A month ago I had a miscarriage and had a d&c. I was 9 weeks pregnant...just really good used to the feeling that I was pregnant and everything. I had fallen down the stairs and a week later I was bleeding. The doctor had told me everything was fine. But anyways....
Now it seems like everyone is pregnant. Three friends from high school have due dates right around when I was due in November. Three people at work are pregnant. And now...my best friend is pregnant. I'm so happy for her, but I just feel so sad. It's hard to listen to her sometimes...it just makes me sad hearing her talk about it.
Is there anyway I can try to put my feelings behind me and stop feeling so sad and left out around these people?
2007-04-28 06:37:22 · 10 answers · asked by Jenn 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
It takes time. Just dont let your left out feelings turn into anger and resentment because that is bad for you and your friends. If you feel like you need to talk about it call up your mom or a friend you know will listen who is not pregnant and vent to her, feeling sad and left out is normal and it doesnt make you bad or any less happy for your friends it just means you are still sad. Dont let the feelings build up, accept that you have a right to feel sad and in time you will heal and feel less sad around young babies and pregnant women.
2007-04-28 06:46:24 · answer #1 · answered by Shell 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your feelings are absolutely normal. Unfortunately, if you want to spend your life closed up at home and not come out until after November, you will continue to see and work with these people, and yes it will hurt. As their pg's progress you will think about what it could have been like for you. And you will feel more isolated because as their pregancies advance, the more attention they will get. And worse of all, people will say some of the stupidest things to you regarding your loss. I suggest that during this time, you not contain your feelings, however you have the right to bow out of any conversations or events that make you feel uncomfortable. What you might want to do is join a support group, either in person or online. There you will find people who have been there, done that, and you will be amazed that what you think and feel is being experienced with many other people. How do I know? I have an "Angel Baby" myself, born 4 days after my birthday, and lived only 1.5 hours. Hang in there.
2007-04-28 14:35:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can relate to your situation. Just remember that one miscarriage does not mean that you're doomed to be childless. I have had one and have known that sad feeling when everyone around you seems to be having babies. Don't try to suppress those feelings or it will just make it worse. You can change the subject or just explain to your friends that you are so happy for them but that you're in a bad place right now and would rather talk about something else. The other option is just to excuse yourself from the conversation. Best of luck to you when you're ready to try again. It took me 2 years to be ready and now we are actually expecting. I hope that the next one will be successful for you. I'm sorry for your loss.
2007-04-28 13:46:12 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
its ok to feel sad about these kind of things. this may happen to a lot of people, its definetelt not your fault you fell down the stairs, that was just an accident. Maybe try for another baby soon? If you're really upset, I suggest talking to a counselor or therapist of some kind, they will help with your pregnancy and miscarriage problems. Again, very sorry to hear about what happened. Hope I helped.
2007-04-28 13:42:54 · answer #4 · answered by Alisha A 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a miscarriage last summer adn I know how you feel. Only I didn't have a d&p. I ended up havign to bring my deceased fetus to the hospital. So I know its not easy. It took me a long time to get over it. But i was lucky enough to accidentally get pregnant a few months later. I still think about it though. But remember its not your fault that you had it. There could have been somethign wrong with the fetus and was God's way of telling you that its better to have a miscarriage than to have you and your child suffer for his/her life. I was lucky enough my mom and husband were so very supportive. If your close enough with your mom talk to her. Most women who have children, have experienced a miscarriage at one point of conceiving in their lives. Tiem will help heal you and talk talk talk. You'll get better over time. Good luck hun!!!
2007-04-28 13:58:06 · answer #5 · answered by Haley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i had a miscarriage and found out the day before i was scheduled to hear the heart beat and i was so upset and felt like i would never get preg. again and the week after i had m/c my friend found out she was preg. which i know it was wrong but it mad me very mad and jeolous but 3 months later i was preg. again so what iam trying to say is your feelings are normal about your friend and all you can do is relize that god has a reason for everthing that happens in our lives and keep trying cause nothing makes the pain of a m/c better like finding out you get a 2nd chance. so sorry for your lose and hope everything starts looking up very soon.
2007-04-28 13:47:43 · answer #6 · answered by capricornmommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that. the same thing happen to twice this year. I know is hard to forget and specially when you have people around that's pregnant, remember everything happens for a reason, just think positive and that later you're gonna get pregnant again. hope you feel better. good luck
2007-04-28 13:47:28 · answer #7 · answered by Jorge&Daisy M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, Try to be happy for others. You will have another chance. There are reasons unknown for miscarriage and it may have had nothing to do with the fall. Don't blame yourself. Good luck.
2007-04-28 13:48:30 · answer #8 · answered by Jan C 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh my god! We are in the same boat! I am going through the same thing.. but I didn't fall. I know how you feel. But no one understands how I feel.. They just keep saying.. things will be okay.. you'll be fine.. blah...blah...blah... there are times where I just wanna cry.. I have my days... I was due Nov 5th.. Wishing you the best of luck... I know this sounds weird.. but let me know if you need to talk! Tiffany :)
2007-05-02 11:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how you feel but you just have bear with it and your time will come for you to get pg again. I know its hard cuz i have been ttc for a while now and just like you its hard to see people pg. And my friend just got pg and it hurt my feelings. But it ok. So you will be ok. Just pray to god. Youe time will come and you know what when it comes your going to be the only one out of your friends that is pg. Than it will be all about you.
2007-04-28 13:46:11 · answer #10 · answered by belle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋