My Wife Found Emails I sent to a Woman I Worked with 2 Years Ago.?

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My Wife Found Emails I sent to a Woman I Worked with 2 Years Ago.?
Of course they were sent about 6 weeks ago. We have had some problems over the last year and were split up. Upon finding out I was facing what felt like an almost certain divorce I began corresponding with this woman. After I had told her I was working things out with my wife and moving accross the country I received another email from her with a half naked photo. I really don't know why but I didn't immediately remind her of my happy marriage. I was still upset with my wife for our earlier separation and I think I did this to intentionally hurt her. I'm so sorry for what I did and I wish we could work things out but I'm afraid I may have completely screwed everything up. I had stopped emailing the other woman 6 weeks ago but my wife found messages in the sent file. What's funny is I showed her how I found out she was emailing her ex-boyfriend just 5 years earlier and then she used it against me. She's a prtty smrt grl

Answer 1

We all do silly things/mistakes sometimes, we loose our controls from small difficulties we meet in our life and u or ur wife are not exceptions... what's done is done and u r equal, now. U don't have to turn back all the time and have fight for the past if u love each other.
Offer her to start all over again WITH A TRUST. And tell her to stop being a child. Admitting mistakes is a smart thing.
Admit it and live happily if u want to keep ur family.

Good luck!

Answer 2

James, sounds like you screwed up pretty good. Your wife used your spying methods against you. Good for her! Sounds like both of you need to get your properties straight.

You are going to have to do some explaining, and hope that she will listen to you. Tell her exactly what you have said here, crap just show her this. Tell her you know you messed up big time, and that you can't promise not to mess up again, but that if she can forgive you for the email thing, that you will work to earn her trust and love again.

Then do it, don't give her cause, or break her heart again! James, sounds like both of you need to stay off the computer, or avoid the email part. The only woman you need to be emailing is your wife, and telling her that you love her, and want things back and that you miss her terribly.

Praying that you can find the right words, and that your wife will listen with an open heart and mind!

God bless us all.................

Answer 3

Sit down with your wife and calmly discuss this. Tell her the truth - that you were corresponding with this woman because the two of you were separated and you thought the marriage was heading towards divorce. We don't always make the best choices when we're emotionally vulnerable. Assure her that once you knew that the two of you were going to work things out, you sent this woman an e-mail to end contact with her and that you don't have any plans to contact this woman again.

Offer to send the woman another No Contact e-mail, which your wife can read before you send it. Then block this woman's e-mail address so that she can't contact you again. You should tell your wife that she has permission to read anything in your e-mail account any time she feels she needs to do so.

If the two of you aren't in marriage counseling, I would highly recommend it, especially since the two of you were separated and are trying to work things out. Good luck!

Answer 4

It looks as if both of you need to grow up
and start acting like married adults.What
was done in the past is just that the past,
and you being a man and all , you should
have gotten rid of any past e.mails sent or
received because it's so easy to do, and
your wife needs to let her past goings-on
be just that the past. If you two do not start
working on your marriage and quit playing
games on one another then you will both
end up being alone.

Answer 5

kinda seems like you two are on equal ground if she has basically done the same thing, she really has no grounds for being angry or hurt by what you did. Maybe you could kinda wipe the slate clean, agree to never bring either of those situations up again and try to move forward on a more positive note...
good luck :)

Answer 6

well i would defitly explain everything to her and apoligize for acting this way you should have been concentrating on your marriage and trying to fix it instead of looking for comfort in another woman. and if you didn't address your wife talking to her ex 5 years ago don't throw it in her face now. they say people who have nothing to hide hide nothing and in a marriage you want your wife to feel secure in knowing she is the the 1 and only not that every time you two fight you may talk to someone else.

Answer 7

Deja Vue - Seems like I already answered this question. Er, whats the question?

Answer 8

You both sound like idiots. I hope you two are sterile.