Is everything or anything fair in love and or war?

Question

Is nothing unacceptable in the two most noble arts?

Answer 1

War is fear projected as hate.

Love is our natural state if fear is seen as the unreality that it is.


A long time ago I thought that love was something that you reserved for some special set of people that you had judged worthy of it.

After a while I got to thinking about what Jesus had said about turning the other cheek and loving our neighbor I put the two together and realized that he had made no exceptions in these statements. It became obvious to me that he intended that we exclude no one from the love that we are supposed to be giving. I started thinking about my idea of love and suddenly realized that I had not been loving anyone at all. I had simply been judging everyone and every thing.

Judging someone worthy of love is not love, it is only judgment. I actually started to cry when I realized this. I saw just how much of my life I had wasted being judgmental, thinking of myself as a Christian, when I was actually doing just the opposite of what Jesus had asked us to do.

I thought about the verse judge not lest ye be judged, and I understood it for the first time.

I realized that I have a lot of catching up to do. So many opportunities were wasted. I now try to apply the love that I have for the world in a universal way like Jesus asks us to do.

If I start to feel afraid and think that I see someone that I should not love because of something I have thought or heard I try to catch my mistake as soon as possible. I tell myself that I have forgot the truth and have fallen for the same old trick that had cost me so many opportunities to be loving in the past. The horror of this realization is often all that is necessary to bring me back to my senses and make me drop the judgmental nonsense I was thinking.

I still have a lot to learn about love, but at least I’m making progress.

Love and blessings

Your brother
don

Answer 2

nope. i see that as an excuse people give to give them freedom to do what they want. Have you read "1984"? Governments stay permenantly at war, so that they can treat their people with as little rights as they please, in the name of the war effort. Or just take a look at the world, same thing. The debts the US is in because of its war is insane, but should it be stoppned? no no they can get away with it, for sake of the war! Many wars over history have been began with a pretence. Vietnam, the Tonkin Gulf Incident. Or the bombing of Pearl Harbour. CIA documents have been declassified showing that the administration had known of possible attacks before hand, but didn't act on it. is it right those lives were 'sacrificed' to let the public be convinced they should join WWII, leading to the defeat of the Nazis?
International justice obviously also doesn't think all is fain in war- otherwise why have such things as war crimes?Secretary of Defence at the time of vietnam talked about the US dropping of the Atom Bomb in an interview in 2006. He basically admittend that if the US had lost the war, the administration would have been tried as war criminals.

being in love and war, being swept up in passions. Saying all should be fair when faced with extreme passion, is saying that man cant control himself then, and that there is no longer any right and wrong. that ethics dont count. But i think, that it's exactly THEN that things matter more than ever.

Answer 3

Fair in love

Great. This question is related to perception of one.

If you are in great love now, you will think you are so lucky, everything seems fair in love.
If you are having a broken heart now, you will doubt the unjustice , nothing is fair in love.

Fair in war

Apparently, we cannt be fair in war. For me, war defined as the failure of using brains to negotiate some deals. There is nothing fair in war. Lives gone. Things gone. Winner triumph over the loser.

** These two are the most noble arts?

Cheers
Yee Cs

Answer 4

I believe the word you are looking for is "All's" fair in love and war. While that may seem like everything or anything it is none the less "All's". All includes both anything and everything. And as for fairness, that all works out in the end. To the victors go the spoils. So, the ones who stay in love or in war can say it was all justified and who is to argue with them? They are the last ones standing.

Answer 5

Everything and anything is fair in love ONLY if it is true love. True love is selfless, unconditional, and other-oriented. When it is not reciprocated, the true lover still gains, he/she learns from the pain and the experience of rejection. That very pain will bring him/her closer to those who can return their love. And that is fair.

In war? War is never fair because there will always be innocent victims. It may seem justified in some cases but in the end, any form of violence and taking of other people's lives will cause more suffering and damage unworthy of any victory in war.

Answer 6

I don't know if anything is truly fair in love or war....It seems that both are rife with deceptions, twisting of truths, manipulations, and quests for power. Love and war as most of us understand them are but two different approaches to capturing and controlling others.

Answer 7

Everything and anything is fair in love and/or war.
I believe there are unacceptable acts and beliefs in love and war.
Its unacceptable to sexually love animals (gross) and not acceptable for same gender to love each other sexually (God created man and woman for a reason and homosexuality is not one of them).
Its wrong to shoot prisoners of war. Its wrong to fight and/or kill for materialistic values, or to fight/ kill without any purpose.

You gave a good question but there is too much to cover and discuss in this space.

Answer 8

No, How can one truly love when that love is the course of someones pain All is not fair in WAR when war equals grief and sadness,

Answer 9

Isn't that what we mostly all believe that it is all fair as long as it is the one doing whatever? The thing of it is that some people won't admit when they are wrong. Some people think everything that they do is fair.

Answer 10

Everything is fair in love. I don't know about war. In love, whatever comes out of it is acceptable.