what to do? i have been married for 5 years and tonight my hubby walked out on me for the 3 time in a year HEL

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help i dont knwo what to do? i love him so much and i cant see myself with out him please help me

we have been married 5 year and thing was going great we have moved to ark to be close to my family since his family dont like me. we was talking and we was not fighting and things was looking good we was talking about buying a house and having kids and all of that but how can you walk out on a 5 year marrage adn 2 dogs. He have moved back to texas where his family is. i have not doen anything wrong i was thier for him in his time of time with work, school, family and everything why me

we have been married 5 year and thing was going great we have moved to ark to be close to my family since his family dont like me. we was talking and we was not fighting and things was looking good we was talking about buying a house and having kids and all of that but how can you walk out on a 5 year marrage adn 2 dogs. He have moved back to texas where his family is. i have not doen anything wrong i was thier for him in his time of time with work, school, family and everything why me

humm i love him so much he is a great guy but his family dont like me and i think that is the big thing and i know he will be back but i cant say i will be here then

Answer 1

Breakups hurt..they suck..you feel like no one else knows your pain..your feeling you want to get back at him..
The best thing for you is just to accept it and walk away from him..he might not expect you to be strong like that..and its what you really should do,and a mature choice.
Move on,and to a better love! True love! Not losers who will hurt you and only think about themselves!
g'luck hun!

Answer 2

Dear, if a guy decides he wants out, he'll do it irregardless of whether it's a 5 year marriage or 15 years marriage with 12 kids etc.

And if he doesn't bother to explain why, & walked out 3 times too, well, there's certainly someone or something that's the reason for that. Until he decides he wants to stay in the marriage for good, expect a forth time if he does come back again.

Don't cling to someone who doesn't want you. He's made that pretty clear. I'm sorry to have to say this. But you should get a lawyer & start divorce proceedings. And get counselling for yourself to tide through this. You deserve a man more deserving of your love & devotion. Don't waste it on someone so faithless towards you. Good luck.

Answer 3

Sweetheart, here we have a man who obviously is not mature or deserving enough for a relationship, let alone a marriage. It is so painful when things go wrong,and it is hard to be strong, but you have to be. 3 times in 1 year is a bit of a joke.
Get tough - you call the score - don´t let him walk in and out of a marriage whenever he feels like it.
You are worth more than that. If you cant stand the thought of being without him take him back - but on YOUR terms. Stay strong and seek strength from others, who care for you.
Good Luck

Answer 4

i think you may need to come to the realisation that this relationship may not work!!
if it has been 3 times in this 1 last year i would think its possible that things have got way out of hand and he cannot handle the relationship or the fighting anymore, or he is or has cheated and since realises that life can be diffrent and less stressful elsewhere, i know b/c i have been in the same situation after being married for 6 yrs to my wife and leaving 4 times in the last year i left for the last time in december 06. after 5 months apart we are the best of friends and realise more now that we were not meant to be a couple and being togethr was not only hurting both of us but our son also. i dont regret leaving and we both realise that we are much better off being frinds not partners so now we are all much happier.
just prepare yourself for the breakup!!
GOOD LUCK

Answer 5

From what you say, it looks like he wants out. You are lucky you don't have kids. That would be a rough one. It happened to me with 3 kids, but I kicked him out for cheating. Even though I'm glad he is out of my life, I had to raise 3 kids alone. Everyone says how?

Well, think for yourself and not him. You are gonna have to be selfish in this one, do what is right by you. You have total freedom to move along and find someone who fits all of your dreams. Don't settle for anything less. To be in love with a "walker" does not suit anyone. He is playing you but now the ball is in your playing field. I'd say GAME OVER.

How about focusing on getting yourself a good education. What is it that you would most want to be if you could? What are you good at? What do you love in this life that you could do to help others?

I'm not bragging, but with those three kids under my wings, I went back to college while I worked 35 hours a week and got a degree in psychology so I could help others. It wasn't easy but I never looked up. I knew where I was going and what I wanted. I was clear about that. I didn't let anything stand in my way. I spent all of my free time with my kids and one even worked part time with me so we could spend more time together. Lots of people thought I was crazy for going back to school. I didn't listen to them because I knew what I wanted and stuck to it no matter what. But now I have that knowledge and my kids are grown and gone. I love to help others. That is what I wanted. So now it's your turn.

Find out what it is that you want. Helping other people is very enriching and rewarding. It makes me feel good to know that I am helping someone to have a better life. Yes it was all work and no play, but I did it and my kids are proud of me.

You can do it too, don't listen to anyone that says you're too old or too this or too that. Go for it and make something out of yourself instead of hanging on the shirt tail of a guy that very obviously is finished being married to you.

Spread your wings and fly. There is a lot of sky out there.

Answer 6

What are you doing to yourself? Can you say Torture? If he has done this 3 times before what makes you think he won't do it 10 more? Do you have babies? I hope not! Honey get out of there! You may love him, but you have to love yourself more. I don't understand how you could say that you could never see yourself without him... WHAT?? When did you stop putting yourself first? You can't love someone if you don't have your priorities straight. You have to love yourself first and foremost and never let that go and never forget that to make a relationship work. Sounds you lost your self-esteem somewhere along the line.

Answer 7

Girl what you doing here you should be after him if you really love him try sort your things out 3 times is quite a bit but if u guts where ment to be you willl find the right path but maybe you 2 are soppose to be maybe you should just call it quits and find some1 that will love u and respect you and wont walk out on you all Im saying is good luck and whats meant to be is meant to be...

Answer 8

Did you have a fight? What exactly is it about him that you love so much? All women must be independent. It's cos you keep thinking you can't see yourself without him that he can manipulate you like this. If he knew you gave as good as you got, he'd think twice. You need to grow stronger and get into self-empowerment. Now. Lots of men can't stand the clinging vine type of girl cos it's more responsibility than he can bear.

Answer 9

adult males do want there ME time, Im handling that this evening... i imagine we as females take it too for my section.. do not study too a lot into it yet. He might want to be distant because you reside with your mom and father and this may depress him somewhat. adult males want to experience like they are providing for the relations and perchance he's somewhat of down and out right now through that.. I dont imagine there's a difficulty with your marriage yet.. i imagine you want to attend till you spot some more advantageous serious warning signs of distance between both of you... i desire each and every thing works out for you, i'm certain you're lil relations is wonderful.. and once you adult males get your own position back he can be feeling somewhat more advantageous constructive

Answer 10

You need to respect yourself more and quit being a doormat, he left you 3 times. He sounds as if he isn't mature enough to have a stable relationship. Why would you want to be with someone if you are going to worry about them leaving all the time?