I was walking to the cafeteria, and I noticed a young man in a wheelchair struggling to push himself up a hill. I know people who are wheelchair bound like to be independent. But I didn’t want to pass him without offering my help... I would have been glad to help, but he said, "No, I'm fine... thanks". I just didn’t want to offend him, by passing and I didn’t want to offend him by asking. And I try not to treat them differently but if I see anybody struggling I want to help. Do you think I may have offended him?
2007-04-29 09:23:46 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
I think that was very kind of you and I am sure he appreciated it as much as I did when I had my leg broken as it is very hard to get around in a wheel chair and thank you for being a wonderful person.
2007-04-29 09:28:34 · answer #1 · answered by Gypsy Gal 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I always offer to help if I think I see someone in need. If they are offended by a genuine offer to help, then that indicates a problem on their part. I think you did the right thing.
The reverse view - don't offer is what leads to a society not caring about each other. This eventually leads to situations where hatred and violence can grow against different groups, because the populace has grown appathetic.
So keep offering to help. If they get angry, just say
"I'm sorry you are offended by my genuine offer to help someone who I felt might need assistance. I hope that your negative reaction does not lead society to think that offering help is wrong. Good bye and God bless you!" Then walk away. Hopefully it will make that small minority of people think.
2007-04-29 09:30:09 · answer #2 · answered by Ray M 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
As in many similar situations, it is the attitude that determines if it is offensive.
A quick and casual 'need a hand?' like you might offer a person without a disability but who's hands were full is usually OK.
The condescending "oh you poor guy, does you'sum needum pushies?" attitude hurts.
Of course, there is always the guy having a bad day, or the guy with a bad attitude himself who will take offense no matter what, but usually it is not a big deal.
2007-04-30 11:48:51 · answer #3 · answered by Madkins007 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-29 17:02:04 · answer #4 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not rude, I did the same thing for a woman with a walker (she was middle aged) I opened a door for her because she also had some laundry (it was at a laundry mat) she went to get some more laundry and I opened it a second time, then she seemed offended. I didn't help her anymore, not because I was mad..P.S. some get offended, some don't
2007-04-29 09:33:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No he thanked you so I don't think it offended him. But that
is a tough question because I know there are some
people who do get angry if you offer help. And then there
are others who appreciate it. I'm like you I like to offer
help if it looks like they need it. Usually they say no but
thank you for asking.
2007-04-29 09:30:05 · answer #6 · answered by chmar11 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You did the right thing, we all can use a little help now and then. Your good deeds will come back to you at some point in your life
2007-04-29 09:47:01 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hopefully not, and if you did, it could be his issue rather than yours.
We have somebody at work in a chair. When I get to a door, I normally just say "Shall I wait?", as that gives them the option.
2007-04-29 09:28:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'd ask first, some of us have to much pride to ask for help concerning anything (getting up that hill)
2007-04-29 09:42:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. But, don't press if they have said "no thanks" already. You did right by what I see here.
To the person who said, who gives a.... There is no need to use that language, who cares is bad enough.
2007-04-29 09:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by bereanbaglady 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋