So does this makes him gay or are a lot of men that feel that way
2007-04-28 23:35:02 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
There are a lot of men this way hun. It may be a little bit to deal with at first, but if he is bisexual, that is a wonderful thing. People who are true to themselves lead happier more productive lives. I am bisexual and my husband allows me to be who I am and does not hinder my lifestyle. It is one of the things that keeps me sane is having someone to love and support me. I used to love dating bisexual men. To me they seemed more open and free to experience. Being a very sexual being myself, this was a good thing. Talk to your husband, support him, allow him to be who he truly is. You can be bisexual and married. And happy. That is what truly counts. Maybe the two of you could experiment together? Life is truly too short to be hung up on the small stuff.
2007-04-28 23:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by *jen* 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's said that 80% of the population are bisexual to varying degrees, so that makes homosexuals and heterosexuals the real minorities.
This isn't so weird, make sure he's still into you, because if he's truly bisexual then he's just bisexual, not gay. There is a difference there, bisexuals like both sexes.
As for the sex with other men or a she-male, if you want to allow it, set rules for it, like he must wear protection because he's going outside the marriage, and maybe a cap on how many other partners he can have, as well as how often you still expect him to perform at home. Also include in there some sexual freedoms for yourself as well. An open marriage for just one partner hardly seems fair.
But sit down and iron it all out, so there's no surprises. Make a new type of contract with him with new rules if that is your wish. But don't leave it up in the air, that's not fair to your marriage.
2007-04-29 04:24:54 · answer #2 · answered by Luis 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't live the way you describe, but since you're being truthful with your male partner, and with your female partners, I don't think it's fair to judge you because of your choices. I'm bisexual but I'm the monogamous type, so I was with a male partner a few years, a female partner for over a decade, and now am with a male partner. As long as all of the people involved are aware of what you're doing, I don't see a reason to condemn your choices.
2016-05-21 05:01:42 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, it doesn't make him gay. It makes him bi-sexual as he has an interest in both sexes.
I think most men tend to be heterosexual, so if they wanted another person in bed, it would be another woman.
Did he tell you this before you were married and you said okay? If not, springing it on you now is a little like him asking is it okay to be an adulterer. But that is okay if you are okay with it.
You can alway ask him if you can have other relationships, too. If he says no, then it isn't right for him to have them, either.
So you are in a new phase in your sexual life. You can either let him try it out or not. If you do, you have to make sure these other guys bring their current doctor's "clean bill of health" with them.
P.S. It is a rare couple that can handle an "open marriage" like this.
2007-04-29 00:25:19 · answer #4 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Your lucky. He has the guts to tell you that he is Bi. Being bi doesn't mean that he is gay. I know this because I am bi but, I haven't had the guts to tell her that I am. You should feel some sort of comfort that he feels safe enough with you to tell you. most likely he doesn't want to loose you but he needs to explore this side of himself. I wish that I could tell my wife and I hope that she wouldn't feel threatened by this. These urges are what they are, there could be many reasons that he feels this way. If my wife was more interested in sex maybe I wouldn't think about as much. But I would probably still think about it. The most important thing for you is that you don't take this as "What's wrong with me". If you want talk about it more, E-mail me. same at yahoo.
2007-04-29 01:09:09 · answer #5 · answered by Brad 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of men feel this way... You are a very lucky woman to have this husband of yours care and trust you enough to confide this to you. I know so many "married" men that when they have the chance they are in some mans bed and their wife does not have a clue what he is doing.
2007-04-29 08:11:15 · answer #6 · answered by jameswilson35 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am like your husband. I would say there are many many men like this. Its not unusual. Gay? No, I would think he wants to stay with you . He probably loves you or he would not have told you the truth. It is very common among men.
2007-04-29 02:18:08 · answer #7 · answered by vacationman 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would say that if this is the case he needs to be monogous. Unless, you allow it and are okay with it. But, this is generally not very successful.
I am bisexual. I am in a committed relationship of 7 years. When i feel like having sex with a man( I am with a woman) i make the choice of my relationship over my sex drive.
2007-04-29 00:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by jannah b 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only the bisexual ones.
Your husband is what the scientific types refer to as a Freakazoid!
Do you wish to watch him get his freak on?
Magic 8 ball says, there may be a chick with a d-ck in your future.
2007-04-28 23:40:34 · answer #9 · answered by willberb 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
millions of men /women are Bi, most men don't think of it as cheating because it's with a man, if it were another woman, he'd probably feel guilty
2007-04-29 00:41:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋