is he ever going to be ready for marriage?

Question

i am 25 he 50 i am in love with him we live together i want to marry him i asked him he said hes not ready he says he loves me am i doing something wrong

Answer 1

I don't think that he will marry you because he is getting everything right now that he wants without getting married. Sounds to me like he has no incentive to go ahead and get married. 25years is a big age difference and he might be very set in his ways-you will need to decide if you want to stay with the things the way they are or to leave. If he thinks that he is losing you and see how much you want to get married he may do it to keep you and to make you happy

Answer 2

I think you have picked a man who will never marry. That is not the end of the world...just get some kind of legal protection as in living trusts, solid wills, etc., especially if you are sharing expenses and have joint investments. IF he has any family, be very careful, for all you have could be jerked out from under you if the legal issues are not concrete. Don't be so eager to marry...this guy probably does not want to have children at his age. IF you do, then perhaps you should consider moving on and forward with your life. IF you do not have the need for children, legal contracts are all that is necessary...why screw up a good thing? Marriage is no guarantee of security, that is for sure, and often, it ruins perfectly good relationships. Step back, take a good look, determine what you NEED, and go for it. IF he is unwilling to secure your future should he or you die, then he is not as committed as you would like. Good luck

Answer 3

Boy, are you ever making life easy for this guy! If he's not ready at 50, that's a big red flag! The only thing you're doing wrong is hanging with a guy that doesn't want to marry you. Either kick him out the door or you walk out the door. Tell him that unless/until he is ready to commit to you and get married, he is not to contact you in any way. Tell him IF he ever decides to marry you, to look you up and if you're free and still want him, you can talk then. But for now, it's GOOD-BYE TIME!!!

Answer 4

He will never be ready sweetie. He has existed for 50 years which is a big difference from 25 years. He already knows what he wants in life and that's just to take it easy and date. You need someone much younger who has the same youthful vision as yourself. I used to think the older the guy the more you will have in common in terms of goals-it's NOT THE CASE AT ALL. I wouldn't go past 35 at your age anymore. I am 26 yrs old by the way and i am involved with a great 27 yr old man who wants marriage and kids. Please move on and don't waste the best decade of your life.

Answer 5

Probably not, he's just not ready to be legally bound to you. Has he been married before? Did those marriages end badly? Then that's probably your answer. Give him time and if he doesn't want to marry you and you feel you need to get married, then maybe you should re-evaluate your relationship.

Answer 6

"Run, Forrest, Run......" a 50 year old man who isn't ready? Give me a break. He is getting all his needs met, why would he want to get married? I think you can do better........

Answer 7

50 WOW. I HOPE YOU DON'T WANT TO HAVE KIDS WITH HIM IF YOU DON'T ALREADY. IF HE AS BEEN MARRIED BEFORE HE MAY BE SCARED OF THE COMMITMENT AGAIN. YOU ARE VERY YOUNG COMPARED TO HIM SO WATCH OUT FOR THAT.

Answer 8

first you should not be wit a 50 year old you can do better than dat iz ur age

Answer 9

You're not doing something wrong. He was never interested in marriage.

If you still are, look elsewhere.

Answer 10

he should consider himself a lucky man