Today is my fraternitys formal and my fiance has known about it for the past three months. She went to visit her family this morning and turns out her sister is sick so she cant take her younger sister to the Gwen Stephani concert. She told me she might not go with me now to formal because since her sister is sick she is getting a guilt trip about "picking a boy over a sister" is that all I am? A boy? I thought I was her fiance!
2007-04-28 12:17:29 · 23 answers · asked by DJ C 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The sister is not dying, she has a common cold. Sorry for the mixup!
2007-04-28 12:24:25 · update #1
You have a right to be upset. This is a special occassion for you that has been planned for some time. A formal cannot be rescheduled at a moments notice. It is assinine of her family to give her a guilt trip for this. She should be condemming them for even thinking about making her choose. If there is someone else there to give her trouble, there is someone else there to take her sister to the concert.
I'm reading some of the answers from others and I can't believe the number of people who are stupid enough to think you don't have a right to be upset. Goes to show you that there are a lot of assinine, unfeeling people in this world.
2007-04-28 12:21:55 · answer #1 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Alrighty then. I guess you know where you stand now in your future relationship. Now you gotta understand, her family should come before you but not for a cold! Damn what an awkward situation. OK, you need to call her and tell her how much this event means to you, its a once in a life time etc, offer to take her and her younger sister to a gwen stephani concert later or something, its not gonna be her last. Theres got to be a compromise.
2007-04-28 19:48:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance stays with her sister instead of going with you, I would end the engagement, or at least think about it more. This sister will be giving you hell throughout your marriage. The sister should be telling your fiance to go and have a good time. It sounds like this sister is jealous of the relationship you and her sister have. I would watch out for her because she sounds like a trouble maker.
2007-04-28 22:02:00 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, you have every right to be upset with her!! Now I am upset with her!! Where is her sister parents? does she have others sibling that can stay with her? does she have a boyfriend to sit with her? that is a bunch of crab grass....just remind her that you're her fiance' and not a boy and you have plan this event for three months. There is no reason why she can't go with you to your fraternity's formal. Her illness is not life threatening so, why can she attend?
good luck and I hope that she go with you.
2007-04-28 19:30:45 · answer #4 · answered by Thomas 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While your fiance takes the younger sister to the concert, go over and see the sick sister, roll her over and give her some hot monkey love to make her feel better. Screw the formal, you just did her sister...ha, that will teach her to dump you next time.
2007-04-28 19:25:02 · answer #5 · answered by photoguy1967 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes you have a right to be upset. Someone else could take her sister to the concert. It's very rude and I am sure you spent quite a bit of money.
If that is the way her family thinks then I would question their morals. She made a committment to you and it should be kept.
2007-04-28 19:21:05 · answer #6 · answered by bobbi123 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You have ever right to be upset but talking to us won't solve your problem. You should definitely have a heart to heart conversation with your fiance.She's going to have to learn to put you before her family because soon you'll be her family. When I became engaged, I had problems doing this as well. I'd drop everything and run, if my brother needed anything at all. My fiance finally had to point it out to me and while it's not easy- I'm getting better at it.
Talk to her and explain your feelings.
2007-04-28 19:24:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun, sorry to have to say this, but she, your fiance, chooses her sister over you. Not a very good thing for a potential marriage. If she is doing it now, she will always choose her family first. Ask yourself, can i live as second best?
2007-04-28 19:23:07 · answer #8 · answered by Purity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, she has a very legit excuse here. Asfor her comment about a boy, just take it as she in under alot of stress worrying about her sister and probably isnt thinking too straight right now. Besides you probably have been giving her a hard time over this thus acting like a little"boy" instead of a man. Better start showing some concern here before you lose everything> Remember blood comes before love in any relationship so get used to it
2007-04-28 19:29:37 · answer #9 · answered by Arthur W 7 · 1⤊ 3⤋
OUCH...good point. You aren't just a "boy"...you are her future husband. Question - Her sister, is she dying? Or does she have a cold. I think that would make the difference.
2007-04-28 19:21:38 · answer #10 · answered by ladydrea2918 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋