I have been nursing him since day 1 and we are planning on starting on number 2. I want my body to be as healthy as can be and I want the new one to be as healthy as possible. I am slowly weaning from twice a day to once a day. I really enjoy that time together. I know I can get that time by just holding him just not the same. Any suggestions? Thanks for the help.
2007-04-28 07:07:44 · 15 answers · asked by Autumn 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
i didn't nurse my son as long, but i remember when i began weaning him I felt like he "didn't need me anymore." I know that isn't true, but that is what I felt. Your emotions are totally normal so don't worry. Try and spend as much time with him as possible and give him lots of hugs and kisses! It will get better!
2007-04-28 07:26:44 · answer #1 · answered by amber 18 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
It is very, very normal to feel sad about weaning your child. The act of breastfeeding is certainly about more than merely feeding your child. It is about something deeply emotional and intimate.
Not to be nosey, but why wean him at all? I nursed my daughter throughout my second pregnancy and now nurse the two of them together. My son was born big, healthy and full-term and my daughter did not suffer one bit from the lowered milk supply during my pregnancy (she just ate more other foods). I gained normally (and I'm vegetarian), and lost the baby weight in a reasonable amount of time. It is believed by a majority of modern health practitioners to be safe for mother and children. It is a bit of a commitment, but not as difficult or time-consuming as you might think. There are books out on nursing throughout your pregnancy, and tandem nursing, one I recommend is, "Adventures in Tandem Nursing" by Hilary Flower. I feel that doing this has helped enhance not only my relationship with my children, but also their relationship with each other.
If you do decide to continue to wean him, perhaps you can find other ways that allow you that quiet closeness that you get while nursing. Maybe baths together, or baby massage. Read him books and lay down with him during his naps. Take time to slow down together, enjoying nature and this precious time when he's so small.
Good luck, and all the best!
2007-04-28 07:24:35 · answer #2 · answered by Vara 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I'm going through the same thing with my 14 month old right now. I just rock her, sing to her, kiss her and lie down. When she wakes up in the middle of the night I kiss her and let her know I'm there then lie her back down and leave the room. I do this every 10 minutes she continues crying. It's been about a week and she only cries during the middle of the night now. I can lie her down for naps and bedtime without much fuss and not nursing.
2016-05-20 23:47:36 · answer #3 · answered by shawnee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's wonderful to hear that you've nursed for 13 mos. and sure it is normal to feel sadness during weaning as it is a huge transition for both mom and baby.
Maybe feeling sad is also a signal that it's too soon to wean... Many mother's do nurse while pregnant and then tandem nurse the toddler and newborn once the new baby comes. If you wish to explore this option, please see the link below.
Good luck!
2007-04-28 07:30:13 · answer #4 · answered by doula 2 · 5⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's normal to feel sad about weaning no matter how old the child is. Nursing is a special connection between the two of you.
If you are interested in learning more, many mothers DO nurse through pregnancy. As long as you are gaining weight when you get PG and have no complications, it's FINE.
To learn more:
http://www.nursingtwo.com
2007-04-28 07:13:20 · answer #5 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 6⤊ 1⤋
A lot of moms do enjoy that bonding. It is normal to feel a little sad. Instead of doing that try playing with him or holding him while he drinks out of a cup.
2007-04-28 07:11:29 · answer #6 · answered by Steph 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is perfectly normal to feel sad about weaning your son from breastfeeding, its a natural bonding experience theres nothing wrong with that.
Now that he is 13 mos old its time to give him a cuppy and teach him how to drink from that ( if he hasn't learned yet), don't worry you will be fine and so will he.
2007-04-28 07:14:37 · answer #7 · answered by SARAH C 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes Autumn, it's very normal and in fact, it's documented in medical literature. When you stop nursing, there is the loss of that bond, but also, your hormones change.
I was also very sad when I stopped nursing my daughter. It is a loss and it is normal to grieve that connection.
Good luck.
Sarah
2007-04-28 07:15:35 · answer #8 · answered by Sarah N 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes. is the closeness you have and is the special time you to share.Is a good thing you are doing now start doing some other thing with him so that when the second baby comes you can enjoy the closeness with that baby too.
2007-04-28 14:38:01 · answer #9 · answered by BabyTaker16 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You enjoyed the closeness of nursing. There is really nothing more special but it is time to move to the next stage. It is ok to feel sad as your children move on, but you want to temper that with happiness that you gave them the best and they can move on and grow. Just remember it is your job to help them grow to the next stage. You want them to be independent for their own good. They will still love you, just in new ways.
2007-04-28 07:13:19 · answer #10 · answered by kk 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋