i'm disappointed maybe it's because that i was never lucky in my life
2007-04-28 09:58:38 · 4 answers · asked by korn_soaddd 2 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
well if by the love you mean a partner, don't worry about it so much. Try to boost your confidence and play the field a little. After awhile, that someone will come to you.
If your problems are deeper than that, I would suggest counceling
2007-04-28 10:04:18 · answer #1 · answered by kaispr1 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A Nerd's Guide to the art of Love, Chapter 1.
"7 steps to getting the girl...hopefully"
1. BE HONEST!!!
Even if it makes u look like the nerd u really are... Just keep it real.
Spare any embarrasing details, but never lie. A good girl will appreciate it.
2. MAKE TIME!!!
Even if it's 30 minutes a day...
Be consistant! A girl will notice that and it will earn you points.
No girl wants to feel left alone and unapreciated so the first step to making her feel like she's important is to give her your time.
3. PAY ATTENTION!!!
Everything about a girl is in the details.
Notice the chance in her smile, her walk, her hair... Everything. There's something in it for you too! The more you pay attention, the more you know about the girl... which brings us to:
4. GIVE HER WHAT SHE WANTS!!!
if you paid attention you know she likes yellow roses and ferrer-rocher
chocolates... So? Give it to her!
Its not always about a diamond.. Its also about the little things!
5. GIVE HER WHAT SHE NEEDS!!!
Make sure that you never let her wants outweigh her needs...
what she may WANT will always change, but what she will NEED will always be some of the following things..
caring, support, nuturing, patience and security, among other things...
it won't matter that you bring her flowers if you don't look into her eyes and make her feel secure that you love her. She has to KNOW without a shadow of a doubt that you will always be there for her and that her opinions matter to you too! Be involved in the things she likes or at least make an effort to ask how those things make her feel... if she works, ask her how her day went and DON'T answer ur phone or watch TV while doing it. Make her the CENTER OF YOUR UNIVERSE... cuz that's what SHE NEEDS to be sometimes.
6. UNDERSTAND HER!!!
If you know her details this one's easy... Unfortunately most guys dont... That's why they won't. Make sense?
Ok.
let her talk.. Let her tell you how she feels about stuff and learn to appreciate her side of things... Once you appreciate the way she thinks, look at things you say from that perspective to see how she will be affected by them.
Its important to understand how she will react to something BEFORE you say it so that you don't make an *** out of yourself.
7. BE HER FRIEND!!!
People will always tell you to avoid the "friend zone" when trying to get the girl... But if you're looking for a meaningful relationship it has to start THERE! If she can trust you enough as a friend to know you won't hurt her... And won't lie to her... The transition to boyfriend is easier. And if it ever DOESNT work... You will always have her as a friend.
2007-04-28 17:02:30 · answer #2 · answered by Supreme 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask God to set this in motion, and then Praise and glorify God! Ask him to guide your life and then go to the banquet of heavenly gifts at the table that are there for us if we but ask!
2007-04-28 17:05:33 · answer #3 · answered by kim 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first you have to love Christ . then you have to love yourself.
then trust Christ . then just play the cards your delt and dont worry about the rest . as long as you keep playing your winning.
2007-04-28 17:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋