My hubby and I have been together since 10th grade in highschool and we are always together. Now his job is taking him away from me. He will be gone Mon thru Fri and home on weekends but OH MY GOD Im alrady scrying and I cant stop. He is in my heart-my blood- I breathe for him and him alone and now Ill be without him 5 days a week every week for the next 4 months. I feel like Im dying inside. Pacing the floors-crying-talking to myself! GOD what do I do???? Im sooo lost wihout him. Ive never felt so much pain in all my life
2007-04-28 07:45:07 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
first off this could be a healthy thing it sounds like you are way dependent on him. i understand loving someone so much that you dont want to be apart take this opportunity to be self suffiefient it will make you a stronger person. and just think of the fireworks when he gets home it will make you love him more.
2007-04-28 07:54:13 · answer #1 · answered by twinkle2twinkle 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Relaxxx... breathe in... breathe out....
He will be home every weekend for the next 4 months so make those the best weekends ever. You have 5 days a week for the next 4 months to yourself so you can take up a hobby or do something you've always wanted to do. Redecorate the house, take a dance class... something fun! Don't sit around and mope, keep yourself busy! (but not too busy!) It's hard but you can do it. Can he call you everyday while he's gone? Set up a time for a nightly phone call on the days he's not home. Don't worry, this time away can be a good thing for you. You will be proud of your new found self-reliance and he will be proud to know his wife is a strong woman! You can do it!
2007-04-28 08:10:00 · answer #2 · answered by mrs. lady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
My husband has recently taken a job 7/7 and I too love my husband but time apart is also good. We have 3 small children and he helps me alot with them and I am also missing my husband too. Find yourself a good hobby while he is gone or just spend some time with a good friend of yours. At least he will be home a small percent of the time and it is only for 4 months. Think of yourself as blessed. You could be like these women whose husband have been gone for years now fighting what seems to be an endless war. Enjoy the time the 2 of you have together and don't dwell on what your going to do while he is gone. Besides if you love each other that much then just think how much more anxious you will be when you 2 are finally together.
2007-04-28 07:55:28 · answer #3 · answered by christy1001 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You are overreacting. I know that sounds harsh, but pull yourself together before you ruin your relationship and yourself. Take time to get to know yourself while he is away and spend time with friends, family, or other people. Volunteer or get a hobby or a second job. Whatever you do, don't cry. Things could be much worse. There are so many things in life one could go crazy for, but once you are crazy and can't turn back ,you know nothing is worth the loss of yourself. The pain is temporary and once you get used to the new changes, you may feel embarassed or ashamed at having overreacted. Stop now before it is too late.
2007-04-28 08:51:53 · answer #4 · answered by oh really 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only home on weekends makes for a bad marriage. I know how you must feel. I hope this is just a temporary job.This will drive you crazy and lead to depression. You should try going with him and see how that works. In the meantime, stay busy. Get involved with friends. Go places. Don't sit home and just think about him. Make a life for yourself without him while he is gone. There is nothing wrong with that.
2007-04-28 07:55:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jodi 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dry the tears. You're not losing him; he's going to be working for his family. Take those few months to do something for yourself that you haven't had the time to do. What do you enjoy? Sewing, reading, tennis, painting, re-decorating, browsing antique shops, watching funny movies? Think about how nice it will be when he gets back. It will be like a honeymoon! If I were you, I'd be on the lake fishing every day.
2007-04-28 07:51:41 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
does your friend hate you? or does he not love you or care about you... cuz there is no reason for you to feel sorry if he doesnt hate you... well even if he hates you... you dont have to be sorry... cuz its your life and you have to think about yourself at first! sounds selfish but unfortunately you cant be good to your partner if you dont do that. I was crazy for my girl friend. I did everything she wants. I didnt say no for anything and now she's totally bored. no matter how much you love the other one you have to see the limits and you have to use your logic as much as you use your heart.
sounds difficult but remember people are killing each other for money or fun. we r livin in a such a bad world and as long as you know that your friend is healthy and happy then you have to be happy...
try and dont think about it too hard! it makes everything worse.
good luck...
x
2007-04-28 08:02:51 · answer #7 · answered by white crow 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You don't mention how old you are, what kind of work it is, or if you have kids. Why would he take a job so far? Are there plans for you to move with him soon? If my hubby or I was moving for a job the other would be going also.
2007-04-28 07:49:51 · answer #8 · answered by pinniethewooh 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seems like you grew up in an ivory tower. Learn to grow up and live in a practical world
2007-04-28 08:00:58 · answer #9 · answered by Sir Richard 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you need to have time apart. You need to live for you, not for any one person. become independant, and enjoy the time that he is home with you. It definitely will be tough at first, but you will adjust.
2007-04-28 07:50:29 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋