I've told my mum about me a few months ago, and last night i really poured my heart out to her coz im going through a break up and everything else, and last night she was giving me advice and was calm and seemed like she is cool, and than goes off and tells my sister that im "sick"?! what the hell is she thinking? why cant she just tell me to my face what she really thinks of me! This really got to me tonight ****, its messing with my mind, it makes me think theres something really wrong with me and im scared coz i know in my heart im not sick, and i want to change and be normal but im scared that then I wont happy with my outcomes of life later, I guess i can never be trully happy either way, i marry a guy, not much love there, i become a "wife" and i live without getting descriminated against but deep inside tear myself apart, or i just move out and do as I please, loose respect from family n get descriminated. Im scared if she tells dad tonight he might be really angry and hit me.
2007-04-28 23:59:34 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
No, not a lezbian, an FTM. Iv been like this from little, she knows, she was concerned but thought i grew out of it, but i havent and i started tellin her more and more about a year ago. And I just told her that i had a relo with a girl for 6 months who broke up with me and now shes just panicing even thought shes not telling me , shes telling my sister im sick in the head and my sister tells me what she says.
2007-04-29 00:09:38 · update #1
I trully belive in my heart that im not sick, im capable to do everything that a average person can do, and some things even better, i have no DOUBT in my intelligence or anything else, I am not SICK and that coming from my mum, to think that makes me feel SICK in the stomach and to aslo pretend shes all ok with it and then go off and tell my sister **** like that, its just horrible, my dad has never hit me in his life except ones wen i was young but thats ok, but im afraid he might loose it if my mum tells him this.
2007-04-29 00:19:53 · update #2
I'm ftm too, your mother's behaviour is due to the fact that in reality she knows nothing about transsexualism, probably it's something she heard of in tv only, she doesn't know that it's a birth defect and all, so, the best thing is that you find a way to explain her what you really are, and that all of this has nothing to do with mental illness.
The majority of people find it easier to understand T. as an intersex condition because it's a scientific explanation (http://www.harrybenjaminsyndrome-info.org/ )
2007-04-29 01:37:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey hunny if i was you i would call the police and tell them that she is bullying you into aborting your child which you do not want to do! Forget the boyfriend as well if this is how he is going to be! mummys boy. If he isnt supporting you now, what is he going to be like when the baby comes along! You can do this by yourself - stay strong for the babys sake and dont let her push you about, there is nothing that she can do to make you get rid of this baby nothing at all! Its your baby and you make the decisions - all of the decisions! I hope she starts to leave you alone - arrrggghhhh am so angry just reading this question - how the heck does she think that this is her decision to make! Sorry sweetie, Good luck and i hope you have a beautiful healthy baby! Lots of love and hugs xxx
2016-05-21 05:03:42 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your mom would do the SAME dang thing if your sister was dating some bum. She'd sympathize with your sister, BUT then she'd tell YOU that your sister is sick for taking up with a good-for-nothing-lazy-mean guy.
I think she just didn't want to tell you that your previous boy/girlfriend was a jerk. And she thought you didn't pick a good partner.
As to the part of your dad hitting you - that's abuse. Do you have child protective agencies there you can call? Or homeless shelters you can stay at for awhile? If you dad hits you over this, something is really wrong with him.
2007-04-29 00:10:32 · answer #3 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Okay, to stray away from Freud, who's theories are just that. My advice would be to talk to your mom about what you had heard. Ask her why she thinks you are "sick". Also, I suggest you go to the library and pick up some current literature on FTM and have your parents read about it. That may help them to understand more about your current situation, and worries. Plus, it could help get rid of them thinking you are "sick". Education and communication are the keys to your success in life.
2007-04-29 00:15:29 · answer #4 · answered by Jay S 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had the same sort of thing
my mum told me she was fine with everything
my life my choice that sort of thing
yet eight months later my step father has kicked me out of the family and called me sick i thought it was funny (no brains)
mum has not talked in ages
feeling a bit alone but it has made me stronger
2007-04-29 00:27:15 · answer #5 · answered by Zara3 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your mother resents you subconciously, in her mind, for perceiving her to be sexually undesireable merely by virtue of the fact you are a homosexual...
She sees your sexuality as a rejection of her sense of feminine sensuality. Deeply Freudian stuff.
Her fear is driven by ego.
2007-04-29 00:05:56 · answer #6 · answered by Gay Man 2 · 3⤊ 1⤋
believe in yourself!!! no one else's opinion really matters! (sometimes easier said than done) find a Trans meeting to go to, be among friends!!
2007-04-29 00:36:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
What did you tell your mother?
You're a lesbian?
If your dad hits you, call the cops.
2007-04-29 00:07:19 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
no
2007-04-29 00:22:08 · answer #9 · answered by naseldrip 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋