I got intimate with this guy and he wants me to have a baby and I don't want to. In the meantime I hardly see him and I don't want to have a baby at all. I'm probably pregnant now because he pushes himself on me. Well what do I do now?!
2007-04-29 11:16:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
What I would do is get the boyfriend out of my life. If I'm pregnant then i would have the baby because doing abortion is like murder!
After I have the baby and if I can't take her of him/her then I would put him/her in the orphanage. Just do what you think is right.
REMEMBER: God loves you!
2007-04-29 11:35:38 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋
Your boyfriend is an idiot. Dump him. He wants you to get pregnant as a way of trapping you into a permanent relationship with him. It doesn't matter that you hardly see him now - he thinks that if you get pregnant you'll a) stay with him forever or b) you'll always be a part of his life, so he can keep you as a "safety" option if you do break up, playing the "I'm the father of your child, let's be a family" card.
In the meantime, stop sleeping with him. I know it's hard when he's pushing for it and pressuring you, but you can always make something up. I'm sure dropping the phrase "rampant yeast infection" will fend him off. Turn him off from sex at least as long as it takes for you to get yourself to Family Planning for a pregnancy test, STD test, and reliable birth control (pills, not condoms, because they work better and he has no control over a pill you take yourself).
Good luck.
2007-04-29 11:35:40 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, wait and see if you are pregnant. If you are, take him through all the legal processes necessary to insure his taking care of the child financially, at least.
From now until you know, never be in a situation where you are alone with him or can be isolated from the others in a group so that you wind up alone with him.
It is not good for a child to be brought into the world where there is not a loving and stable and mature relationship between it's parents. That is a good argument for marriage before sex.
And that is your safest bet. If you love him, ask him to be able to support you and a child before he asks you to have a baby. And let him know you want marriage.
If you don't want to marry him, you need some support,
some security, and some safety from him.
2007-04-29 11:26:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself some birth control ASAP, and stop seeing that guy in the meantime. He's not thinking about your best interests, so he'd be a terrible father to any child you may have with him. Babies should be planned when you're happily married and both people are ready for the responsibility. Don't let some guy push himself on you. Say NO and mean it. He's disrespecting you.
2007-04-29 11:25:56 · answer #4 · answered by cynthiajean222 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
If he pushed himself on you, that's called R A P E> How old are you? Does this ( boy- firend) have a job? Is he willing to support you and a baby? Did you ever hear of the "Pill"?
You have a real problem, a moral problem, a physical problem, a financial problem and most of all, you have a problem with this nut who got you pregnant.
2007-04-29 11:36:56 · answer #5 · answered by Alfie333 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First, get rid of the loser, change your number, file a restraining order. If you are pregnant and not ready to be a mom yet, there are hundreds of agencies that will happily help and many families that would desperately love to give your baby a wonderful, loving home. I will definitely pray for you. Been there, done that.
2007-04-29 11:23:50 · answer #6 · answered by Heather B 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
He wants you pregnant...why doesn't ask you to marry him first. Besides you do not want a baby right now,
I would go to a doctor to find out and stay away from him.
If necessary, get a restraining order. No man should push
himself on a woman!!!
2007-04-29 11:29:40 · answer #7 · answered by Eve 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, don't have sex with him anymore. Honestly. If you use condoms, he could try to poke holes in them or something to get you pregnant. Second, if he really doesn't respect your desire to not get pregnant right now, he's probably not the kind of guy you want to stay with. I know he's your bf and you obviously care about him, but don't do something you don't want to do-especially not something as huge as having a baby.
2007-04-29 11:20:58 · answer #8 · answered by Freaked out 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The only reason to have a baby is because you are in a stable happy relationship, or want to have a child.
No other reasons suffice.
You have to think, come three years time, if i am alone, will i want this child?
2007-04-29 11:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
. If he dont have time to see you and you decied to be pregent , he must be a real *** sry. Go and get a test done , if you are pregent and not decied to keep the child you can get a aborshin . If you decied to keep the child he have to pay child support untill the child is 18 years of age. He should not have to pushes him self on you what a jurk.
2007-04-29 11:34:38 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋