I have found myself single after over 30 years. How do you meet people when you've been out of circulation for so long?
2007-04-28 14:56:36 · 16 answers · asked by queenbee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
A lot of good answers for you. I'd add it will be one step at a time. I wouldn't try to do too much at one time; but I sure would do something soon to lift you spirit. Fortunately, spring and summer around the corner is a good time to get out and enjoy not only the outdoors but everyone out there. My mom died a few years ago after her and my dad had been married for 40 years. My dad said he wasn't going to do anything major the first year alone; but within that year he had a new sweetie. So, you never know. There are a lot of great men and women out there like yourself looking to meet someone and enjoy their company. ENJOY!
2007-04-28 16:54:01 · answer #1 · answered by Waterboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess the question is how do you meet people, period. Marriage or not marriage before, today is simply difficult to meet people. I have many single or divorced friends, and they don't know what to do...I guess volunteering, or taking art classes, or photography...Or look for dating clubs (they have 30 something, 40 something activities, at least in DC there are plenty of these groups).
But it all sounds like a lot of work...
2007-04-28 15:03:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I won't lie to you, it is not easy, but don't fight living the rest of your life because you don't want to let go. That is what happened to me. 30 years ended and I pulled the trigger after I realized I was married to someone who tried to break it up over and over again and I wouldn't let go. I realized that I had to let go and it surprised the hell out of everyone. You will be fine, I promise you. Be patient. Let your friends help you. Let your kids help you. You don't need to explain a darn thing to anyone. Just live. Peace be with you. And it will be there. Pray. Meditate and do good things for yourself. Get rid of the anger and get some therapy. It helps with the right person.
2016-05-21 03:13:53 · answer #3 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well...initially it is not about meeting people. You already know a lot of them anyway. It is getting adjusted and focusing on you rather than we. Now is your chance to do as you like. You need to find your own "center." This newfound independence is only threatening at first. I do hope you will find it exhilarating after a time...and if you are one of the lucky ones you will guard that independence with your life. Best of Luck...you're not alone out there all by yourself. Good question for everyone to learn from.
2007-04-28 15:07:55 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not easy at all . Things have changed so much from 30 years ago its unbelievable .Don't think your going to go into a club or bar and find anyone there all our kids in there or old drunks . Try some date sites that's about all there is meeting people our age that aren't drunks . But if your a drunk then hit the bars I just cant get into it my ex was a drunk and hell. Good luck to you .
2007-04-28 15:18:15 · answer #5 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What do you like to do? How about some volunteer work? Classes? Your Church? Mentoring at your local schools? Community Theatre? Big Brothers/Big Sisters, Special Olympics? Art classes? A new hobby? How about a pet? Sports? Adult literacy? There are a lot of people that would LOVE to have you!
2007-04-28 15:06:50 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I am glad you had the nerve to get out after such a long time, I feel for you, I hope you future endevours will be happier ones, I wish you the best, dont push yourself to find someone, take it easy and the right person will show up.
All the best
2007-04-28 15:09:06 · answer #7 · answered by arnold s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get out with friends and mingle in places that have singles. Surround yourself with as many singles as possible. Meet new people and friends. U never know who their brother is! lol
Good luck to u hun.
2007-04-28 15:01:31 · answer #8 · answered by Truth Teller 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about meeting people. Do some of the things you always wanted to do, and never made the time for. You need to take time to make friends with yourself, and to heal.
2007-04-28 17:04:02 · answer #9 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You join clubs, as much as it seems a shock to you, you will find that this new lifestyle may well be enjoyable. Give it a shot as there are always others in your same position who are looking for exactly what you are.
Good luck and enjoy.
2007-04-28 15:04:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋