Partners and husbands during pregnancy?

Question

How have everyones partners and husbands been treating them / helping during pregnancy?

Answer 1

My husband was wonderful during my pregnancy, and I am eternally grateful. We were only 19 and 20 at the time, and it was very stressful because I was sick and could not work and he had lost his job because both our vehicles broke down in the same week. Our families made life very difficult for us by being negative and unsupportive. My husband was my safety and love in the storm. He took care of me, stood up for me, and loved me unquestioningly. He cuddled me, assured me I was still beautiful, made mid-night Slurpee runs for me, felt the baby kick, talked to her, read with me, helped my butt up off the couch, and didnt tease me when I had to pee all the time, lol. He really surprised everyone because he seems like a "tough guy" at first glance, but when it comes to me and our daughter he is exactly the kind of man we need him to be. He was also wonderful about my changing body. Although I felt like a whale, he never failed to express that he was still, if not more, attracted to me. I count myself as very blessed when I listen to my friends who have unsupportive, emotionally disconnected, sexually disinterested, etc., husbands during and/or after their pregnancy. I do my best to be there for them, but no one can replicate the wonderful experience between the two people that created a child.

Answer 2

When we found out I was pregnant my partner decided it wasn't for him. He wanted a year to decide if he wanted to be involved. I gave the the choice to be a part immediately or not at all. He chose immediately and was there throughout the pregnancy and after. The problem was he was only there for the baby, he wasn't there for me, so in answer to your question. If you don't love your partner, allowing them back in your life for the child seems like the right thing on the surface, but life is so much harder now than if I were going it alone. My son loves his dad, but he is constantly disappointed. His dad doesn't call for three days because it's not 'his'time. He doesn['t support the things my son wants to do. Things between his dad and I are strained and occasionally erupt into nasty scenes. None of this is good for my son. If I had it to do over I sould have let him stay away like he initially wanted.

Answer 3

My husband has found my body fascinating throughout the process, now for the third time. He tries to anticipate cravings, buys heaps of anything i might say i want once. Gets up before me in the morning, gets the kids fed and ready, has a cuppa waiting for me. Runs me a scented bath after i knock off work at night and i knock off at midnight sometimes. Cleans the house while im at work. Rubs my back and feet. Hangs out the washing when my back hurts too much to bend over and stretch up. Takes the kids out when i want a nap. Fuels up my car coz i cant stand the smell. There are also a heap of other small things he does for me, and the best thing is he tells me im 'a super sexy pregnant lady'. I just hope he keeps this up for the other 5 months, he did with the other 2 pregnancies.

Ps, he works away, but is home one night mid week and saturday night through to monday morning.

Answer 4

my husband has a job where he is away for a month or more at a time, but he calls 2 to 3 times a day to see how I'm doing and to tell me he loves me. When He's home he cooks and helps clean and this time when he comes home he is going to start working on painting the baby room and putting that together :). Hes a great husband. I'm very lucky.

Answer 5

My hubby will be a first time dad at 44. He was an only child. He never imagined being married or having a baby. He doesn't really know how to react, so I have to tell him a lot of things. Had some issues because he couldn't understand morning sickness and me not feeling like doing things. Now, I'm big and bending isn't fun, so he's taking on a few more chores, but he's at least understanding now. He'll put his hand on my belly and feel baby kick, but he gets so nervous.

Answer 6

This is our second baby so hubby already knows, he better give me some slack. lol. I've had a really hard pregnancy this time, so hubby doesn't care if the house gets a little messy or I buy take-out every day of the week. He's a little lax on the backrubs or helping me get socks on, but he always does when I ask!

Answer 7

My hubby has been great. He has not expected me to do ANYTHING (aside from going to work) since I have been pregnant. He has catered to my cravings, and has rubbed my back a lot. He's even gone to the store in the middle of the night to get heartburn meds for me. I couldn't have asked for someone better. He has not missed but one doctor's appointment, and put together all of the baby's things as soon as we got them (he's so excited. It's cute).

My first pregnancy was the opposite, though. My ex was mean to me, yelled at me, didn't work or do anything at all, and I had to do EVERYTHING while working and going to college.

God blessed me with my husband. Most women don't get as lucky as I've gotten.

Answer 8

When we first found out he was very un-supportive. I was scared it wasn't going to work out between us, but I decided to wait it out and hope he would come around. Now, his attitude is completely changed. He is helpful, he makes food, he massages me when I'm not feeling well, he's put up with holding the bag while I puke, and has handled being thrown up on way better than I probably could. Oh and he doesn't complain when I complain all day about every little ache and pain. I'm lucky to have him.

Answer 9

We split at 4 months. He has been mean and rude and hurtful the entire time since. He has denied his baby and pretends that I dont exist when he sees me woddle past him.
But, I have a fantastic support team from family. He will be the one who misses out and will have to face his demons someday when it comes to his son.
Good luck and congrats.

btw: We split because he shot up the house one night during an arguement. That was the first and last time I ever seen him react this way. Only took me once. I caught him cheating and confronted him, that was my reward. Complete guilty behavior huh? lol And now hes denying his baby....lol Dont get much better than that.

Answer 10

I'm not pregnant now but when I was my hubby was always very helpful, and especially after our son was born because I had a C section. He had to do the cooking and cleaning for a while, as well as getting whatever we needed because I couldn't walk upstairs.