nagging" from their wives), live longer, and have a lower rate of many physical and mental disorders. In addition, when men and women divorce, men's financial situations usually stay the same or get better... while women's financial situations either stay the same or get worse.

II will look up articles supporting my statements and update my post when I find them.

Update: Ha ha! Here I am, back with some citations. My quick google search (which you can perform just as well as I can) brings up two issues: 1) is it healthier to be married or single, regardless of gender? and 2) is it healthier FOR MEN to be single or married? It's important to differentiate in the articles. Here are a few citations, in the event that you are really open minded and want some data, vs. just wanting to vent. And by the way, I'm not suggesting that everyone needs to run out and get married. These are just some articles addressing this poster's rant.

Answer 7

Easy!! Have the great fortune to meet the right woman, as I did many years ago, and you will WANT to marry her and she will WANT to marry you. You both will then want to raise a family and that family will be the extraordinarily happy fulfilment of your marriage. You will treasure your wife and children and their children and, when the time comes, you will die a very happy man, with none of those very sad provisos such as, "If I had my time again I would -------"

You will know if and when you meet the woman for you. Be patient and don't prematurely lumber yourself with a misfit, which would be misery for you both and for your children. Misfits are usually artificial glamourous types with a lot of empty yap and no substance. Look for the qualities of life expressed, if any. Don't primarily worry about physical appearance. If her principles and values gel with yours you will find her physically attractive, too. I should know. After serving in WW2 and thereafter meeting many young women who didn't just "fit the bill" I bumped into this little Irish girl. We got married, had a family and, 57 years later, she's as lovely to me now as on the day I met her. Happiness, mate. Easy!!

Answer 8

Alimony??? Cut and run? What the heck...?

Sounds like you had a bad experience.

No one has to get married. It's not a requirement. You don't have to be 'justified'.

And I don't know where you got the idea that 'most' american women don't want children.

Answer 9

I am a wife and I have somethings to say. What about the men who get women pregnant and run like there is a tornado chasing them? I know your answer not all men are like that just some. Well theres your answer. Not all women are money sucking life taking broads. So please stop accusing all women for doing things some women do.

Answer 10

You can cut and run too if you wish.

If you are so paranoid about it, ever wonder why we continue living if we all gonna die anyway? Life is a process, a little different for each person. We all know our ultimate destiny but the process of getting there is why we live, good or bad.