Im 15 years old, and ill be 16 in two weeks. My boyfriend turned 18 this month on the 26th. We have been together for two and a half years. Last week we were at my house, well i live with my 25 year old sister and her boyfriend. And my boyfriend and i were alone in my room(no one was home) and we didn't have protection so we masturbated with each other, and as we were doing it i guess my mom came for a visit and she had a key to my room supposedly and she opened the door really fast and saw everything. After that she closed the door really fast. and ran to the car and went home. She didn't call at all for 3 days, so i called her yesterday and she screamed and cried and stuff on the phone and hanged up in my ear. Now she wont talk to me or pick up the phone, Like come on, Did really do something that bad? What do i do now? Was that gross? I thought it was normal?
2007-04-28 15:38:56 · 9 answers · asked by Britt-R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
when i first read this question yesterday i wasnt going to answer, but now reading the answers ur question hasnt been answerd.
1) what you did was totally normal and congratulationsfor not going all the way
2) since u didnt go all the way, y r people talkin about birth control? if u think you might do it soon, or even just in case its a good idea to have some
3) my living situation is very similar and the same thing hapened to me. actually meand my bf where having oral sex, but its close. so my mom was totally freaked out and didnt talk to me for days (i was also living at my sisters and bfs house) bu then i sent her a long email explaining it. my mom fwas very protcted growing up and actually didnt know what oral sex was, so mabe it could be the same with your mom? well if i were u id just send her an email or note saying u were just playing around and nothing serious hapned, ur sry if she dosnt aprove, if ur not going to og any furter tell her that too, remind her that u guys have been togehter for 3 years and anything else that might calm her down.
hope this one helps!
2007-04-29 05:18:50 · answer #1 · answered by Monkey Lady 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To your mother, yes, you did something bad. Not to mention the fact that you are only 15 and your boyfriend is 18 - if you get pregnant he can go to prison for statutory rape.
In response to your other questions:
Yes you should have known what you did was wrong. Not that it was gross but because you are according to the law, a child. You are a minor.
As for normal heh no it's usually not normal for a child to be engaging in sexual activity with an 18 year old guy. Just because others do it doesn't mean you have to do it.
Neither does the majority of what's being practiced, like teenage sex, makes it right.
My suggestion: phone your Mom, apologize to her, hope you can patch up your relationship with her.
2007-04-28 16:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by daryavaush 5 · 1⤊ 2⤋
You have a rather unusual living situation. I'm not certain what she expected. Premarital sex is obviously something she expects at some point, as she's allowed you to live with your sister and her boyfriend.
I think it would be a bit much to expect her blessing, but perhaps best to say little and see if it will blow over. I'm curious as to what your older sister has to say?
I wouldn't bring it up again with mom. If she brings it up, I wouldn't stand for being screamed at, but I would answer all questions honestly, particularly about protection from pregnancy and STDs, and receiving regular health care, which I hope you are. A sexually active young woman needs to see her gynecologist or appropriate clinician yearly. And if you're not using condoms for all forms of sex, including oral, then you should go to the department of public health (or your doctor) for an HIV screening every 3-6 months.
2007-04-28 16:04:55 · answer #3 · answered by Singinganddancing 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I'm sorry. I was not going to answer this question, but I just had too. First of all, why are you living with your sister and her boyfriend instead of your parents?
I have concerns regarding your mother. Even if she was surprised, shock, embarrassed, etc.. from walking in on you and your boyfriend, she should have given both of you a few minutes to get dressed and had a daughter / mother talk with you. Even if she needed a day to calm down, but three days. You appear to be the mature one to try and talk to her about what happened.
Although I do not agree with teen sex, at least you made the decision to just masturbate with one another. Never heard of anyone getting pregnant from that!
I think that you should let your mother know that when she is ready to talk, you'll be there.
Good Luck!
2007-04-28 16:03:24 · answer #4 · answered by Sapphire 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I can't say yes or no to that question. My boyfriend will be 19 in a few months and yet I am 16 as well. I live with my 33 year old sister and her boyfriend, and well I can't say that sex is wrong. I don't think sex is bad, but our parents don't want to see us grow up so fast, we have to remember we will always be their "babies" no matter how much we just want to clunk them one for it. I would have to say wait for you mom to come back to you, they can't stay mad at you for long. Your mom walking in on you and your boyfriend may have upset her a little and she may need some time to herself. And yes sex is normal.
2007-04-28 18:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i guess its normal but come on you are 15.and your mom saw you.She's probably embarrased as you are.Give her time I guess.and you been going out with him since you were 13? That is way too young.I guess I would freak out to if I caught my kid in bed doin stuff like that.I really don't know.
2007-04-28 15:45:19 · answer #6 · answered by floridagurl 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Well, honey, you're fifteen. You're a kid who got caught by her mom doing adult things. Are you ready to be a mom? Because if you're having sex, you could end up one. And then put yourself in your mom's position in fifteen years. You could end up a 30-year-old grandma. You're fifteen. Go to school, hang out with friends, be a kid.
2007-04-28 15:46:06 · answer #7 · answered by hoff_mom 4 · 3⤊ 2⤋
you are 15 and he is 18, In most states that is statutory rape and his name goes on the sexual predator list
2007-04-28 16:57:10 · answer #8 · answered by just_my_2_cents 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow girl..idk...well your mom is hurt right now...i mean im sure your like wtf y would she be hurt..but your her or was her little girl and thats going to be hard for any parent to see there kid getting it on with her bf...i would just give it some time...if she loves you witch im sure she does..she will come to her sences and not think of it as a bad thing
2007-04-28 15:46:23 · answer #9 · answered by Deena Rose 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋