The guy is married as well but you don't have any feeling's for him whatsoever. I Love my spouse very,very much that you can't put in words. I just got good in my marriage with my spouse after a fews months of problems. Should i add this kiss to the items of problems we had to make what's good bad, again. I Asked for Gods forgiveness and i feel in my heart that he did forgive me for my sins. So please tell me what should i do if you was in my shoes.
2007-04-29 09:48:02 · 37 answers · asked by God's Child 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
O.K. I am going to be honest here. You should NOT tell your husband. Though it was wrong, you prayed about it and asked for forgiveness, so don't let it happen again. The reason I say you should NOT tell your husband is because your marriage will probably be over. He will no longer trust you and if you decide to tell him it will cause a lot of problems and again trust will be out of the window. Men can't take it when their spouse or girlfriend cheat on them (ego thing). So, just don't let the kiss happen again and move on with your life with your husband.
2007-04-29 09:59:07 · answer #1 · answered by stergre1975 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
From the way it sounds this was one of those romantic open mouth kisses. You have to be honest with yourself here, you only allowed that man to kiss you because there was some attration there, you said you and the husband had problems but you don't way what, were they problems with intimacy? Something allowed you to allow someone else to kiss you and you need to dig down and find out what that was and work on it so that it won't happen again. Now you said you have previous problems and I tell you what, if there was no way my husband could find out I kissed this man, I would take it to my grave. You've told the right one "God" and you have asked for forgiveness now move on. In this case, this is not a good time to open up and tell because its going to make matters worse. Cherish your marriage and no matter how things look good or bad, please don't let anyone come between you and your husband. Good luck to you and I feel you won't cheat again, stand up and be the good woman that you are and live up to the vows you and your husband shared. Good luck to you
2007-04-29 10:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Pegi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow!! this is a tuffy** anyway If I were in your shoes I would feel the same.. this is the thing If it was not a romantic thing then leave it alone, dont make it bigger than what it is, and yes you asked God to forgive and God can forgive you without a doubt ..but if you are felling guilty with what happened obviously you will be living unhappy because only you know if you should tell him your concious will let you know, if you do though dont wait too long because that can make it worse, and if there is a way he can find out then you should confess. Good Luck dont do it again!
2007-04-29 12:03:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you get into a situation where a guy was in a position to kiss you? It's good you don't have feelings for this guy, but what was happening that he was int he ficinity to kiss you?
If you do not tell your partner that this guy kissed you, he could find out from someone else and that would be far worse than the fight that could possibly come down the pike by telling him. You need to tell him. Start out with a re-enforcing statement like "I love you very much and I have something to tell you because I need you to know that I'm being up front and honest with you. This guy did kiss me, but it meant nothing to me. I have told him this is unacceptable and it will not happen again. I wanted you to hear it from me. I love you and only you."
As for this married guy, again, don't EVER let yourself get into another position where he has the opportunity to kiss you. Tell him under no circumstances can that happen again and mean it. Then, stay away from him!
2007-04-29 09:55:12 · answer #4 · answered by Shannon H 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is a tough one, you could keep it to yourself but then you may feel wierd because you are keeping a secret from your husband. You could tel , but then as you stated you just got the problems out of the way. To me honestly not telling would just be the easy way out of it but down the line would cause more problems. The hard way even though hard is the best wa y, I would tell, yeah you have to go through a whole mess of drama, but at least down the line it will not come back to bit you in your but. I think maybe if possible I would do it with both couples present or go to therapy so that you could have a mediator there, and also an unbiased opinion. I hope that I helped and your husband has a forgiving nature.
2007-04-29 09:54:15 · answer #5 · answered by Danielle 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If I were in your shoes, I would not tell him. Yes, it was wrong for you to kiss another man but you have asked for forgiveness from God. Just don't allow yourself to kiss some other man or allow someone to come between your marriage. Since things has gotten on the right track between you and hubby, leave it that way. Don't tell him, he will no longer trust you and as any spouse you couldn't blame him.
2007-04-29 10:06:41 · answer #6 · answered by Shay 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In the long run telling your spouse is the better option.
If you didn't tell him and down the road he found out some other way, it would be ten times worse. If you tell him now, he'll be upset about the kiss. If he finds out later, he'll be upset about the kiss AND that you lied to him (not telling is a lie of omission).
2007-04-29 09:53:54 · answer #7 · answered by Vita 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am married, and if my wife did not tell me i would really get mad when i found out, and it would definitely be over. If she came to me, and told me the truth then yes i would get mad about it, but i would get over it, and move on as long as she did not give me a reason to think that she was actually cheating on me.
Think about it this way ( What if he tells his wife while they are arguing, and she calls to talk to you about it. Your husband finds out from someone that is upset. He might think that it went further than a kiss by the time that he gets to talk to you about it, and then it is over.)
If he really loves you, and wants you then he will find away to forgive you, and you will feel better because it is no longer something that you have to worry about telling him.
2007-04-29 10:11:17 · answer #8 · answered by white_cowboy_1985 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OK, if you really are sorry for what you did, then you need to dedicate yourself now to your husband, don't put yourself in a position where another man can kiss you. Stick to your husband, love him and make it work. Or if you are out with your pals, stick to them. If you are honest and your marriage is strong, explain it to your man. Maybe something is missing in your own relationship that you felt for that moment you could get it from someone else? Iron this issue out as early as you can. Nothing excuses it.
2007-04-29 09:54:32 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
IMO to have utter trust in you hubby needs to be told. What of some third party saw it and told your husband.. then he'd feel that you were keeping things from him and lose trust in you. Be honest and tell the truth, it will wear on your conscience if you don't.
And put the shoe on the other foot, what if this were him, would you want him to be forthright with you or keep it secret?
2007-04-29 10:45:48 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋