Ok..i have fallen in love with a married man i started to work with.. I know its wrong but this is the case and he says he loves me too. Thing is he has filed for divorce and is on the last steps. Him and his wife dont live together, and his got the custody of his kids. However we have talked about being together properly and we do talk on the phone and meet regularly. My problem is he doesnt take me to his home or let me meet his kids as his gf. He says he wants to buy another house eventually, because he dont like the memories of his current house he used to share with his wife.
Also it seems that he never has romantic time for us, and his kids or work are always the reason why his cancelling our dates.. I love him but im scared of the future and feel confused what to do. I have tried to end it but its hard because i feel like his the only man who really knows me and i love him. Any suggestions?
2007-04-28 09:25:31 · 14 answers · asked by Kittykat 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Sometimes i even worry that if we end up together as a couple his kids wouldnt like it..
2007-04-28 09:26:38 · update #1
His kids are 6 ,8 and 13
2007-04-28 09:27:46 · update #2
I'm so sorry...you have fallen victim in this sinful situation. I know that when you tell him that you love him then you are being sincere, but I am not sure about his so called love. If a man really loved you then he wouldn't put you in this situation. You truly have no idea what is going on with he and his wife because he doesn't allow you to have contact with his children. Heck, he doesn't even allow you to come over. Don't buy the line he told you about memories. He has something to hide and the longer you blind yourself with his deceitful love then the longer you live in the dark!
Letting go is never easy and it is not intended to be. You love him, but love doesn't love anyone. He has taken your feelings and planted lies. He planted lies that he knew you'd believe. But somewhere deep in your heart you know the truth. You don't want it to be the truth, but it is. This man is lying to you in some way. Find out the truth and set your heart free. No one deserves to be the other woman. And the wife doesn't deserve the pain she isn't aware of yet!
2007-04-28 09:36:15 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
His kids should be his top priority. If he has to cancel some dates with you because of his kids then good!!
Don't be childish about the fact that he has other priorities in his life than you!
Shame on you for even getting involved with a married man! You have now ruined 5 peoples lives. Three of them innocent bystanders in life. Those children have no control over anything and you just added chaos to their lives!
You should NOT get together with this man while his children are under the age of 18!! Go on dates and stuff, when his wife has visitation.
Don't try to through your feelings into this already stress full bowl!
2007-05-05 08:47:43 · answer #2 · answered by Shawna H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It may work, it may not. The question you need to be honest with yerself about is WHY he won't take you to his house. He says his wife isnt living there and he has custody of the kids , fine. But if he wants you in his life why hasn't you met his kids?? Me would think twice be4 me got any more involved. And then run for the hills.
Me thinks you should get out of this relationship now. Because something smells rotten. And the rotten smell is coming from him. Sorry if this is shattering any illusions you have of Mr RIght. He is Mr Wrong.
2007-05-05 05:59:50 · answer #3 · answered by newfieswoman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is lying to you, if he really loved you then he would already be divorced, he is just telling you things to make you stay around and plant the seed that you may eventually have him for yourself, he still lives with his wife that is why he hasnt brought you over to the house, and the very reason why he doesnt have any romantic time for you, the kids are not the reason why he cancels dates it is because he has things to do with his family which is wife is very much apart of, leave this guy alone, he is only playing games with you and has set you up right where he wants you to be in his life, waiting for him when you are just the other woman who only gets bits and pieces of him if that, you have to want better for yourself, there are plenty of single men out in the world who you could be with.....
2007-05-01 09:51:46 · answer #4 · answered by MidnightSkies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's an always present conscious energy that creates reality, even without us perceiving it through our minds. Although our mind's perceptions contribute to our individual reality, and each of our brains working together as a group, may even have an effect on physical reality, the universe still will exist separate from us perceiving it. Reality is created by universal consciousness that doesn't necessitate physical minds, but physical minds do need it in order to perceive objects. This is what I believe, tentatively, without proof, but better than any other theory about the source of all existence.
2016-05-21 00:42:13 · answer #5 · answered by annis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
probably didnt have time for his estranged wife either. its about the kids and not you. youll be back seat to the kids in this case or youll become the babysitter if he's always working. doesnt seem like he's ready for an adult to be wanting his attention. perhaps you dont give him the impression that youre interested in taking over 'step mommy' type role but instead the needy lover. are you sure this is the right relationship for you? think it over.
2007-04-28 09:35:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry but no...many statistics show that the relationship that results from one cheating on spouse almost never last. If he were a good man, he would have gotten a divorce first if he felt he had to and then begin dating. You are the dreaded "other woman" no matter how you cut it.
2007-05-05 23:01:14 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is lying to you, otherwise if he loved you he would want to have you in his home.
He is a selfish inconsiderate greedy pig. Both you and his wife deserve better. I know that hurts, but I'm sure that deep down you already know that. Ask yourself what is it that you love about him and do you really love him or are you lonely?
Move on you will find someone better and more deserving of you.
2007-05-06 00:30:52 · answer #8 · answered by holly 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i got a knot in my stomach reading your question. something doesn't feel right about it. There are two possibilities:
1: he is still married and not telling the truth about it.
2: he IS getting divorced, but he is having second thoughts about the two of you being together.
There is one more possibility that i just thought of:
He IS getting a divorce and is seeing someone else behind YOUR back. check it out. something is just not right.
2007-05-04 22:38:39 · answer #9 · answered by cactus bloom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get away from him as fast as you can, RUN, don't walk!!
He is obviously lying to you, and it will NOT work out with you guys!!
I know it's hard, and I'm sorry... But it'll hurt worse the longer you wait to end it...
2007-05-02 09:18:36 · answer #10 · answered by PrettyMama982 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋