I have a friend that married a man with 3 children. She is an alcoholic but does not drink around the kids. She feels that she should leave him so he will be happier. The only problem in their marriage is that she drinks too much sometimes and falls asleep in the recliner, he doesn't like that. Should she leave so he can be happier, he worships the ground she walks on.
2007-04-28 15:01:38 · 22 answers · asked by peach 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
Sounds like your friend needs an intervention. She is not in the right frame of mind. To choose to leave what sounds to be a good man that worships the ground she walks on, over drinking means. That she is crying out for help to find some answers. It is definitely not a good environment for his children to see this happen. Even though she doesn't drink around the children, They know! You can call your local AA center and find out what you can do as a family to help her get the help that she needs. They may even have someone that can come to the intervention to point her in the right direction. In any case SHE has to want to change!
2007-04-28 15:35:44 · answer #1 · answered by lsjcmo3 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving would be selfish. She needs to admit her problem, fess up to the fact that alcohol doesn't just affect the person who drinks, and get help. If she left, her devout and loving husband would be left alone with 3 kids. Is that fair to him? No! I know what it's like to want to dissapear. Alcoholics don't drink for no reason. You need to find someone to talk to about how you are feeling and why you are unhappy.
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2007-04-28 22:34:23 · answer #2 · answered by Lex 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds Like U should be Giving her an Intervention . Have her go get help that way she can come back and be with him and he can be with her. U need to seriously reevaluate your relationship with your friend. If she is Your friend and u care about her and U Obviously know that she is an alcoholic then U all need to get together and ask her to go to rehab not leave him..Whether she stays or not she is killing herself and u are just sitting by asking this (im sorry) stupid question..The question u should be asking is Why am I not helping my friend have a long life? I know u did not put her here... But U all need to get together and help her get out of where she is...If not U need to just stop contact with her. There is no need for you to be around/friends with someone who is not going to help themselves. I am sure if He loves her like u say that he will be more then happy to help u get her into somewhere where she can get help. I hope u take my advice... good luck
2007-04-28 22:09:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. You should try telling her to reconsider. Because alcohol is just temporary it won't fill her happiness through life. Family is important. & She needs to be willing to find help from family friends or anyone she can, when she decided to get married to him, she promised to be with him through thick & thin & this is the moment, alcohol is not hard to overcome. Trust me, I know. Try helping her with your best. When it's all over, your family is together happily, she'll feel as if she's on top of the world. So will her kids & husband
2007-04-28 22:12:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She has to get some sort of treatment for her alcoholism first! If she can't afford going to a rehab center, then have her attend Alcoholics Anonymous meetings (which only asks for a small donation.)
If he loves her the way you say she does, he will help her non stop...and based on that she should NOT leave him. If he is NOT the problem, leaving the guy would be the WORST thing she could do.
But definitely GET HELP!
2007-04-28 22:07:15 · answer #5 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No she needs to go into rehab and get a life she also needs to get help with her depression because that is most likely the cause of her alcoholism and when she gets help with that she will be a far better person and she will be more happier and more confident.
2007-04-28 22:06:21 · answer #6 · answered by Mary O 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Gee, wouldn't it be simpler to work on the alcohol problem, then leave a man and 3 kids? Sounds like the smarter, more mature decision than just running away.
2007-04-28 22:05:47 · answer #7 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
No the guy should leave him!!! She shouldn't be the one thinking of leaving, she's so selfish. What makes your friend think that her husband is not thinking of leaving her? Probably the husband is using a nickname here and asking for the same advice! LOL.
Seriously, she should fix herself up before it's too late!
2007-04-28 22:09:46 · answer #8 · answered by pinkdot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she should get help for her alcoholism. I don't think she should leave him if he truly loves her. He will probably be there to help her get through this. My dad was an alcoholic for MANY years, and he got through it and has now been sober for 6 years.
2007-04-28 22:07:30 · answer #9 · answered by Stark 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well, if he worships the ground she walks on, maybe he could help her with her problem.
2007-04-28 22:04:52 · answer #10 · answered by johN p. aka-Hey you. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋