my bf and I have an over 2 years relationship, I love him very much... we have been apart in 2 countries for over 1.5 years...we talk on the phone everyday. He asked me to marry him, but as my family go against it, we didnt get married. Last Decemeber, I thought I probabely wouldnt get the chance to be with him, so I married to someone else, someone I dont love... then I found out my bf is all I want, so I divorced my husband, I paid lots of money to the university and applied for studying in his country, actually I dont need to study for myself, all I did it was for getting back together. My bf is very happy, he thought Im serious about him and we could finally get back together, but he didnt know I married for 5 months...although my exhusband and I didnt even live together, bcos he is in another country 2, he only came back 2 weeks to marry me... In another 2 months time, I would be able to see my bf again, I know he has a lot of hopes about us, but will he be able to forgive me?
2007-04-28 22:39:09 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he nweeds to know about it honey
2007-04-28 22:56:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't say what really needs to be said here but, your starting out your relationship on lies already. In the first place this is the first web of deceit your starting. He's going to find out in time that you married someone else first, behind his back no less, letting him believe you'll be waiting for him.
This is akin to having an affair. If I were you I'd tell him before it gets to deep and let the cards fall where they may, then take your bruises and heal. If he still wants you then your lucky. If not, try and start over, this time be a little honest.
2007-04-28 22:57:44 · answer #2 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cant base any future relatinship with him on a lie you must tell him
On the other hand, why should he forgive you? All you thought about was yourself. Everything you mentioned was done because you wanted it YOU thought it was selfishly what YOU wanted. YOU didnt think about who you may hurt in the process. your poor husband is now divorced because YOU didnt care about him and married him when YOU didnt love him..you were just using him, for selfish reasons.
You wil never settle down I dont think, if something better comes along you will dump him (if you do get him back) and go for the next best thing...
Think about others, not just urself. men are not here to bend into what ever shape you chose, they need as much respect as we do.
Stop being selfish and using them.
2007-04-28 23:27:16 · answer #3 · answered by Kira 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't try to start a new relationship with your former b/f by covering up a truth. Tell him everything. If its meant to be... he will forgive you. Besides, do you really think he's been a monk waiting on you to come back? You both have truths to tell.
2007-04-28 22:45:23 · answer #4 · answered by bakfanlin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He may forgive you but he will find it very difficult trusting you again. Marriage is a serious business not a jolly ride. Be sure of what you want before you go for it.
2007-04-28 22:50:23 · answer #5 · answered by Sunshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't get it, you didn't marry your b/f you love because your family was against it because he lived in another country but yet you married another guy who also lived in another country who you didn't love. If I was him I wouldn't forgive you.
2007-04-29 14:59:23 · answer #6 · answered by J1 M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, you don't tell him, he'll find out somehow, probably just by chance. Then you'll be screwed. Better to tell him, explain the situation, and let him decide.
2007-04-28 23:26:37 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...I don't even know how to answer this. Why should he forgive you?
2007-04-28 23:01:49 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i hope he will forgive you. pray fot it, god will help you
2007-04-28 22:52:51 · answer #9 · answered by Washington D.C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW!!!
2007-04-29 00:53:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋