I do everything in my means ( and sometimes beyond our means) for our daughter. she totally dis respects me. When I try to make her mind it does no good. my husband can be standing right there and will not say or do anything. Then when he does say something he makes me the one to blame. I dont know what to do, I feel so alone.When I went to bed last night I prayed that I would not wake up this morning, but unfortunatley I did. I just do not know what to do!!!!
2007-04-29 08:35:30 · 10 answers · asked by sandrajj67 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you need to ignore her....when she needs something, she'll be good.
2007-04-29 08:39:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's very unfortunate that your husband will not support you when it comes to your daughter. Your daughter knows this too, which will make matters worse. There is no good reason for your daughter to disrespect you, ever. I can only suggest family counseling for the three of you but I'll bet your husband won't support you in that either. Take your daughter with you & find out why she is behaving this way towards you. Your husband needs to step up to the plate & support you. By doing so, he will be giving you the respect you deserve. Please, this matter can be worked out. It's not worth not wanting to live by any means. I wish you all the best. :)
2007-04-29 08:45:47 · answer #2 · answered by Shortstuff13 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should try doing more things for yourself!! Become a little more independant and get involved with new friends and show your Husband and Daughter that you don't need them too much they might change their tune.Maybe plan to take atrip together with your new friends, go to a spa getaway for a weekend and maybe plan to get together with your friends 1 or 2 nights a week. That will make them think!!Maybe if your husband and daughter see that your starting to be more independant and are getting involved with new friends they may feel left out and therefore may try to gain your respect back.
2007-05-03 04:17:42 · answer #3 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When it comes to raising children, both parents should be a team, a united front. Even if you disagree on how to act, keep it between the two of you and do not disagree in front of the child.
Your daughter is at a difficult age, and she will need lots of guidance. If your husband does not agree with you, you need to talk to him and see what is going on!
It is not good that she sees that dad supports her and mom doesn't; or that she doesn't have to respect you because he doesn't do it either.
You sound depressed, and that is harmful. Seek help and get therapy soon. Good luck! Hope you feel better...
2007-04-29 08:47:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to step out of the way and let him lead at his pace. IF you take over he'll just let you. You have to let him do his job and stay out of the way and let him handle it.
Here's what I would do. I would not say anyting in front of your daughter. I would take him one on one and go to him and tell him that your daughter is being disrespectful to you and tell him what she's doing. And then leave it up to him as to how he's going to take care of it. But it depends on the man. If it were me, no kid of mine would talk bad to my wife, there would be hell to pay for that. Nobody would get to mistreat her. And while my wife was alive, I didn't put up with any grief from anyone.
What happens is that things don't happen fast enough so women take it upon themselves to do things.. You can't do that. You have to let him deal with it in his time. If he doesn't do it the first time, then you can ask him several times, but you can't expect him to do it in your time you have to allow him to lead and do it in his time. He's a man, he's not a woman.
some men need a kick upside the head. You just have to keep praying. It's God's job to take him to the whipping shed, not yours.
You can believe I understand this kind of thing.
Keep praying, don't lose heart. Things are set up this way for a reason. It's hard. Very hard.
Don't take abuse from your daughter. Don't take a bit of it.
If none of this helps then try to get some professional counseling or ministerial help for her.. Sometimes all kids really need is a diversion .. i.e. where they care more about this or that activity than they do about causing trouble with you. Like a sport or something.
They just have too much energy and they need to channel it somewhere.
There's no reason to disrespect anyone, and I wouldn't accept any disrespect. I'm upset that your husband tolerates it. Most men want to avoid conflict at all costs.
But you have to defer to his leadership, you just have to. There's no other way. That;s not meant to devalue you, you have lots of value, but he has to step up and be a man.
It's amazing to me the men nowadays who aren't acting like men.
hope I helped you. you can email me if you need to.
Remember your job is to stay out of the way and let God beat him up. Don't you show any disrespect at all to him, and don't step in and do his job or he won't do it. IF you are in the way God won't get his attention. Give it time, God will get his attention.
2007-04-29 08:52:24 · answer #5 · answered by art_flood 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stand your ground and tell your husband one of you has to be the responsible parent and he fell down on that job a long time ago.
2007-04-29 09:19:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore your husband even if he isn't helping u keep right up with telling ur daughter to act right!
2007-04-29 08:42:25 · answer #7 · answered by $$$$$$ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you asked him why? i tend to think he agrees with your daughter, and the fact that you're not telling us why she doesn't respect you makes me think i wouldn't either.
2007-04-29 08:40:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ask your husband why he is like this...
2007-04-29 08:39:43 · answer #9 · answered by Denvir 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to your husband.
ask him why he is being that way.
tell him to be more serious about all this.
2007-04-29 08:42:27 · answer #10 · answered by love<3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋