We have been happily married for a year. He only seems flirtatious with one of our friends who is engaged. I know deep down he would never cheat on me but my mind wanders & thinks the worst. I dont like being the one in our relationship to always have a problem with jealousy & start the arguments. I want him to be more attentive when we are out with friends to boost my confidence.
2007-04-29 03:06:44 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look, he married you, so how much more of a compliment do you need?
If you keep this up, you're going to push him right out the door. And if you bring this up constantly, you are probably pushing him away from you emotionally.
You know he isn't going to cheat, so let it go. He's just having fun with a girl that's about to get married.
2007-04-29 03:12:10 · answer #1 · answered by Ella 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should not be flirtatious when he is with you...period. You and him are married and his friend being engaged has nothing to do with the fact that he is tactless. When you are out with a loved one he should be flirting with you....at the very least NOT flirting with anyone else. Although he might not realize he is doing it at all if that is how he all the time...is it? Just ask him...not about cheating or anything...whether or not he realizes what he is doing. if he starts to get upset like you are accusing him of something, just say it is hard to be sitting right there and he is paying attention to someone else. He should be open to helping you feel less out of the loop...afterall, you are with HIS friends...he should go out of his way to make you feel comfortable. Good luck.
2007-04-29 03:23:38 · answer #2 · answered by superwmn315 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think it's understandable that you would be jealous over this.
However, maybe it's something to think about that he only flirts with one girl who is engaged. Perhaps the fact that since he is in a comitted relationship, he thinks it's okay to flirt with her because she is also in a relationship.
I think I would be more concerned if he was flirting with a friend who is unattached.
You said that you know he would never cheat on you.....then why be so insecure?!?
If it really makes you feel uncomfortable then talk to him about it!! Maybe he'll understand if you don't come across as trying to argue!
This is just a tough situation, and I completely understand how you feel. I'm definitely the jealous type as well. It's just something you're going to have to talk about. But if that doesn't help, then it's a battle you'll have to solve with yourself.
But again, you said that you know he'd never cheat on you, so DON'T let this eat away at you too much!!!
2007-04-29 03:17:41 · answer #3 · answered by jezyka 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe he likes the fact that you get jealous when he flirts with her. Maybe to him this shows how much you Love him. If you have been happily married for a year I wouldn't start anything to jepordize it. What if you gave him a taste of his own medicine? Start flirting with someone you both know. See how he reacts! You both might be able to solve this problem. Keep the lines of communication open. Good Luck!! PS. shes engaged so I'm sure its harmless!!
2007-05-03 02:39:03 · answer #4 · answered by 24Special 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't drink when you go out. No person can boost your conffidence only you have that power.If you allow that person that authority over you then you are giving them the power to influence your emotions etc. If you feel jealous then you may need to probe further there may be fire behind the smoke.
2007-04-29 03:15:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to you 100%. I get the same way but is think it has alot to do withy our insecurity issues and being hurt in the past etc. Plaese try to trust him and not bring ur issues with this relationship. I'm trying also but it's a process. Also when ur drunk, you sometimes imagine things lol. try to drink only to ur limit so you wont have these problems in the future. you don't want to lose a good man. They are very hard to find these days =)
2007-04-29 03:13:48 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whoop whoop...red flag..alarm....you're using him to build YOUR self confidence....why do you need him for your own problems. Self confidence comes from within not external...you need to take stock of your strengths and weaknesses and thank God he made you the way he made you. Everyone has their strengths...do look to other people for your own self worth b/c you're gonna be looking for a long time......it's sounds like you're needy...jealousy will only drive him away.....trust me...
2007-04-29 03:21:02 · answer #7 · answered by prouddaddy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ummm.. to procure to comprehend that this is common to chat to the folk of opposite intercourse. this is healthy n makes a guy confident approximately himself. So, to end being jealous, you will desire to comprehend what it feels desire to be in his place. i wager you haven't any longer have been given many guy acquaintances, do you? i advise you bypass obtainable n consult from adult men, chat up, stay it up. i'm no longer asking you to flirt around, purely be of their organization, slowly you would be ok along with your guy talking to women.
2016-10-04 02:12:18 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop drinking like others said.
and flirting wont lead to cheating? stop kidding yourself, actions lead to thoughts that lead to other actions, a year and you've already forgotten the flirting game?
sorry i guess you should have married a more attentive guy.
2007-04-29 03:22:32 · answer #9 · answered by Technical Difficulties 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
this jealousy will destroy your relationship if you don't get it in check. Just have a talk with him about it for starters.
2007-04-29 03:45:38 · answer #10 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋