i am a victim of child sexual abuse please help?

Question

i am a victim of child sexual abuse and the case fell through because of the cps didnt think it was in the public interest coz he already in prison. it happend 8 years ago. i told some 1 8 months ago and i still cant get to grips with it. ive had counciling and go to the docs every now and agen but i need somthin to make me feel better ...plz help

Answer 1

r u scared that he may come back? im sure u are safe.
just remember that none of this is your fault. you did nothing to provoke this. your worth has NOTHING to do with what happened to you.
the best thing to do is move on because u cant change the past. u can though control the future.

the abuser may have violated you physically which you couldnt control cause u were a kid, but he didnt violate u mentally. thats where ur worth is , in your brain and soul..that is your essence. he could not have violated your essence because your essence is intangible and limitlessly strong.
and your worth isnt based on the physical but how you act, carry yourself and what contribute to the world and most importantly yourself.
you were and are a strong person.
his purpose was to try to destroy you. he didnt. your purpose is opposite of his. your purpose is fruitful and loving. so go love life and yourself.

i hate to sound dramatic and corny, but honestly this is how i feel. use ur strong spirit for a higher purpose.

Answer 2

I am so sorry that you had to go through this horrible experience, just why the hell are the cps not doing any thing about this B*****d do they think that when he gets out of prison that he will be a reformed person. If they wont do any thing then you have no choice but to write to the papers and your local councillor and try again to bring a case against this pervert and get him off the streets.

Answer 3

Sorry to hear all this, i know it's going to be hard but the best thing to do would be to try and forget everything and look ahead in life rather than back. i have gone through some abuse too when i was a child, but now im a very happy married women with two lovely little boys!

Cut bad parts out of your life and keep all the good parts in to your life, so whenever your sitting down lonely, you can always remember the happy moments of your life which would put a lovely smile on your face!

I would stay start your life all fresh again, try going out with freinds, have good times and start doing things that you enjoy doing, hope i've helped you, and i wish you lots of happiness in life.

Answer 4

Don't put such pressure on yourself. You will be dealing with this unfortunate tragedy for quite some time. That's what happens when those bastards take your self-confidence and esteem. You are not required to get up, brush yourself off and act like nothing happened. You have been through a severe traumatic experience, and have not seen justice for your suffering (even though he is in prison already). You need to have regular visits with your docs and keep it up for a while. There is no overnight cure, unfortunately. I am very sorry for what has happened to you. If you search on just this site alone, you will find many people who have had the same thing happen to them, and you will see that they are still struggling to cope and they get better a bit with each passing day. It will take time to rebuild what has been brought down. But, you CAN and WILL do it. Just give yourself time. Please believe in yourself!

Answer 5

Try counselling again.Maybe find a different counsellor.Make sure it's one you trust.

If that still fails consider other kinds of therapy-hypnotherapy etc.

As for the CPS-I mean what is wrong with them?If the sicko was found guilty of abusing you that would keep him in jail longer and how is that not in the public interest?

I feel bad for you.I hope you find help that works for you.

Answer 6

I am so very sorry to hear of your plight.
I'm absolutely disgusted that the Police would not prosecute this ANIMAL who did this to you.
He should be brought to justice and have his stay behind bars extended for a very long time.
Not being medically trained, I'm afraid I can't help you...I only wish I could.
I think you should go back to your GP again and get more support from him/her.
I hope one day with the right support you will maybe be able to put this horrible experience behind you find the strength to enjoy a happy life again.
I wish you the best of luck in whatever you do in life.
Best wishes. XX

Answer 7

I would suggest trying to fill your life with as many positive things as possible. Also, I have realized over time that one of the best things to do when you're in pain, other then what I said above, is to talk to people that have gone through similiar situations. Try to find out if there is a local group of sex abuse victims that meet, or if you're not comfy with that, try googling groups online. There has to be an online group for sex abuse victims. If you need help finding one, email me. :)

Answer 8

Try counseling again. Only try somewhere else, you need to ensure that you have a certain level of comfort with the individual who is helping you through this process. Keep in mind whoever you speak with (professional) they are bound by laws of confidentiality and can not speak about your situation to anyone. Try to find someone who specializes in childhood trauma or ptsd. Don't give up you can get through this with a bit of assistance and live a more full-filling life. God bless****

Answer 9

I don't think there's anything anyone can do, hon. You've been hurt physically and mentally, and no one can change that. If you think the person should really go to jail then speak out against them again! Don't be afraid.
There's no way to erase this abuse from your mind, but try not to think about it at all, ok? Instead, think about the finer points in life. Hang out with your friends and family. Keep yourself busy, so it won't wander into your mind. Hope this helped! ^^

Answer 10

It is really sad but what you most need at this time is professional help as well as an active support system that only your family, friends or teachers can provide you. Remember, your life is precious and you have to lead a quality life. You have to forget the painful past and move on.