My 8 week old little girl is Breast Feed, but she wants to suck All the time! She will not take soothers (i've tried the ones for Breast Feed babies, as well as normal ones). She won't go to sleep without being on my breast, but she doesn't want to eat. She uses me for comfort. This has created a problem as she won't stop crying when I leave her with her Grand-parents or her Father! As soon as they call me to come back, I hold her and put her on my breast and she stops just like that.I love her to death, but I need a couple hours to myself once a week. Any solutions would be GREATLY appreciated!!!
2007-04-28 16:35:32 · 7 answers · asked by Mum of One 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
oh honey she is only 8 weeks
this is natural and i say just go with it.....she will become more independent
don't fight it....just accept this as part of your infant's life and enjoy it....before you know it she will be crawling and walking and be more interested in getting into the cabinets than suckling
good luck....oh and if she desires to be with you then put on a movie or read a book and just chill with her
2007-04-28 16:44:09 · answer #1 · answered by ? 6 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I am a mother of 3 and breastfed all of my babies. I'm still breastfeeding my 13month old. Babies that small have an inate need to suck, and sometimes all they want is the boob. You're warm, you smell so familiar and what she's getting tastes great too! What a great deal! Keep trying the paci's as long as you know she's not hungry. I am a total breastfeeding advocate so I am all for letting them nurse whenever but I know what you mean by needing a little break. Try this, if it's been less than 2 hours since her last good nursing, try burping her, swaddling her and rocking her. Maybe even let her suck on your pinky. Your mom and husband have pinkies as long as they're clean. If she's just nursing for comfort all the time, her tummy won't be full enough to get her to go a couple of hours. If you try other methods, and then feed her every 2 hours her tummy will be full and maybe she'll be more content. Maybe she'll even sleep long enough for you to do something for yourself. If this doesn't work, maybe she just needs you and give it a couple more weeks. Don't give up nursing though, it's the very best thing you could possibly give her. My middle daughter was like that. I would nurse her and she would act like she was starving after an hour, so I would nurse her again. She would sit up to burp and projectile puke all over the place. She did this to me about 4 times before I clued in that she really just wanted to suck. I gave her my pinky for a while, then she finally took a paci. I nursed that kid for 2 years. It's so worth it though when you think that they are only babies for a short while. Hang in there mama, 8 weeks is still really new. She'll adjust, and so will you.
2007-04-28 17:20:21 · answer #2 · answered by mom3x 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
my babies all took an adult's pinkie finger turned upside down as a replacement for mom's nipple. make sure the hand is clean and the nail not too long or sharp. holding the baby on her back on your lap with her head to your left (about the position you would use to breast feed her on the left side), curl your right hand so that the palm is up and the back of the hand is laying on her belly and offer the pinky finger right where the breast is.
something that smells like mom may help as well - leave a T-shirt or something that you have worn with the dad or grandparents. they can lay it over their shoulder and baby will recognize your scent and feel comforted.
some people will tell you to just let her cry and learn that mom isn't always available. that may work for some people and yes, eventually she will need to learn that, but I believe the bond of trust and security that is built in the first year is extremely important and too fragile.
then again, motherhood is quite a demanding job. it's 24/7 and you may just have to suck it up for a while and live without the "me time" or only take it when you can get it in short spurts. baby really is worth it! and it won't be long before you are wondering how she got so big.
every baby is different, but you can expect her to sleep for longer periods of time soon - many babies are sleeping through the night by 4 or 6 months, especially if you introduce cereals. follow your doctor's counsel and your own intuition there, but really, quite soon you'll be able to leave a sleeping angel with dad while you go to the gym or out with friends or whatever and she'll still be asleep when you get home, and not even miss you.
congratulations on your baby! and two thumbs way up for choosing to breast feed. it's so good for both of you.
good luck!
2007-04-28 16:51:56 · answer #3 · answered by just me 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
She does not actuallt use your breast as a soother. If she used a soother, she's be utilising that as your breast. The soother is the guy made alternative right here. Your infant has a sucking want and he or she prefers the breast, that's totally widespread and organic. there is honestly no longer something you will desire to do approximately it. there is not any longer something incorrect with a infant getting their sucking desires satisfies on the breast. there is not any longer something incorrect with convenience nursing. each each now and then what we would desire to do is replace our expectancies, no longer our babies. My some does not take a soother the two, yet he did no longer have that comparable sucking want. My daughter additionally does not, yet she did have that sucking want. I purely nursed her on call for, whereever we've been. I grew to grow to be experienced at nursing her walking for the time of the homestead, working down the dtreet after my son. lol. i chanced on that shaking a rattle would "soothe" her contained in the automobile. study approximately your infant. discover out what DOES paintings for her, and bypass with it. there is not any requirement to purely use a soother. Your breast is the greater effective product!
2016-10-04 01:55:05 · answer #4 · answered by gizzi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The solution is to accept it and let her stay on the breast. You're right about needing some time to yourself. Even if she cries, you need that. Learn how to nurse in a sling and keep nursing. Teach other caregivers to use a clean finger as a soother and to wear baby in the sling. It's a hard stage, but you can get through it!
2007-04-28 16:40:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
have the grandparent or dad lay on their side holding the baby close and puting a clean lil finger in her mouth
also have them wear a shirt of yours that has been worn but not dirty ya know or twist it to be able to let her cuddle it as she is held close with the finger
or i have found the baby gas drops droper the part you squeeze is a good replacement
i had same problems and it workd
the used shirt blanky and droper
2007-05-02 08:27:55 · answer #6 · answered by liz's momma 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She thinks she can only fall asleep and be comforted by your breast. She hasnt learned to self soothe. When you put her to your breast after she eats let her get sleepy and almost fall asleep. Dont let her fall asleep! Release suction from your breast and hold her close. She may fuss, if she does give her the breast again. Dont let her cry. Keep repeating this until finally she falls asleep without your nipple in her mouth. (She willl, dont worry!) You may try gently pressing your thumb under her chin when you release suction from your breast. The goal is to let her realize she can comfort herself. Take small steps. First have her fall asleep without the nipple in her mouth but still being held closely to you. When she can do that on her own for a week, start having her fall asleep not so closely to your breast, using the same method. Let her get tired but have her fall asleep on her own. Dont rush it. It takes time but it is worth it.
2007-04-28 16:53:59 · answer #7 · answered by Deb 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋