I am an FTM and I am still in high school. I want to go to prom, but obviously I do not want to wear a dress. My mom knows about my gender issues but isn't comfortable/doesn't really believe me, and my dad has no idea. They both say that I will be kicked out of prom unless I wear a dress. My school's dress code and dance protocol don't say anything about biogirls having to wear dresses. I really want to go, and I am paying for the suit and the ticket myself.
Can my school really kick me out of the prom for showing up in dress pants, a dress shirt, a tie, and a jacket (just like the bioguys) instead of wearing a dress?
If so, what action can I take against this discrimination? It is a Catholic school, mind.
2007-04-28 12:02:51 · 7 answers · asked by Rat 7 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Just me! -- Thanks. I'm actually an atheist, so I don't care what Jesus would think... I care about what the school could do. I mentioned that it is a Catholic school because that helped convey that the administration is pretty conservative and that it is not subject to the same anti-discrimination laws as a public school.
Mark -- I certainly hope they can't do anything. But they're a private institution, and I don't think that there's anything I can do, even if they're in the wrong.
Amy Az -- My parents are not understanding in this matter.
Tina -- I don't think that I should have to ask the school for permission on what I have to wear, but it appears that that is the case. I do not want to cause trouble, I just want to go to prom and have a good time like everyone else. But I may just have a friend or two document the proceedings in case something goes awry.
2007-04-29 13:33:02 · update #1
Asking the school would be the best answer.
But if you wanted to make a little trouble....go in "guys" clothes and have a friend with a camcorder. If they give you any trouble and kick you out, have that camera rolling.
Then send it into the news people to play on the air.
2007-04-29 00:55:56 · answer #1 · answered by Tina Goody-Two-Shoes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Being a catholic school they can do what they want freedom of religion.I am also transgendered I say talk to your parents if they support you then go to the school and ask them what their policy is.If they allow you great but if they don't you have to understand your dealing with a religiuos organization.I hope that your parents can be understanding for you but you have to understand that you are telling them that your not the daughter they gave birth to and it can take time for them to come around.If your parents or school are not accepting you can try talking to a state social worker or since it's your prom it means that your close to being of age just grin and bear it till your on your own.
2007-04-28 20:22:20 · answer #2 · answered by Amy m 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wear your finest suit and go to your prom being proud and secure of who you really are! It's their issue.
2007-04-28 22:44:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They can't do anything. If they do, you may be able to file a grievance against them for discrimination based on sexual orientation.
2007-04-28 19:43:38 · answer #4 · answered by Busta 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
they probably won't care about it unless they figure out you are ftm, then they would be all upset... being a catholic school and all.
2007-04-28 19:17:43 · answer #5 · answered by ambientdiscord 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jesus loves you for who you are!
I'm sure he doesn't care what you ware...:)
2007-04-28 19:26:42 · answer #6 · answered by Just me! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself!
2007-04-28 19:07:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋