neither one of us wants to get married again and we both have kids.. We have been talking of trying to live together over the summer when he doesn't work, professor.
We care about each other but I am scared of getting hurt again. My family lives far away and I have no friends in town I am living in. Am here cause of my ex.
My boyfriend willing to move here for me. What should I be doing/looking into.
2007-04-28 08:42:38 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well, please dont judge all future relationships on previous bad ones. Because not all men are going to hurt you, I promise. Try living together and see what happens, because that's really all you can do to find out! Make sure for your kids sake that this is something you are ready to forge ahead with. If you dont want to jump right into living together maybe he can get a place in the town that you live and you guys can date and see if it grows into cohabitation...I wish you luck, be positive, this could be the one!
2007-04-28 08:47:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think living together before commiting to marriage is a great idea. The only thing I would worry about is your children. Depending on their ages (his children AND yours) this can be a risky change. Moving in together just to break up a month later can affect your children badly, especially since they've already been through your first divorce.
Living together and being married is the same thing to kids. The only difference is one has a piece of paper and some tax breaks and the other is paper-less....but who really stands around staring at a marriage license??
So your not wanting to get married means nothing if you plan to live with him. It's the SAME thing.
Just make sure you're not hurting your children if you arent' sure this is going to work.
2007-04-28 08:47:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you have to remember this no matter what you do:
Love as though you've never been hurt because in all essence that's what love is. It's taking a risk, stepping out on faith and saying to yourself, "Yes I could get hurt." But what should keep you fueling is the idea that you might not get hurt. The two of you have both been through marriages. That means you know what you want and what you don't know. After a marriage you should be able to understand the importance of communication. You cannot be afraid of love. Take this chance because you only get one life. Wouldn't it be a shame to let love pass you by?
2007-04-28 08:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, if you truly like him and you get along (the most important part), give it a try for the summer. Just make sure he still keeps his place, wherever he is at, just in case it turns out to be a bum idea. Tell him it is a trial basis for the summer to see if you and he as well as your and his children get along. Then go from there. Baby steps. Take one day at a time.
2007-04-28 08:49:57 · answer #4 · answered by The ONE and ONLY 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just make sure to be open with him, and tell him that you have both had rocky pasts and it could be hard to live with someone else now. I think its the right thing to do, trying to live together before making a big commitment.
Good luck
2007-04-28 08:47:05 · answer #5 · answered by Brittney U 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say if your too scared dont do it. Never do something you're unsure of. But on the other hand being scared is ok and a part of life. But it shouldnt stop you from living life the fullest!
2007-04-28 08:46:37 · answer #6 · answered by Nicolette R 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stay friends for right now but if he moves to your town,spend a wknd with him and see how it works try it so everyoften until you can make up your mind about being hurt again also stay in contact with your family.
2007-04-28 09:03:51 · answer #7 · answered by capricorn-saturn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just don`t get pregnant again right away and enjoy each others company.
2007-04-28 08:46:49 · answer #8 · answered by Heads up! 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Look into your heart and your experience. Are you willing to take a chance? No guarantees!
2007-04-28 08:46:16 · answer #9 · answered by luckford2004 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can try to live together and that is just fine . These days many people just live together anyway
2007-04-28 08:46:14 · answer #10 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋