I noticed...that guys...?

Question

Guys seem to have there little PMS moments too. For instance my guy friend at work has a little attitude sometimes when I come in, which is tolerable but its like dang he must be PMSING (in a guy way)! One day he seemed to be in a bad mood and I asked him whats wrong he said I don't want to talk about it. I told him Ok Im sorry and just left him alone! I'm sorry guys but that drives me nuts when men do that! Never want to talk about anything bothering them just let there emotions go to the back and not express it which is not good. If you keep letting anger build up your going to explode and it might not be for the best.

Why can't men express their feelings? It is very annoying!

Ambien & Max. I totally agree and understand what your saying and you made good points...But I think it is wonderful when a guy can express his real feelings.

I just don't understand why a man has to have this "false" image of being a "manly man"?? Can you guys explain that to me? I mean from my perspective expressing feelings does not make you weak and yes I understand when boys are littler that's what they were taught not to cry and so forth, but I still don't understand it.

Who cares if other guys think this or that about you, it just probably makes them jealous because they don't know how to express feelings themselves, right?

Answer 1

It's possible that us women "share " too much , too often. Maybe men have the right idea. I know it's not good to hold things in, but in the same token, not everything needs to be discussed. Some people are just more introspective.

Answer 2

Speaking strictly as a guy here, I think you're right. Guys have a problem expressing their feelings, and in general communicating. The problem only gets worse because women LOVE expressing their feelings, are very good at communicating. I have been accused by many girls of not having any feelings, and I doubt that I'm the only one like that. (it's not true, I do have feelings, I just repress them, probably not a good idea but I do.) Guys just don't talk about their feelings.
My own personal theory is that it's a hang-on of that machoism stuff. A guy has a self image that he tries to hold on to. This self image is usually very 'manly', as in 'tough guy' manly. But feelings are 'sissy' and 'girly' and every other bad name we got called by the playground bully. (The tough guy self image is usually there to compensate for being bullied). So the guy hides those feelings, sometimes even from himself.
In my experience, if you give the guy enough space, and he feels comfortable enough, he will share his feelings. But pressing him, and asking questions like that all the time do the opposite. They make the guy retreat further. So just give him some space, and when he fels comfortable, he'll talk.
It works with me.

Answer 3

We do express our feelings darlin, but with men, not the women.
A man crying in front of a woman loses more than just face, sorry but this is a part of us that goes back seventy thousand years. We lose respect from our male peers. That is not good.
You said that when this angry man said " I don't want to talk about it."? Well he probably does but with a male peer. Women cannot solve the problems of a man no more than a man can solve the problems of a woman. Our genders are just too different for that. But I do have to credit you.
You left him alone. In an indirect way this man was saying "leave me alone" and you did just that.
That is the only time a woman should ever listen to what a man says. I'm going to repeat that because this is important. That is the only time a woman should ever listen to what a man says. It when he says ..." leave me alone ".... when a man says that you leave him alone because that is the only time you listen to what a man says.
Words are cheap to us. Communication isn't. We communicate with actions. That is what you listen to what a man wants you to know something. Words are cheap to us. It is our actions that we use for a communicating language.
So yes I can see why it is annoying to you but I don't understand it.
We do express our feelings but it is in a different language that women do not understand.
I hope this helps you darlin.

Answer 4

We do, but in different ways than women are accustomed to. I think a lot of the time men see their emotions as a weakness, like being naked. And we don't want to share our "nakedness" with just anyone.

Many times we don't know why we are angry, and the fact that we become more confused when we seek the source of our emotions only fuels those feelings.

Other times we simply want to "sweep it under the rug" and get on with our routines.

I think in general men get upset about very different things than women, which makes talking about them incompatible unless it is with a special person (ie not a co-worker). Imagine a man trying to ask or give advice about feminine things men know nothing about. I wonder how you would react.

Answer 5

Anger Management classes seem to be full of folks who run out of weed.

Answer 6

Males are taught not to express their feelings in our society. Get used to it.

Answer 7

I think when a guy has something to say he will say it! The problem is women like to talk more.......you should say less

Answer 8

I DON'T THINK ALL MEN . AND THOSE WHO DO, HAVE THIS FALSE NOTION OF HOW A MAN SHOULD BE AND BEHAVE , WHICH DOES NOT HELP ANYONE. YOU ARE A TRUE FRIEND. HE IS LUCKY TO HAVE YOU ON HIS SIDE. GOOD LUCK.