I've been seeing this guy we had a conversation where it appeared that he was a bit upset because I thought the relationship was a friends-with-benefits type and he may have considered it more (but he never told me...well, maybe with his actions but I didn't pick up on them.) I was definitely doing a little CYA with my emotions because I was afraid to get rejected....
Anyway, I got asked out on a date by another guy and talked to him about it and he grudgingly told me I could go (lol) with the other guy......everything was fine and then we didn't talk for about 4 days. I realized I really had no interest in the other guy but felt silly putting my life on hold if there is no future with him. I finally txt him and said "I miss you" and he responded like everything was fine but never said it back.
So I am wondering if a guy who had an ego blow like I unintentionally gave him would pull in the reigns, so to speak.....because he has told me he missed me before, but it seems like it's a struggle for him to verbalize. And I think he is scared about having feelings but I am not sure....I catch him looking at me like he wants to say something and then he doesn't. You'd think we were friggin' teenagers, huh? Sorry to sounds pathetic - lol.
Did I mention I think I am in love with him?
2007-04-28 09:55:38 · 13 answers · asked by Clarissa 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, he sputtered and said "He hadn't been in a relationship for so long he didn't know how" and acted skittish at the thought of that so what in the name of all that is holy was I supposed to think? :-) Was he just too scared? Or did he feel like he didn't want to hold me back (we live 1 1/2 hrs. away from eachother)....cripes. I swear, there are times when he looks at me and I can see it on his face and then it disappears.....
2007-04-28 10:14:32 · update #1
Miss Chrissa, Honey it"s time you know some of us guys are terrified of opening up ! I am 46 but some things never change. Most guys deny it but some of us fall fast and deep but are afraid to share it for fear of getting laughed at or rejected !
2007-04-28 10:10:07 · answer #1 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you thought it was a "friends with benifits" relationship, you were obviously having sex with him.
So, I would guess that he thought it was much more than that.
Hell yes you hurt him.
You acted like your relationship was no big deal and told him you were going out with someone else.
HELLO
That's why sex is such a difficult thing to play around with like that, because the intimacy means much more to some than others, and if you are just doing it with no emotion attached you can hurt you partner immensly by assuming that they have the same attitude about it.
He probably didn't think he had to tell you he thought it was more, because to him the sex meant that you were a couple.
2007-04-28 10:12:04 · answer #2 · answered by Mr R 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
certain, and there are distinct circumstances after we are truly to chicken. From the sounds of it your an captivating female and that the guy isn't constructive that u will say certain, that is maximum in all possibility he has tried to ask u yet been terrified of being rejected. So the perfect element to do is to confer with him tell him how u experience and that i'm certain he will agree. And if no longer whats the worst he can say enable's in simple terms be acquaintances.
2016-11-23 13:15:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what women say about a guy that doesn't talk with you very much or gets mad at you for going out with someone else. "I love him". Well if you loved him so much why did you go out with the other guy? But it's not your fault it's his because he needs to step up and become a man and not act like a kid. But some guys are like that. SO talk with hima nd tell him how you feel and see what he says and does. But if I was you I would move on because he needs to grow up before he can tell you how he feels. Or just IM or e-mail me anytime and we can chat, I need a friend with benefits.
2007-04-28 10:03:40 · answer #4 · answered by John S 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Dude you are both in love with each other and you ARE acting like teenagers! One of you should just make a move! Cute story though.
2007-04-28 09:59:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes most guys put on a act but are usually shy to ask the one they live or more out just give him time or ask him
2007-04-28 09:58:25 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
im not a chicken, but sometimes depending on the vibe i get or how much i like a woman, i may be a bit shy. but NEVER a chicken about anything
2007-04-28 10:04:20 · answer #7 · answered by TrueGemini 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Face to face time, huh?
Time to clear the air.
Flip a coin.
One talks, the other listens, then repeats what they heard.
Switch.
NO INTERRUPTIONS!
Negotiate: you both get what you need.
Tact. You care - show it!
Your move. Get him to do this.
Start fresh.
2007-04-28 10:02:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes of course i have. fear of rejection is a *****.
i think i've miss out on a lot of good times by being bashful.
if your in love let it be known.
2007-04-28 10:06:31 · answer #9 · answered by ♥mtnsky♥ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some of us do have a hard time verbalizing...ask him to write you a letter explaining his feelings.
2007-04-28 10:05:46 · answer #10 · answered by swindlebobby 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋