...and if so, is he really happily married?
2007-04-28 17:28:11 · 25 answers · asked by Sally Sunshine 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No kids involved
...and he loved me more than any man imaginable...
2007-04-28 17:47:35 · update #1
...and this seems like more than a "hi, how are you"
2007-04-28 17:49:27 · update #2
completely random..out of the blue
2007-04-28 17:57:02 · update #3
No, I just don't think it's the right thing to do, especially since he's in a marriage. What's the point in doing this? This happened in my marriage when my ex decided to start contacting his ex-wife from years ago. It really hurt me & I did not understand it at all. I know now he still had feelings for her.
2007-04-28 17:37:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
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2016-05-21 04:08:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since there are no kids involved then a
Happily married man needs to be for his
present wife100percent.
2007-04-29 04:04:45 · answer #3 · answered by RudiA 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you're married, then you're not in middle school anymore. Men and women are rarely "just friends" b/c there's always that underlying tension. People don't contact exes, especially a former "love of his life," for no reason. He's playing with fire, and he knows it. And if he says someting to the contrary, he's lying. If he's contacted her, he needs never to do that again.
Try to forgive him, but keep him accountable also, in a non-naggy way.
Many blessings,
MomWtrmn
2007-04-28 19:59:59 · answer #4 · answered by MomWtrmn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he can. I mean, if she was the former love of his life, she will always be important to him. As my husband put it, he wishes good things for her, even though she is not a part of his life anymore. Can you honestly say that you never think about an ex, especially that special first love, or very serious relationship? I think everyone contemplates it from time to time, and as long as he isn't hiding it, I think it's probably ok.
2007-04-28 18:45:33 · answer #5 · answered by n2mama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No with this exceptions --
The individual had a life event in her life (birth, death, illness) and that contact support as a (platonic) friend.
But if the contact is to reminisce about the past romantic life, he!! no. If he's happily married, then he has no business trying to get back with the past romances.
2007-04-28 17:48:01 · answer #6 · answered by idahdespida 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Why not? He can have simple intentions in mind, seeing an old friend again. He can do it very gentlemanly. Why do women have to be overtly suspicious?
And few men are "happily" married. That doesn't mean they go out and cheat if they are not happy all the time. Everyday life is not full of naive happiness.
2007-04-28 17:34:07 · answer #7 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 2⤊ 2⤋
A happily married man can still do stupid things.
2007-04-28 18:40:20 · answer #8 · answered by joe b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, he doesn't...
I'm sure he thought about it before he did it... Unfortunately, the fact that he acted on the impulse is not good.
There is certainly the possibility that he simply took the wife for granted and figured he could get away with a quick look into the past however it's usually deeper than that.
Either way, he's not trustworthy.
The simple fact that he ignored the wife's feelings is bad enough no matter what intentions he had.
2007-04-28 17:39:35 · answer #9 · answered by mosaic 6 · 1⤊ 2⤋
He can be, but may have a time of weakness when things between the two of you aren't doing well, but it is a really bad idea and if you know he is doing this, tell him that this is not acceptable and hopefully he will stop
2007-04-28 17:35:44 · answer #10 · answered by Vegas 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋