I have a good friend and co-worker who is overweight and not very attractive. She could be pretty if she took more care of her appearance, but she does not brush her teeth, comb her hair, or wear nice, clean clothes. It's one thing when we're chit-chatting at work, but she is always pushing for me to go out with her, for margaritas after work, or to the casino. To be honest, I am embarrased to go out with her. I did go out with her once, and it was so ackward for both of us... the guys were all hitting on me and barely noticing her, even though she is single and I am married (and I had my wedding ring on, of course!) It is not a question of money since we both make the same salary... I think she is just clueless! I tried to help her to change but she said - this is who I am. Does anyone have a friend like this? Am I shallow to be embarrased to be seen with her? What would you do in these circumstances?
2007-04-28 09:19:15 · 17 answers · asked by kallista 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
if she told you that's how she is, respect her for who she is. Be honest with her and yourself about your friendship. if you are embarrass by her don't go out with her, cut your loss. maybe she is going through somethings or maybe she feel that there's noting wrong. How about you pick a outfit for her and give her a care package. bottom line try to be a friend to her and talk to her without hurting her feelings.
2007-04-28 09:28:22 · answer #1 · answered by Sheeda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are not shallow, its natural to feel like that! get really close to her and then bring up - LETS HAVE A SLEEPOVER! kind of thing and during the sleepover pertend to be really really bored and then go I KNOW WHAT WOULD BE FUN! LETS GIVE EACH OTHER MAKE OVERS! and boom, now you can do her hair, teeth and anything else, then at the end say, thatnk for a wonderfull time oh! and i bought you this! and get her some new clean pretty clothes. then she will probably buy you stuff, then start coming over and "helping her organize because you have always wanted to be a designer" and she will pick up on, how this is for her own good!
2007-04-28 09:25:18 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why on earth would you want to hang out with someone who has no idea what cleanliness is? Poor personal hygiene is NEVER excusable! I could never enjoy the company of someone like that because I would be afraid to touch her. She must smells!
And what sort of workplace is that where brushing one's teeth and combing one's hair are an option? By the way, I do hope you do not eat anything from such a nasty person!
2007-04-28 09:33:21 · answer #3 · answered by LovablyMe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are shallow. If you really were her friend, you wouldn't care what she looks like- therefore, stop calling her a "good friend." Secondly, you are NO better then her so don't make it seem like such a chore to go out with her. And personally, I can't say what I would do under those circumstances because I don't consider anyone "ugly," especially my so-called friend and I would never be embarrased to go out with anyone. Sorry if I'm too harsh- just telling the truth.
2007-04-28 09:27:04 · answer #4 · answered by bizzigirl2000 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-10 13:56:06 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is lacking in basic hygiene, don't confuse that with ugly. Print this question out and show it to her. Brushing your teeth twice a day is a must, so is combing your hair and washing your clothes. I would tell her, no I won't go out with you and this is why. Being clean is not changing your personality, it's being clean.
2007-04-28 09:23:20 · answer #6 · answered by maigen_obx 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
No you shouldn't be embarrassed to not want to be seen with her. She should be the one embarrassed. If someone does not care enough to clean up and make themselves presentable, then I wouldn't care to go out in public with her either. If I had to look at someone who does not care enough to brush their teeth, that just makes me sick to think about it. People always associate you, right or wrong, with whom you are with.
2007-04-28 09:23:20 · answer #7 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
well maybe in someway you can try to change her so that she would have good personal hygiene (withougt trying to hurt her feelings) for example getting her clothes that are clean and telling her that she would look great in it. Just try to set a good example that is not too obvious but so she can get it.
2007-04-28 09:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by The Dreamer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your not a good friend to call her ugly and not want to spend time with her.. beauty is in the inside
and yes you are shallow
2007-04-28 09:29:11 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Sabre♥ 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is happy with herself so get over it.You are the one with a problem not her.If you dont want to hang out with her then dont!You should always respect people regardless of their personal appearance.If she is your friend and you like her then you should like her for who she is and not how she looks.
2007-04-28 09:38:40 · answer #10 · answered by p.bidlingmaier 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋