I am also being charged 2 years back child support. Is it right to be pentalized for having a child you were denied knowing for 14 years, does the mother have any responsibity to let the father know of this birth and should she be rewarded for this deception? I only found out because she is now in need of public assistant because she married a known child molester that molested my child? Her mother has allowed her to have sex and is now pregnant, they live in another state and have had no chance to see or give her any guidence? Does the child support stay in effect and can I fight the back child support?
2007-04-28 07:03:28 · 14 answers · asked by renorocks@sbcglobal.net 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
PS: I have done the DNA and yes she is my daughter paying current child support is not the issue.
2007-04-28 08:31:41 · update #1
Disregard the last answer, that was really rude.
I feel that you have a huge standing in court with this. I was a paralegal and I am now a probation officer. You have to show that you were never informed of a pregnancy or birth.
You never ever knew you had a child and never had a hint. Is there a birth certificate with your name on it? has there been paternity done? If no paternity tests have been, have one done. What says she is yours? Word of mouth doesnt count because lots of women dont know or lie. I see this all the time. YOu can deffinately fight this.....get a good lawyer and fight it. you cannot be held liable for a child that was not existent and that you were never made aware of. That would be like paying a fine for a car that isnt yours or that was supposed to be junked in the junk yard and you thought it was but the junk yard owner never junked the title.....you cant be held resonsible for something you had no knowledge of. You may have to pay current support, if paternity is established, but not back support. Youd be really smart to do dna testing, incase she isnt yours at all. Good luck on this...may god bless you.
2007-04-28 07:10:28 · answer #1 · answered by College~~Bound 3 · 5⤊ 0⤋
I don't think either Sexy Belizean or Judy would care if the shoe was on the other foot. If they had a daughter and the father didn't take responsibility they would be angry, I take it that they probably would be the type not to tell the man he has a child so they responded like they did. If I were you I would insist on a DNA test before paying anything including current support. After watching many shows where the girl was sure it was the guy and come to find out it wasn't according to DNA testing and they didn't know who the father of their child was. It's sad women play games such as this and then abuse the children or allow the abuse to occur. If you find that the child isn't yours I would hope that you would sue her mother for all costs you incur and ask the court for mental anguish too. This is hurtful to the father being accused and sometimes can be costly to prove paternity.
2007-04-28 08:09:31 · answer #2 · answered by Georgia Preacher 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know the situation sucks but yes they can charge you back child support. It sounds like it the state that wants their money back. You are lucky because the mom can actually sue you for back child support since day 1 of the birth. If I were you I would be suing for child custody. Obviously this women is not a fit mother. Allowing her husband to molest your daughter, and then allowing a 14 year to have sex with her boyfriend and is now pregnant. Not to mention that she is on public assistance. You may just win full custody and if that works than you will only have to pay the back support. You will not have to pay future support. But just be careful of what you wish for. You will be getting a 15 year daughter and a grandchild.
2007-04-28 07:10:42 · answer #3 · answered by GEE-GEE 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
"does the mother have any responsibity to let the father know of this birth and should she be rewarded for this deception?" And what was wrong with YOU that you couldn't have kept in touch with the mother to begin with? Or are you the type that once you have sex with them you dump them? I see no indication that the mother deceived you about having a child, she simply didn't tell you...you had just as much of an obligation to stay in touch with her as she did with you...why did YOU drop the ball? That is exactly what you're going to be told if you try to fight the back child support.
2007-04-28 08:24:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow shes out of control... the only thing you can really do is to see if her crazy *** will actually do something like that. If all that is true I would think a judge would have some sympathy for you. May be you should atleast seek counsel for some advice. All that stuff she accused you of in the past will not hold up in court bc there are no charges brought against you. Try to find anything that will stand by your side of the story and confirm that she has issues. im sorry thats terrible and you may not want to hear this but you really should have pursued somthing when the baby was born if you really wanted to be that child's father. Its going to be a rough road if she does try to take you to court... good luck
2016-05-20 23:47:12 · answer #5 · answered by shawnee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all have you been contacted by official courts? Most states would declare that you gave up your child after not being in contact for so long. If you never knew about the child than I see no reason to have to pay back support for her. Second you could sign away your rights as a parent/guardian and not have anything to do with her. I would contact a lawyer who deals with this kind of thing and get to know your options! Good luck!
2007-04-28 07:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Kristina B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Since you are paying child support, you have an opportunity to get some or all custody. This happened to my brother in law. I would suggest however to first get a paternity test, if it is just the child support you are worried about. If not, go to a lawyer and tell him your story. They will be able to help you get custody, and you will be able to get your child out of a very dangerous situation. Do it now, especially since your child seems to need you now more than ever. be prepared for some backlash of emotion from your daughter. She has probibly been told that you don't want her or that it is your fault that she is in this situation. Get her some counceling and love her. Also if you get custody, i'm not positive about this and it depends on the state, but they can't force you to pay child suport if she is with you. Good luck, and I really hope you are asking this to get her out of the situation and not to get out of paying child suport.
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Try and make time to go and see her at least once, that way she can understand that you are there for her. IF you absolutly can't, call her. you do have that right now if you are paying child support.
2007-04-28 07:20:51 · answer #7 · answered by ayla_2114 3 · 4⤊ 0⤋
No it's not right for you to pay for a child you knew nothing about. The mother has a right to inform you that you have a daughter before you pay any child support. Get a lawyer and take her to court and explain the situation to a judge. Hopefully you won't be required to pay child support anymore.
2007-04-28 09:31:41 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I doubt that you'll have much luck fighting the back support. Although, getting a lawyer will really be your only way of knowing for sure. While you may feel penalized, don't forget that you're not the only one who has missed out. Your daughter also missed out on a solid (hopefully) father figure in her life, and she's now paying the price. Its an unfortunate situation, I guess you just have to leave the door open for your daughter to get to know you in the future.
2007-04-28 07:10:59 · answer #9 · answered by Heather Y 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you need is a lawyer who knows the applicable laws. People here are not experts, and even when they've encountered similar situations, the laws in your particular case might apply a little differently.
2007-04-28 10:34:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋