say you were with a girl for a long time and she really crushed you to the point of never trusting or wanting to be with a woman and you were bi before would that lead to a guy turning gay or is it really impossible to turn gay
2007-04-28 15:39:44 · 20 answers · asked by big 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i think it could happen. honestly i think that is what happens a lot of the time.
2007-04-28 15:43:02 · answer #1 · answered by Am 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am straight and a senior citizen. I don't know if I know enough about homosexuality to ask intelligent questions. In that it precludes the conception of offspring and hence would end a species existence, I do believe that it is unnatural. With my position clear, I will attempt to give you my spin on your situation.
I think "straight" is straight, "bi" is bi and "gay" is gay. A gay man may marry a woman, have children and seek other gay men, stay in the closet or suppress his gay tendencies completely. In my opinion, that makes him no less gay. He is simply forcing himself to appear to live a straight life style.
In other words, if you are truly bi then that is what you are. If you choose to live a gay lifestyle then you are a bi living a gay lifestyle.
It reminds me of a story. A scorpion and frog were on a river bank, both wanting to cross. The scorpion was trying to talk the frog into carrying him across on his back. The frog was scared to do so because he was worried the scorpion would sting him. Finally the scorpion was successful and they set off across the river. Half way across the scorpion stung the frog. The frog was shocked and asked the scorpion why he had stung him, emphasizing that now both of them would die. The only response the frog could get from the scorpion was, "Because I am a scorpion".
Like the leopard's spots, the scorpion's stinger and the zebra's stripes I believe your true sexual orientation is hard wired into your brain. Basically, win, loose or draw you are what you are and that’s the whole thing rolled up into a neat little package.
I hope I have made some sense to you and for you. You seem satisfied with yourself and that is a wonderful thing. Life is too short to force yourself into a mold that just doesn’t fit. Good luck and live the way you feel the most comfortable.
2007-04-28 23:41:59 · answer #2 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are a lot of opinions on this. Nothing is proven. Some people believe that a man can infact be "turned" gay. Others believe men are born gay or straight. I would say that if a man had already come out as being bi, a bad experience with a woman may lead him to turn more towards men, but as a bad experience with a man may lead him to turn more towards women. My personal opinion would be that yes, this is possible, because he was bi.
2007-04-28 22:44:54 · answer #3 · answered by Molly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only thing that will make a person gay is a natural attraction to the same sex. Just like gay guys who marry women and try to be straight and fail, I'm sure a straight guy who tried to be with a guy would have the same problem, no matter how badly women had treated him over the years. If you don't want to screw the person you're with all you have is a friendship.
2007-04-28 22:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by Reject187 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not impossible to turn gay. It's a choice. One that may be caused by feelings or events, but still a choice. As far as the whole predisposition thing goes...it's in our nature as humans to try to find a reason for everything. We don't like to look at ourselves as the cause of anything "bad" or outside the norm. We have to look at ourselves when we make these choices and realize that it was up to us the whole time. I have many gay friends, and not one of them thinks that they were born gay, or that their sexual preference was caused by some chromosome in their DNA.
2007-04-28 22:46:23 · answer #5 · answered by Cassie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gay/Bi/Straight are labels regarding a sexual attraction. If you are truly bisexual you do not 'turn' gay. You will still have the attraction to women, but because of bad experiences you could be less likely to pursue those attractions and more likely to pursue same sex attractions.
2007-04-28 23:03:36 · answer #6 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
a guy is a guy and a gay is a gay, in fact bi's doesn't exist. they are the so called gay trying to cover up the real story. a gay or lesbian is born. no one would turn from straight to gay.
2007-04-28 22:49:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that if you haven't been gay, then you are never going to be. I think that you just need to find the right girl because she was not gods gift to men and she was not the last girl on the face of this earth. It is a big ocean out there so hey...go fishing and have fun.
2007-04-28 22:44:49 · answer #8 · answered by iamajinx 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No amount of trauma or abuse can "turn someone gay". It can and does however effect your choice in mate. You'd still be bisexual however you'd now have an aversion to being with the opposite sex because of past negative experience.
2007-04-28 22:53:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that it is impossible to force being someone or something that you are not. Since you are Bi however, you can stick with the guy scene and run with it.
2007-04-28 23:07:15 · answer #10 · answered by Reece 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't being gay or turning gay. It's about being hurt and turning to the same sex for sympathy. The thing is the same sex can hurt you too.
2007-04-28 22:42:58 · answer #11 · answered by Peggy Pirate 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋