I don't believe so because as years go by, you make mistakes and learn hopefully from them and work on yourself and hopefully "change for better". We can not blame always what has happened in the past , can we?
2007-04-29 01:32:28 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
To Max: Aren't you and me saying the same thing? Am I not understanding?
2007-04-29 01:57:10 · update #1
Yes Haroula, you did spell it right! LOL!
2007-04-29 03:52:05 · update #2
I think that your upbringing has a partial effect on your life. But I agree with you when you said that you could change for the better.
2007-04-29 01:39:53 · answer #1 · answered by Meeya 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I had a very strict upbringing, and in my early 20's I developed a rebellious streak, moved into my own place, then my boyfriend moved in, whom my mother hated. A few years later, I got pregnant, he left me, and I had to move back home. If I had listened to my mother, my life would be different, because I wouldn't have my son, but I would never change that, because he made me a better person, and I realized that my mother was just doing what was best for me in her eyes, because I'm the same way with my son. I believe that if you don't have some kind of structure, then things can fall apart later on.
2007-04-29 01:41:44 · answer #2 · answered by Evil Girl Geniuz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no, and that sickens me when people use that as a crutch.Look at people like Dave Peltzer or Whoppie Goldberg or Judge Mathis for that matter, they used their "obstacles" to make them better and stronger. Very often we are products of our environment but there comes a point where we need to take responsibility for our own choices-good AND bad.Undeniably tho the events that happen to us when we are being raised, sway us to feel one way or another and if it has been effective, usually we continue in that mind set.I work with elementary school children that have behavior issues, I'm hoping to learn more so I CAN make a dent.I must believe it can work otherwise, it's all for naught.
2007-04-29 02:03:32 · answer #3 · answered by little lu-lu 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think your upbringing has a great deal to do with how you look at life. I was blessed, absolutely BLESSED with an idyllic childhood. My many friends who were not so fortunate have personal demons which are different than mine. Nevertheless, we all have to run the race. We may start and end at different points, but we only have to answer for how well we've run, not when we've finished.
But it is juvenile to blame your adult inadequacies on your upbringing. The whole idea of Being an adult is responsibility for your own actions.
2007-04-29 01:44:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Only in a few ways, I was taught to treat others as I wish to be treated, I was also taught to show respect and to be respectful of others, yet I was ALSO taught to hate, to be a bigot and THAT didn't stick. Certain events in my childhood did help shape me into who I am today, but since I basically raised myself from the age of 6 on, I raised myself to be free thinking, speak my mind and not fall into the pattern of bigotry that consumes most of my family. That is for narrow minds, not open ones and mine is very open. Many try to blame their past for their bad behavior as adults but I say there comes a time when we all must take responsibility for our own actions, blaming the past just doesn't cut it. You'll find no pity parties in my home, or in my heart. We are who we CHOOSE to be and I chose to be different from those who set bad examples.
2007-04-29 01:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by Daydream Believer 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The reason I disagree with you is for the reason you stated. I was raised in an atmosphere where we were allowed to make mistakes and learn from them. If we did something wrong, it was discussed and remedied. No experience was a bad one as long as we learned something from it. I have continued to live my life on that premise. My upbringing and the influence of my parents make me the person I am today.
2007-04-29 01:38:36 · answer #6 · answered by PariahMaterial 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i believe so!let me explain:i was taught respect,honor,not to lie and other morals!sure i made mistakes,sure i disobeyed!!but the values that were instilled in me will never leave!and i DO think that and my own experiences have made me the kind of person i am today!!
just remember my friend,what you teach your children will stay with them for a lifetime!!
ciao!<---did i spell that right!?:)
2007-04-29 02:51:31 · answer #7 · answered by ....FED UP............ 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Work on yourself...see thats the step I keep missing
2007-04-29 01:36:20 · answer #8 · answered by Rob 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES, I do believe that up bringing you get growing up plays a big part.
2007-04-29 01:35:46 · answer #9 · answered by GRUMPY 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you make certain choices b/c of ur up bringing
during your past years, you experience and learn the values that will move on w/ u.
2007-04-29 01:47:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋