i was reading through another members answers that he had given, saying men dont stray if woman give them sex and respect to there man? Why? What about being 50/50 in a relationship, i am in a relationship where i have to keep my man happy constanly as i was a doormat when we first got together. I am tired of it now, its like my feelings dont matter why is this?
2007-04-28 06:29:39 · 28 answers · asked by LAURA C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Oh no...make your self happy and not the man!! It will never work honey! You have to be happy and secure yourself, take care of yourself and true love will follow.
2007-04-28 06:32:50 · answer #1 · answered by girly girl 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That comment you read was from a man who doesnt understand, know, appreciate or respect women. Just ignore it, it's one arrogant person's opinion and not all men are like that. If you are in a relationship where you feel your feelings don't matter and you feel 'tired of it' then in short you are in the wrong relationship with the wrong man. After I had a miscarriage i didn't want sex for a year and a half and my boyfriend never once complained and constantly told me how gorgeous I was to him, how much he loved me and how much more important our emotional life was. He said only positive things and supported me 100% through all of my difficulties although i was moody and unwell and terrible to live with. THAT is love and respect. You obviously know the answer deep down - its 50/50 in a relationship. You need to leave this man, spend time single while you build your self esteem and a wonderful life of your own and then find a man who beleives in the 50/50 rule too. You can do it. Don't believe all the rubbish you read on Yahoo Answers.
2007-04-28 07:31:04 · answer #2 · answered by Sarah H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, the other guy isn't correct. Men DO STRAY even if the woman gives him sex and respect. That is why many women are so completely shocked when they find out their man is having an affair. Donald Trump was probably off banging soon-to-be wife #4 before the ink on the marriage certificate was wet.
You are correct that the relationship should be 50/50. And it does happen, but not as often as one would hope.
2007-04-28 06:37:59 · answer #3 · answered by CarbonDated 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship should not be 50/50. It should be 100/100. Plus if a the idea of sex is the only thing that is going to hold the relationship together. Both sides need to get their acts together. Their needs to be respect, understanding, support, love is good too, compassion, mutual meaning and (this is one of the major keys) friendship. And what other part. Both should have a solid relationship with God through Christ. I know several people will disagree with that last part. But I really don't care. All I know is that it works.
2007-04-28 06:37:42 · answer #4 · answered by is4031_us 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A relationship is NOT supposed to be 50/50. It should be 110/110. If he gives 110% and she gives 110% then it will work. If not, then it won't work. If he wants to be kept happy, he should keep you happy, too. I am in the same situation and trying to figure out how to get out of it in a way that no one gets hurt. As long as he is happy, then he sees no problem and can't understand why I am miserable. He was raised that way, though. He was raised to believe that the woman always does what the man says and expects. If she works out of the house she still has to do the house work, laundry, cleaning, etc. I told him if that was what he wanted then I would quit my job and be full time in the house, but as long as I was working, he was going to help. Nothing changed. Even though he told me he wanted this and that out of a relationship and home life, he is doing the exact opposite.
2007-04-28 06:39:22 · answer #5 · answered by sassynsweet1221 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I agree it should be 50/50 and its just not men doing it its woman also my ex was the same i just got fed up and got a divorce . For some reason in most relations one always feel that they have to rule the other whether it be man or woman .Woman call it being a door mat men call it nagging but its all the same
2007-04-28 06:39:24 · answer #6 · answered by dad 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you were a doormat your feelings haven't mattered to him since the start, you probably thought that if you were really good to him and showed concern for his happiness that he would show you the same consideration in return. That has not happened. Get him out of your life. Love yourself and have enough respect for yourself to understand that he doesn't deserve someone as tender and kind as you are. Since your feelings don't matter to him, he absolutely does not love you. Don't keep bringing yourself down by remaining in this relationship. Toughen up, straighten that backbone and show the love for yourself that you have been wasting on him.
2007-04-28 08:13:58 · answer #7 · answered by Dinabill 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you don't mind this answer comes from a 50 year old man, who is a widower.
No woman should have to be a door mat. whether it is in a relationship, or marriage. My wife died in a car accident, at the age of 49. She was my life. We were married 33 years, and each others BEST FRIEND, not only LOVERS.
Today no one wants to stay together. It is GIVE ME, GIVE ME.
I answer these questions in the hope that someone out their will listen with their HEART, and move on. There is someone out their that will treat you like you need to be treated, with respect, and love.
2007-04-28 06:46:06 · answer #8 · answered by lariat_sonata 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Relationships should be 50/50 it makes for a much better relationship! But, as with all things relationship have their players and roles...sometimes people get caught up in the roles and try to take on more responsibility to keep the relationship going.
2007-04-28 06:34:17 · answer #9 · answered by Challenge 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I completely disagree with the statement made by that guy.
People all cheat for different reasons. Some are very happily married yet have a fling or two on the side. Some are unhappy and do not cheat.
I honestly think that if a guy is going to cheat, he'll do it anyway.
2007-04-28 06:33:51 · answer #10 · answered by Мəəĸά 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you really love someone you want to make them happy. Not feel like you have to.
My husband and I always do things for one another just to see each other smile.
I also do a lot for him. His laundry, I make dinner for him at night, get his favorite wine , make him lunch etc. I love doing things for him. It is never a chore.
A relationship is never 50/50. It always goes up and down.
Let him know the things you do for him and see what he says. Men can be to quiet sometimes and just gently remind him.
2007-04-28 07:19:51 · answer #11 · answered by Ann 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋