my boyfriend dosent know how to break it to his mom that iam pregnant? She didnt take it well when she found out his older sister got pregnant at the age of 16. But iam 19 and so is my boyfriend how should he break it to her??Shes a very religious person and believes that you shouldnt be doing stuff if your not married.She freaked out when he told her he wanted to move out with me..because we are not married..Iam 2 and a half months pregnant, and i would jus really like for it to not b a secret to his family. By the way my parents already know.
2007-04-28 16:03:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Just tell him to come right out and say "Mom, you're going to be a Grandma, are you excited?"
2007-04-28 16:12:24 · answer #1 · answered by Sam h 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't take too much time to tell her, she will probably be more angry if you wait. I understand the situation you're in. Example: My mother in law and i did not get along. She too, has a firm belief of marriage before having children. But i was pregnant and not married. My husband and i just sat with her and told her. She wasn't to happy. But after i had the baby that all changed. I think you should both tell her, because it will demonstrate that you are both in this together. She will respect you more, eventually.
2007-04-28 16:33:27 · answer #2 · answered by Alice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations! You just have to tell her. It's not something that you can easily break someone into being okay with. It happens over time. She should understand that it's his life and he's going to do what he wants to do. Do you guys plan on getting married eventually? Maybe you two should discuss it--if that's what you want--so that you can let his mom know about that too. Best of Luck!
2007-04-28 16:20:41 · answer #3 · answered by Lucy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
I think it is a matter of time whether your boyfriend's mum will know it. It may be hard for your boyfriend's mum to accept this, but her as your future in-laws, by respecting her, you should let her know as soon as possible.
Ask your boyfriend to talk to her mum, or even bring you along to clarify the matter. What has been done has already been done, there's no point to pin point who is at fault. Your boyfriend should tell his mum what is his plans, and ask his mum to advise him if needed.
In a family, there shouldn't be any secret, you should share your happiness, and sorrow.
--Edward Choi
2007-04-28 16:20:25 · answer #4 · answered by Edward Choi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she is that religious maybe she thinks that every child is a blessing, soon or later she will understand. Maybe it will take her a long time. Its not easy for her, and like every mom she would like the best for her kids. If you and your bf dotn confront her she will get to know anyways and is just going to make things worst. Did you ever talked to your bf before about what would he do if this happend? is she s single mother, if not then maybe your bf can talk to his dad first.
2007-04-28 16:24:55 · answer #5 · answered by gabyacoolgirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well whats done is done. its not like you can stop being pregnant.. And if your bf is 19 then his mom shouldn't control his life. He should just tell her that and he can do w/e he wants now that hes over the age of 18.
2007-04-28 16:11:21 · answer #6 · answered by heyhey 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You should be there supporting him when he does it and you should be honest with her. Just come out and tell her and present yourselves as a united front able and mature enough to take care of this baby together. She may not be happy, but I guarantee she'll respect you more if you present yourselves as capable adults. Good luck!
2007-04-28 16:11:10 · answer #7 · answered by Jen 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
LIKE A MAN>suck it up and just tell her.
if she is very religious she is not gonna suggest abortion so ur cool on that front.
she will be disappointed and suggest marriage. she will be surprisingly supportive, church ppl love babies. and if his sis has a baby young she will know how to handle it better this time.
2007-04-28 19:06:44 · answer #8 · answered by Not here 2 make friends 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE needs to tell her. Have him either take her to lunch, or invite her over. Let her have her hissy. If you are planning on getting married, then clue her in on that. IF not, that's HER issue not yours.
After the baby is born you'll look back and can't believe you fought over something so trivial.
Good Luck....
2007-04-28 16:18:18 · answer #9 · answered by jeaniesfloral 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
He just has to tell her. Of course she will be disappointed, but she's been expecting it since you two moved in together. If she is really religious, she will understand that people are not perfect, unfortunately.
2007-04-28 16:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by The First Dragon 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋