I like the names Bethany and Emma. My husband and I separated 6 months ago. We have a 3 year old boy. This will be the first girl on his side for 4 generations, but he's had nothing to do with this pregnancy. In fact, he was quite adamant about the fact that he did not want a 2nd child (we are separated and headed for divorce). He was not there for me during the pregnancy....barely cares for our son when he has him. He does not like the name Bethany and would rather call our daughter Emma. I like the name, but do you think he has a right to have a say in it? I prefer Bethany over Emma. HELP!
2007-04-28 16:43:41 · 28 answers · asked by Shannon H 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Baby Names
Thank you for all your answers! Just for the record, I have decided that the baby will have his surname because my son has his surname. I will keep his name too because I believe it's really important for all of us to be the same.
2007-04-28 16:51:02 · update #1
I like Bethany over Emma. By the way Shannon your answer to my question really helped me. I did not know you were preganant. You are a strong person and I respect you that you left him and his abuse. Must have been really hard. On the last name. It does not really matter if you keep his last name because if you re-marry, your last name will change. God bless
2007-04-29 12:05:54 · answer #1 · answered by shelly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, I would not say you have any obligation or should feel the need to include him in choosing the babies name at all. Personally, I agree with you on preferring Bethany but Emma is a very nice name as well. Maybe you could do a combo sort of thing to come to a compromise? Emily Beth or Emily Elizabeth. Anyways, congratulations and good luck on making your decision!
2007-04-29 01:07:00 · answer #2 · answered by Erin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
While your soon to be ex is a real poo head he may be in the child's life at some point. Do you think he will treat her badly if he hates her name? Will it cause more trouble between you? Does Bethany sound better because it is not the name he prefers? Why not pick a new name all together and don't give him the option of voicing his opinion until he gets a birth announcement. Additionally, you could begin using your maiden name and hyphenate it with your old married name so you can regain a sense of your own identity. You could hyphenate the kids last names too if it is not too long and cumbersome. If you remarry someday you might want to take your new husbands name and that might leave the kids feeling slighted. Now adays lots of moms have different last names than their kids because of divorce, remarriage and women who choose to keep their maiden names after marriage. Believe me no one thinks twice. I wish you all the strength you'll need to raise your family on your own.
2007-04-29 00:55:26 · answer #3 · answered by LO! 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I LOVE the name Bethany! Not a big fan of Emma, though. I could name at least five people off the top of my head with the name Emma.
2007-04-29 10:16:33 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take his opinion into account he has chosen to opt out of this pregnancy then it's your decision. Bethany has been quite popular here for a while (conjoined twins born 2001 one was bethany). I do like Emma, traditional name and hasn't been that popular of late.
I like
Bethany Grace,
Bethany Leigh,
Bethany Ann.
OR
Emma Louise
Emma May
I also like the names, Piper & Maggie for my girls but was out voted... So now I have Phoebe & Chloe (twins) Maybe look up names which mean "new start"fresh begining" etc to symbolise the new phase in your life.
2007-04-28 23:52:49 · answer #5 · answered by Sharon P 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally I like Emma better 2. However, if i was in your position I would name her what I liked and he didn't. Sorry, I'm spitful. No, if he's not been there for you don't give him the choice. If he can't help you with the pregnancy what makes u think he'll help you raise this baby. So, looks like Bethany it is. You got my vote.
2007-04-28 23:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Kellen's Mom 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I do not like the name Emma. Bethany is much better. You name the child what you wish to name her because you are the one who will be raising her and her brother.
God Bless little Momma.
2007-04-29 01:07:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I went through a similar situation with my ex when I was pregnant. I loved the name Liam but he wanted Jake. I called my son Liam, not just because my ex hated it but I figured if he had nothing to do with the pregnancy and (at the time he said he wanted nothing to do with the baby) then he had no say in it's name. Name your baby what you want to name it and tell your soon to be ex that when he starts being a proper father then he can contribute to the fun parts. Good luck.
p.s. I like Bethany too.
2007-04-28 23:53:09 · answer #8 · answered by kaz 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think Emma is ok, it's kind of on the borring side. I like Bethany too! When she grows up, you could call her "Beth". What about Mckayla? that's my future girls' name, if I have a kid that is a girl.
Or maybe Juliette? There's lots of names I like, why not try a name book, if you're not quite decided yet on her name. =) good luck!
2007-04-29 00:25:21 · answer #9 · answered by Suzy Suzee Sue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Iknow where your coming from it was the same thing with my Mom and Dad. My dad ended up not really telling my Mom the names and hated his selection and didn't have a say in it at all and ended up raising me and my brother all alone.
personally I love the name Bethany espcially with the middle name Leila (Lay la) . In this case he has no right to have a say in the name it seems as if it sadly going to be one person job from here on so you pick the name you love and put your foot down and say no , I am carrying this child on my own . You don't want to say your daughters name everyday and remember you (ex) husbands thoughtlessness.
Its not the name anymore its the selection of it.
Good Luck and keep us updated!
2007-04-28 23:54:24 · answer #10 · answered by BettyBoop22 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋