Is a man really able to fight his feelings? my Fiance and I are having big problems with his divorce,it just draggs on forever and since I'm in Germany while he is in WA it's pretty tough..I can't spend time in the US all the time simply because I dont have the money to fly over all the time,because of my son and because he's living with friends of his.Now he's giving up on me because he says even when the divorce is finally done (and nobody knows WHEN that will be) it still takes 6 months for me to come to the US for good due to the Fiance Visa..He tells his family and friends he loves me and doesn't want to lose me,but yet he refuses to even speak to me.He said it would hurt him too much to see me leave again and made me cancel my flights.........Can a man really fight his feelings because problems are getting too much to deal with and theres no light at the end of the tunnel?????
2007-04-29 03:48:44 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I can not start any paperwork until his divorce is final.Thats the whole point and why theres no end in sight.....
2007-04-29 03:56:47 · update #1
it's not that he doesn't WANT to spend time with me.We simply cANT because I can't just spend 3 months in the US,we cant afford that.And he is a Truck Driver and can't just come to Germany.
2007-04-29 03:59:27 · update #2
I can see his point of view. It's very tough going through a divorce and keeping a long-distance relationship. If you want to be with him, start the paperwork to move here permanently. That way he'll know that you're committing to him, and he can focus on his divorce. When you do move here, he'll be glad and you both can build a strong relationship. Good luck.
2007-04-29 03:54:39 · answer #1 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the truth is he doenst really dig you. it seems there are a lot of hassels to deal with you and this poor guy is going through a divorce so his life is mess.
When a guy really digs a girl he will stop at nothing to be withher. You would be with him already. But this guy maybe also be under so much stress that you just have to give him time to breath and maybe you are too invovled with him andhe just needs some space. Gosh I'm getting flash backs.
Remember action always speak louder than words. if i person tells you they love you but then they dont want to spend time with you then guess what maybe theyd on't really love you.
2007-04-29 03:56:00 · answer #2 · answered by frank_d22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For one thing the fiance (K-1) visa may take longer than 6 months. It is much tougher for legal immigrates into the U.S. Divorce in the u.S. typically isn't such an unknown and isn't lengthy. If he isn't prepared to put in the effort to have you with him then you may be better to forget him.
2007-04-29 04:00:48 · answer #3 · answered by dano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Answer to the heading.
Is a man really able to fight his feelings.
It does not matter if he or he cannot fight, what is important is why are you not able to fight it.
What is the tunnel, what is it you seek, is it selfishly sort after, all answers lie within you. Seek it honestly.
2007-04-29 04:15:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
fighting your feelings is very hard to do,.....when my wife of 24 years, died, i could hide my feelings for a time, but as time passed, my friends begin to see through the mask i was wearing,.....
2007-04-29 03:55:26 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋