They work together and she was afraid but at the same time did'nt want to hurt his feelings.She let him finish got up came home showered and never spoke about it until now 30 years later and cryed like it just happened. She even work there for some time then found another job. Someone help explain this to me
2007-04-28 10:22:21 · 6 answers · asked by michael g 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look man, here's the deal. My wife was raped by her cousin when she was very young, around 7. He was nearly 20. I didn't learn of this until she told me after we'd been married for about 10 years. I know how you feel. I wanted to kill him. You really need to try to stop thinking about it. What is done is done. If your wife needs help, get it for her but stop thinking about revenge. It will only make things worse.
2007-04-28 10:27:51 · answer #1 · answered by fabrat1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thirty years ago rape victims were made to feel like they were at fault for the crime. The thinking back then was very primitive. Women who were raped were told it was their fault because of the way they dressed or acted. They must have done something to ask for it. Thank God, things are different today. People recognize that rape vicitims are victims of violence and are not asking to be attacked.
When someone has a traumatic experience that is not faced and dealt with at the time, the emotions are buried and eventually have to come out. This woman buried those emotions for 30 years and finally got to a point in her life where she was able to bring them up and let them out.
After 30 years and with no evidence it will be extremely difficult to convict even if the rapist is still around. I'm not sure what the statute of limitations is on rape. This woman has some healing to do and hopefully will be able to fully recover.
It's important that anyone attacked in any way report the crime to make sure it doesn't happen again. Too many women worry about how someone else will feel and put themselves last. This has to change.
2007-04-28 10:35:16 · answer #2 · answered by innerradiancecoaching 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-04 01:34:18 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably she was feeling guilt compounded by shame... People sometimes repress feelings for years until something triggers them and everything comes back as fresh as the day it happened. Therapy should help so the guilt wont manifest itself in a negative and destructive way.
2007-04-28 10:29:32 · answer #4 · answered by with2kids 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as women sometimes we think we bring it on... that we must have just said, or did something to Make a guy do that... he may have told her that... and she couldnt tell anyone because she was ashamed
2007-04-28 10:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to go talk to someone!!!!
2007-04-28 10:25:13 · answer #6 · answered by texas tornado 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋