It has been like seven years since I have seen my mother because I have been living with my father. She gave up her custody on me. I was living with her and her new boyfriend before she did and they had a kid. Sometimes when I think about I don't know if should be sad or mad.
2007-04-28 16:45:08 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You know, not everyone should be a parent. It's probably a waste of time to be mad at her, or even sad. It's not going to change anything, and just waste your time and emotional effort.
If your father has been good to you, be grateful you had him to turn to. There are kids who are abandoned by both parents, and have no one to turn to. From the sounds of it, you're better off with your father, anyway.
2007-04-28 16:49:52 · answer #1 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear that, sometimes it is best when they give up custody, so they can't hurt your life anymore, but this also hurts because she did give up custody. You have every right to feel sad and mad, but I would talk to your dad about it and maybe you two can talk to a professional together. It's not good to hold in these feelings. Take care and appreciate your father for loving you and being there for you
2007-04-29 00:02:50 · answer #2 · answered by Vegas 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sure you feel both mad and sad at different times. Maybe even all at the same time. Your feelings are justified but not doing you any good. Do something constructive with your emotions. Call her and talk to her, meet her for lunch and talk, write her a letter. Whatever it is you'd like to know, find out the answer. She may have been doing it all for you in her mind, the whole son would be better off being raised by Dad. Maybe she was just self centered. If you want to know, you should ask. Not with an attitude but maturely and with wonder. I hope so much good comes out of this for you. Maybe even both of you.
2007-04-28 23:53:09 · answer #3 · answered by enjoyrselves 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to feel both and more. Hold your head up and realize it isn't your fault. Turn to your father and thank him for not giving up and being there. It hurts like hell what you are going through. You have a right to be mad, sad, betrayed, dissapointed, and alone. But you need to focus on good things too. Your dad must be cool. And you know; deep down he's hurting too. Perhaps go play some baseball or football or go fishing to relax and make some important memories with him.
I know it hurts. I know it. But it is not your fault. You are good and you must believe in yourself. Hang in there and you'll do fine. You are very smart.
Best luck always...
2007-04-28 23:52:55 · answer #4 · answered by Angela C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This happend to me I wasn't mad because I understood that being mad wasn't going to change things. What matters is right now and if he (my dad) wanted a chance I gave him one because I wanted to show him I was a bigger person that he could ever be. I looked beyond my hurt in what he did and the the most hardest thing to do which is forgive and move on however never forgetting and making sure that if I ever felt like he was disrespecting me or choosing his other child over me I would bring it to his attention quick.
2007-04-28 23:50:41 · answer #5 · answered by lovely_ms_t 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you be scared. You should not just move on with your life and just don't think about it. If you really wanted too go back and live with your dad. Which place do you think is better for you too like. Which one is more happier for you. If they treat you wrong and stuff and like the other kid in sated then i think you should go back to your dad's house because that a shame because they should treat you the same way they do too him.
2007-04-28 23:53:10 · answer #6 · answered by Billy w 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I probably would be a little of both. It is normal to feel both sad and mad at the same time. The key question is that if you feel this way, what are you going to do about it?
2007-04-28 23:50:02 · answer #7 · answered by ciberpunk1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you would be a little bit of both....mad and wondering why she hasn't contacted you, but sad because she wasn't around, have you tried to reach out to her?? It would be a start if you want a relationship with her...if it can't work,. continue to live your life and get double affection from your dad, it will get easier with time, hang in there...
2007-04-28 23:50:17 · answer #8 · answered by KrIs 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are some facts about mad,
-Anger is a choice
-Anger is always hideing another feeling
I rarely get angery personaly I find it much more efective to express my real feeling and get it over with.
Take the short route, Be sad and talk about it. And if she won't talk then you've done your part and you should let it go
-Kamen
2007-04-28 23:56:02 · answer #9 · answered by Gage P. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say you should be neither. Focus on what you do have, and think about the positives. You probably have a lot going for you. No matter what she does, you probably have lost respect for her. You are very lucky to have a great dad!
Maybe when she gets older, she will try to make amends..but it will probably be too late. Don't waste your precious time and energy on her.
Take care!
2007-04-28 23:51:53 · answer #10 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋