Are women meant to be mothers?

Question

Women are better with children than men are. Little children prefer women over men. Women are anatomically structured to nourish children. If you believe in evolution, note that the majority of female animals care for their young while the male hunts. Women are more comfortable at home than anywhere else. And, furthermore, children benefit more when mothers stay at home and care for them rather than having the father do it, or putting them in a day-care center.

Soooo... if women are better at caring for children, if it is proven that they prefer a home over other locations, if they're designed to care for a child, and it is best for the child for the mother to stay home, then why is it wrong for a woman to stay at home and care for her children? Why shouldn't she? Is this really a display of chauvist, sexist idealogy?

Please answer rationally, with proven facts. And before you accuse me of being sexist, consider what I have to say and disprove it with scientific facts, if you can

Answer 1

As of yet I am the only Man to reply to this......

I was not raised very traditional (I had a single mother, no Dad)....

buuuut somehow I believe a woman is best as a mother.... and a man is best providing resources....

ALTHOUGH... women can do almost all the same things and roles as men (and vice versa)... My fiance and I have agreed that she will end up working less or not at all in the future, and be our homemaker....

This means I need to provide MORE... for this lifestyle...

It will benefit the development of my kids....

.......plus I cant and hate cooking...

Answer 2

For starters, not all women WANT to be mothers. For another, not all families can afford for the mother to stay at home. Most homes need two or more incomes. Then you have people like me. I have a child. I have tried the stay at home thing and I was bored out of my mind. Once you have the house clean every day (which takes very little time) there is nothing left to do but sit around on the computer or in front of the TV. I need a job just to give me something to do during the day.

Answer 3

If you can find a woman who is content to stay home now and wait for some male to get there so she can ask for a few dollars to go shopping you are in need of some advice. You stay dependent and wait all day to ask someone to give you some of that hard earned work to go to the store. Very uncomfortable indeed.
Yet we still live as if our women live on some ranch way out in the boonies and think how romantic this life must be for them and can never understand how in this day and age a woman can evolve because then we would have to take another look and realize that women too need respect and understanding and most of all love. Not some reproach for being like they are.

Answer 4

I believe if a woman wants to stay home to care for her children she should stay home. If she wants to work then she should work.

I have to work to bring home the bacon. Double income is better.

I believe the majority of MOTHERS have a greater bond with our children over men because we
1) Carry the child inside of us
2) Go through the pain of labour
3) Breast feed
4) Usually the one who takes mat leave
so obviously we would feel the need to nurture

Proven fact: I am the main caretaker of my child in the household.

Proven fact: A working mother

Answer 5

First, not every woman is meant to be a mother. It's best that a woman realize early on whether or not she can be a good mother before having and ruining the lives of children. Secondly, if a female wants to stay home and not work, that is her perogative. It doesn't make her less or better than a woman who chooses to work.

Answer 6

All I know is no one else takes care of my children except for me; sure I have had the occasional babysitter, did the swapping kid thing, still I take my role as being a mother very seriously (lot of moms do, even the working ones) I only chose to stay home and take care of mine, cause it suits me.
My husband on many occasions takes the children out so that he can be with them too.

Answer 7

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Where's your proven facts? The only thing you stated in your question that didn't need proven facts is "Women are anatomically structured to nourish children."

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Who says it is wrong for a woman to CHOOSE to do this? What is wrong is when women are not given the chance to choose whether she will or not.

Answer 8

Not all women psychologically are able to stay at home raising children and why should say. Further its not so much the fact of staying at home and raising the children but the sexism that accompanies it. Like comments that women prositute themselves even stay at mothers are considered that they trade sex for their comfortable life at home. That women are lazy and dont wnat to work for money or the boss saying to his employee over a deal that has made a lot of money (sales) "your Mrs will be happy with the money and give you a bit".

I personally am strongly opposed to the expectation that a woman should give up her carreer that she has worked so hard for ( think about the lonely times studying and the sacrifice) so she can be a nobody stay at home and raise kids. And what about superannuation - who is going to pay her super? If women want to stay at home great - But I have actively fought against the stay at home view and it offends me that because of my gender I am expected to raise kids. So my life becomes that of fullfilling an obligation - a bit like a draft horse. Yes some animals in the animal kingdom have the female look after the young but take lions - lionnesses actually raise their cubs and hunt the food and Penguins - males raise the young while the females go and get the food from the sea and many birds do this.

In the westernised world society is seing a high amount of women killing their children and I think that it may be due to an old fashioned and outdated expectation to make independent working women - who have paid their way and earnt the right to a carreer to be stay at home mothers. I think it causes them a great deal of psychological distress.

I am not about to disprove your statements with scientific facts - I think you are a man who likes the idea of control and being the major bread winner and you wnat enough facts to prove your argument!!
No woman who has never worked or never worked hard to obtain a carreer (degree) could possibly be able to concieve how hard it is to give up their independence and have to use someone elses money and the statement "its all our money" is a foolish statement made by fools.

If women want to stay at home and raise children well goo for them in this day of equality i think its fabby that they have that choice and financially if they can good - but I chose to be independent and pay my way with my hard earnt money and to hell with the animal kingdom and their issues - in case you have not understood women are not bears - or tigers - or elephants but people and my understanding of the animal kingdom is that after the dominant male has secured their genetic investment - they leave not too dissimilar to male humans. In fact appart ffrom a few animals most males meet, greet, have sex and leave, pretty much in that order.

Answer 9

Every time I hear this argument, I want to make a similar one:

Why aren't men out hunting for food and protecting the household? On average, men are stronger and taller than women. Evolutionarily speaking, men are designed to go out into the wild and hunt for the food. They have these muscles for a reason. But these days, most men don't want to go out and hunt for food. Men expect their wives to pick up something at the grocery store, while they work in a cubicle staring at computers all day.

Of course this is a silly argument. We have evolved. Just like men don't go out and hunt anymore, women aren't confined to childrearing anymore. And don't try to compare working and making money to hunting-- you cited evolutionary, physical traits of women on average, so I'm citing physical traits of men on average. You don't need giant muscles to go work in a cubicle and program in Java all day, or teach, or manage a company, or whatever else men choose to do for work these days. If you can understand this, you can understand why women choose not to be defined by their physical characteristics either.

Answer 10

Some women are meant to be mothers, and others are not. There are some women out there who do not have a compassionate bone in their body. They are not maternal at all and do not have a clue how to raise kids. Some men are phenomenal about it, but not the majority. Men are conditioned to make money and most do it well.