2007-04-28 14:27:17 · 34 answers · asked by peach 4 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Polls & Surveys
ummmm wow not me just asking a question. I know someone who is and is a great mom and wife but drinks.
2007-04-28 14:34:37 · update #1
They can be a good mom. However, if they are hiding their addiction, they are not being good to themselves. In the long run, it could result in them hurting their own body because of the over consumption of alcohol. In return, the spouse and the children suffer, because either mom needs a new liver or heart because of her over consumption of alcohol. The medical issues that can arise from over consumption to the mother, does affect both the spouse and the children. A mother can be good but she needs to take care of herself to make sure she is around to make sure she is good to her spouse and her children in the future.
2007-04-28 14:34:53 · answer #1 · answered by hbuckmeister 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to say this. I know alot of people will rationalize that IF you never endanger anyone its all going to be fine. But this is the truth.
I have known alot of children of alcoholics, and I havent met ONE who had a happy childhood.
Even if you don't drive drunk with your kids and beat them with your high heeled shoes while screaming like a monster, there are alot of other effects from your drinking.
Money is probably being spent irresponsibly while more important things are neglected, for instance.
Also the kids grow up with a very weird parent/child dynamic that takes alot of therapy to break out of. The kids often become codependent and latch onto other dysfunctional partners as adults.
You will be a poor role model. Your kids are more likely to model your choices, and they will see the way you make excuses for everything you do instead of trying to make your life better.
They will either be angry at you for it or mimic that.
There are alot of other things. But seriously. With all the excellent programs, alcohol clinics, counseling, and treatment centers out there, I think the best thing an alcoholic mom could do for her kids is just get some help. It seems like the help is there if you ask for it.
Sorry but your defending the alcoholic already makes you sound codependent. That is exactly the situation the kids get put in. Making excuses for their parent, defending their parent, cleaning up after their parent's mistakes, tip toe-ing around their parents weird mood swings while rationalizing things that just aren't rational.
Are you her daughter?
2007-04-28 14:39:24 · answer #2 · answered by julliana 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Does she "drink" or is she an alcoholic? There is a big differecne and you don't seem clear on which? But all alcoholics by nature have trouble with personal relationships, cannot control their emotional natures, are prey to misery and depression, oftentimes cannot make a living, have a feeling of uselessness, are full of fear, are unhappy, and just cannot seem to be of real help to other people. They suffer from selfishness and self-centered thought and behaviors and are usually restless, irritable and generally discontent about their lives.
Now, if these characteristic make for good parenting . . . well . . . . I think this answers the question, does it not?
Real alcoholics grow quite good at putting up a good front. Who you see as a good parent may not be as "good" as you think.
Peace,
Danny S
2007-04-29 13:55:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being an Alcoholic is impairing the decision making part of that person's life and getting help for that person is important. I believe it is endangering.
2007-04-28 14:31:08 · answer #4 · answered by silveysista 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No, I don't believe that an alcoholic can be a good Mother or Father because they are not giving all of themselves to their children and all children deserve nothing but the best of their parents.
2007-04-28 14:37:53 · answer #5 · answered by regina g 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it isn't a good mom that dies young because of her dirty habit and leaves behind people that will be needing and wanting her after she is gone. She does endanger by example. A good mom will correct her alcoholic behavior.
2007-04-28 14:30:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
No...I don't believe that is possible.
Alcoholism affects EVERYONE in the household, and though it may not physically endanger the kids' lives, or the spouses', the affects of alcoholism reach far beyond that...
2007-04-28 14:30:51 · answer #7 · answered by ♥♥Mrs SSG B♥♥ 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
If the person is an alcoholic, they might do something accidently when they are drunk to endanger their children or spouse.
2007-04-28 14:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by Moll 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
peach, kids learn that its ok to damage/hurt yourself,,,,,,you can't be a good mom if kids pick up moms inconsistency,,,they will express the same or similar self destructive behaviour later on,,,,,,,maybe risky skateboarding,risky sex,,DUIs,,etc etc,,,,,this doesn't mean mom doesn't love the kids,,,,,,,,mom ought to admit what everyone probably already knows,she has a drinking problem and wants to do something about it,,,,there maybe a couple downslides till she does it for good......she can probably do it,,,she should start......good luck peach
2007-04-28 14:40:47 · answer #9 · answered by quackpotwatcher 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
an alcoholic can not serve 2 masters (alcohol and her children). she will not be present as a mother even if she does nothing to put her children physically in harms way. An alcholic who does not want to wound her children should go to AA and get sober.
2007-04-28 14:32:04 · answer #10 · answered by G&L 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋